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I'm new, how would you respond to this email?
Hello Ladies, I haven't posted here before.
I used to work with a girl years ago in retail and she just joined the company I work with now. I sent her a welcome email and asked if she still does pottery. I told her I haven't used my wheel in a long time. DH got it for me and he isn't thrilled I haven't used it, but I keep telling I'm going to. (I do other art.) She emailed me back and told me that she is crushed to tell me that she has not used her pottery wheel since Sep. when she had a car accident. Then she asks me 'Don't you have a new baby? I'm sure your husband can understand that with a new baby you don't have time to work in clay, and if he doesn't you can always use the excuse of the silica particles being bad for the babies health.' I DO NOT have a baby! I'm 32 and I'm dying to have one, but we have to be in a more stable financial position. I do not know how to respond to this. I'm tempted to say I'm crushed to tell you that I do not have a baby. I don't understand why anyone would assume that. You have to be careful about that subject because you never know. I could have been trying for years.
Re: I'm new, how would you respond to this email?
I would simply assume she's mixed you up w/ someone else. As such, I would just say "Oh- I wish i could blame not using my wheel on a new baby, but no, I actually don't have any kids yet. You must be thinking of someone else!".
I don't see why you need to read anything more into it than that or take any offense to it.
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With all due respect, you are reacting very very strongly to an innocent comment over e-mail. Don't make her comment about your pain.
In fact, for all you know, she was offended that you asked about pottery and she's upset because something she loved she can't do anymore because of a car accident. Maybe she fretted just as much on how insensitve you can be by assuming her life is different than it is.
Write back and say that you don't have kids, so you'll have to find another excuse to make for not using the wheel, and manage to ask something about her accident or at least express that you're sorry you made a comment like that, not knowing about the accident.
Yeah you're being too sensitive. I do get it; I'm sure it was a very Innocent oversight. I don't think you need to get all medieval on her or tell her she's a bad person for thinking you might have one.
Just say something like -- "Oh no we don't have a child yet, I've just been very busy with other art projects."
This exactly. I think you're overreacting a bit.
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Disclaimer: I am not an MD. Please don't PM me with pregnancy-related questions. Ask your doctor.