November 2010 Weddings
bellaxanthe
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My Little Sweetheart
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Yup hate my job
I still feel overworked, exhausted mentally and physically and frustrated. There is no management support and everything lands on my lap, every time. I work frantically and no one else seems to care or take any responsibility. Often I'm left to do all the dirty work and seemingly everyone else has been on vacations at the most inopportune times. I don't know how to be 2 places at once. I feel like I went out of the frying pan and into the fryer. I just felt like walking out today and saying screw it. I certainly don't get paid enough to deal with this level of stress week after week. This job was promised as a low stress environment.
I have a dying kitty. A aunt with 3 new brain tumors.
I am not having a good week. Sorry just had to vent.
My Little Sweetheart
Re: Yup hate my job
Sorry to hear all this... especially about your aunt.
Based on your previous posts, I had the impression that although you find your job difficult, they like you, you've gotten good client feedback, and in general you're doing a good job there.
If that's the case, maybe you should ask for some support. Do you need an assistant or team? Would they consider hiring more people? Is there a work-flow coordinator who could help you out with your load (and make sure people stagger their vacations)?
You also mentioned that your boss is a friend. Does he/she know that you're struggling? Sometimes if you're doing well, people assume it's easy for you, or at least that you're on top of things.
Besides work load, is there any inter-personal issue? I'm wondering, because of how you phrased the vacation part it sounds like you feel there's intentional slacking going on.
I second temurlang.
I'm sorry things have been stressful. I'm not thrilled about my job either. At least you have friends where you work. Everyone I work with is older and has a family or just aren't the hanging out after work type of people.
Married 11/6/10
I think it's because I am a relative pefectionist. I feel utterly responsible if a deadline is promised to a client. I have somehow landed directly below the president as his go to person for certain design projects, which on the one hand is a huge compliment. However, he is constantly gone. So I run around like a chicken with my head cut off trying to follow up on things that non-chalantly get missed or that he should be managing. He is way too busy so it lands in my lap. The director of interiors is a friend of mine and I have managed to convince her that we need another person.
There is just a real strange thing that happens at this firm (and at most I've been to). There are a few people who bust their butts and work insane hours and there are those who walk away at 5 pm. Since I am face to face with the clients, I feel like I need to make sure we deliver so I end up picking up the slack from the team that walks out the door at 5. I'm certainly not the only person in the firm in this position, it's just a weird thing that happens in architecture firms. It is not my nature to go off on people and I am struggling at trying to motivate the other team members to help. I have tried reiterating deadlines daily with people, asking for their input on whether things are reasonable time-wise, inviting them to meetings (they don't even show up), daily emails, daily check-ins face to face and it isn't getting any better. Not only do I have to manage, but I have to do my job-load on top of it.I will be asking for a large bump in pay when I hit my 1 year mark.
I think to just have a happier weekend, I'm going to say to myself I'm just having a mid life crisis and there are bigger things to worry about. Thanks all for the love. Sorry to rant so often!
I don't know anything about your field, but I can say that everywhere that I've worked, there are some people who work way more than others. It seems to be mostly personality. I think you are ambitious, see yourself as responsible, and are interested in long-term gain. Slacking just isn't in you. As long as the environment is one that absorbs the others, they won't work. Even in an up-or-out place, they might just opt for out.
I have a friend who I suspect does the bare minimum (he calls me all the time during the day). He's a RA, and he says he only needs to sell 4 houses in a year to get hie desired income. So he sells exactly 4 houses in a year. I don't get that. He could easily sell 8 and have twice the income.
It sounds like you're in a good position to get a big raise or bonus soon. GL on that and getting new hires.
I'm sorry your job isn't going well. I sympathize, and I hope they bring in someone else to help with your workload!
In the meantime, try to remind yourself that it's just work - we don't live to work, we work to live!