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Vent
I have been completely MIA lately, but the little man has been keeping me quite busy.
Speaking of unpopular opinions, I have one. I usually just let things go, but this has been driving me nuts. Nobody on here feel like this directed at you, because it is just a general statement since I know a lot of ladies who are currently pregnant (IRL).
I am sick of hearing people b!tch about their pregnancy every.single.day. Yes, an occasional complaint is completely expected, but not daily. What do you expect? You have a human in you. Did you expect it to feel great?
This might sound bad, but I have to say it. Most people complaining are those who had good pregnancies, little bellies and/or no swelling. You should be thanking the pregnancy Gods! With getting pre-e, I swelled like a 400 lb lady (see FB pics) by 32 weeks and every step felt like my skin was going to rip open. Did it suck? Yes. Did I complain non stop? No. Because that is life and b!tching about it wasn't going to make my BP go down and the swelling go away.
Okay, I'm done. Anyone else feel free to vent here.
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Also, I have no idea why I have a pregnant avatar. It is not some subliminal hint or anything
ETA: Okay, it went away.
I agree and I will expand that to bitching about anything every.single.day. I have some FB friends who complain daily about their job, kids, etc. No one's life is perfect but the whining HAS to stop ! I have started to block the constant complainers.
With just pregnancy stuff in general, there's a person on my FB feed (old hs friend) that complains daily about her pregnancy. I'm sure that being 30+ weeks is no walk in the park but literally every day her status is something about how she just wants the baby out already and complaining about it in general. With the amount of complaining she does, you'd think she was overdue but she still has several weeks left. One example, she said : "Nope, no baby yet. Please, baby, get out of my stomach!" Like I said, I don't expect it to be very comfortable but if you must complain, please don't complain to the whole FB world and don't do it daily.
Dx: Hashimoto's Hypothyroidism After 2 years TTC & failed IUs,we have our IVF baby born 9/24/11
LO#2 aka 'Miracle Baby' Orig. EDD= 9/28 EDD moved to 10/3/13
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
Kelly -- I toooootally ditto you on everything you just said (welcome back, BTW - you have been missed!). I'm also going to piggyback that with people who complain about their labor and how it may not have turned out how they wanted it to, how horrible and miserable it was, etc... ok, I get it. I've been there. Labor sucks, and yeah, it def. sucks for some more than others (says the one who was only in labor for 8 hours BUT suffered through 4 fulls days of early labor pains), but honestly, at the end of the day, shouldn't all that matters be that you have a happy and healthy child, and that you yourself are happy and healthy to enjoy it??? UGH!!!
Also - people who CONSTANTLY complain about Mondays being Mondays. Yes. We get it. You don't want to be back at work. You're tired from the weekend. You can't focus. Blah Blah Blah....
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This, exactly. I know pregnancy isn't always puppies and rainbows, but the constant comments and complaints are like stab wounds to the gut. I would LOVE to be uncomfortable if it meant I was having a healthy baby soon.
Congrats to both my TTC buddies, Amberley18 and sb2006 on their beautiful babies!
*waves* hi kelly!
i JUST had this conversation with Amelia the other day. And I literally said, "When people get pregnant they KNOW a baby is growing inside them, right?!"
i just dont understand all the complaints and the shock. i mean i have no room to say anything because obviously i've never had a child. but it just turns me off from thinking someone is going to be a good parent if they cant even say anything nice about their kid when its growing inside them.
the only free-pass for complaints is when you have serious medical issues with pregnancy OR you're at like 42 weeks and the baby just.wont.come.out.
Yep....I'm going to agree with what everyone said above. I know I've had it super easy so far...sure a little nausea, heartburn, backpain and cramps...but really that's nothing compared to what some people go through. It still bothers me though when ppl biitch sooo much about it. Like maybe try being thankful and not miserable all the time!
I've had plenty of ppl say things to me like, "Oh you're going to be SO miserable being pregnant in the summer...you're definitely going to swell!" Or "Just wait...you'll WANT the epidural" or "You'll probably need a c-section cause you're so small".
WTF. I wish people would just keep their opinions and unsolicited advice to themselves!
Khart....I'm sorry to hear what you're going through! I hope it somehow gets better.
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Exactly!:)
Well, I'll be thinking of you and praying that it gets better!
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You guys must be lucky ones because by the dead of July I was miserable... overheating while you're pregnant is the worst.
Also, SPD -- it occurs in about 25% of pregnant women, and my friend was diagnosed with it in her 28th week, and she was MISERABLE. They said it could have gotten to the point where she might not be able to walk post-partum, but luckily she got through it. I just remember the pain she went through, and by her 35th week she could barely move, let alone finish the nursery for the baby's arrival. But still, despite all that, she's looking forward to baby #2 already, knowing that it's bound to be worse the next time around... at least her doctors know it's there and can pre-emptively help her out, like making sure she wears a support belt, lost of extra rest off her feet, etc. Scary stuff.
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