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need some reassurance...
I am 26 weeks pregnant for the first time. I have a personal question, and I need to know if it's normal or if I should be concerned. My sex drive has always been seemingly high for a woman. I would be happy having sex daily. My husband has a lower sex drive- more like 1-2 times weekly. He always thought that pregnant women were attractive and feminine. I always heard pregnant women have higher sex drives. So, I always assumed our sex life would rock during pregnancy. However, my sex drive is gone! I have no interest in it at all and it's almost impossible to physically be turned on. He is acting totally normal, but feels too sentimental about sex now and is constantly afraid he will hurt me or the baby- and so is not very interested in sex either. So it works out nice for both of us, but should I be concerned this could hurt our marriage? Will my sex drive go back to normal after the baby?
Re: need some reassurance...
Every woman is different, and every pregnancy is different. With this pregnancy I've been a horndog, but with my first pregnancy I totally lost interest in sex. Totally. And as my pregnancy progressed it got more and more difficult to find a position that worked anyway.
Every woman is different after pregnancy too. It's possible you may want sex again soon, it's possible that you may not. If you breastfeed, it may take longer for your sex drive to come back due to the hormonal changes. Keep in mind that the first few months with a newborn are difficult and you will both be sleep deprived, and lack of sleep and stress typically take a toll on your sex drive. And you don't know yet what type of childbirth you'll have and how long it will take you to recover from that. Most OBs recommend waiting 6 weeks postpartum before vaginal intercourse so that you can heal.
Are you and your husband being intimate in other ways? Vaginal intercourse isn't the only way to show affection and intimacy...........
You make a lot of assumptions about other people's sex drives. You don't have a high sex drive "for a woman," and you're not the odd one out for not wanting sex right now in your pregnancy.
It's perfectly normal for your sex drive to increase, decrease, or stay the same during pregnancy. Everyone's different.