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? for those with older kids, re: getting dressed
How old were your kids when they started dressing themselves? I don't mind still getting the clothes out, but when were you able to just tell them to get dressed and they would actually do it? Sam usually gets dressed on his own just fine, though he still asks me to help him sometimes; but Hannah (turned 4 in March) is driving me insane. She will NOT get dressed, even if it's for something she's been looking forward to. We're supposed to go get breakfast and walk down to the river this morning, and she won't get dressed. I know she is physically able to do it, but am I asking too much for a kid her age to have the maturity/attention span to put the clothes on with no help? I honestly want to know. It's becoming a battle in our house, and I don't know if it's one I really should be fighting at this time.
Re: ? for those with older kids, re: getting dressed
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maybe shortly before kindergarten? i mean he could get his pajamas on before that, but it rarely happened without us having to remind him to get dressed 692 times. i still tease him about the time i went in 15 minutes after he'd gotten out of the tub, and he had gotten as far as putting his underwear on, around his ankles, before he squatted down and started building something with legos.
claire was already dressing herself when i met her at 6.
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It's good to hear it's not an uncommon problem for her age. I know Sam had some issues too, but not to this extent. I mean, even if I'm standing there, she still messes around unless I physically get her dressed. I think the reason I fight it is because it's totally a control issue, and I don't want to be played. But it's making me crazy! I think I'm just going to have to concede this one for another year or so. I think kindergarten will be my breaking point! I know the teachers at the school expect the kids to do things like that on their own. Once this past year, I was volunteering to help on a swimming day, and Sam asked me to help him get dressed back into his clothes. His teacher called him out on it (and the other boy whose mom was there too). I loved it.
At school, Tru is 100% expected to dress himself, period. And he does. But he won't do it at home. I mean, sometimes he will when he is in a show off "I'm a big boy" kind of mood, but usually it's a battle. And it's a battle I am just not willing to fight. I know he can do it but I end up just dressing him because it's so much less stress to have him dressed and ready to go when we need to get out the door.
I will say, one thing that helps is when he gets to pick out his own clothes. What I do is hang several outfits (tops and shorts) on hangers in the closet and he picks which one he wants to wear through the week. When we are organized enough to make sure some of his fave things are available to wear, he is more inclined to get dressed. When I tell him what to wear, he's more inclined to say "you dress me."
When she was about 3 1/2 she stopped letting me pick out clothes for her. I still keep her clothes in her dressers instead of closet because she wants to get them herself. At 4 she could get dressed by herself, but like everyone said, it took lots of reminding. She started Kindergarten when she was still 4 though, so I know she was dressing herself at least right before she turned 5.
Now she can dress herself on the weekends but it takes her a long time to pretty herself up. For school we get out her uniform and have her get dressed in our room so it doesn't take her 1,000 years to actually be done putting it on.
I still use the tv as incentive. We bring her into our room to wake her up and let her watch disney channel for 5-10 minutes. After that the tv goes off until she is dressed. If she gets dressed fast enough, she gets 5-10 more minutes, if not then she doesn't.
Collin Thayne 10.11.2010