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I have a doctor appointment in about 30.
I'm going to see if they can prescribe me something to take before I get on the plan. We leave this next Sunday for vacation and I've been having dreams about plane crashes. I feel anxiety just talking about it. I hate that I'm doing this because it's totally my grandmother--and now she won't leave her house to travel anywhere farther than OKC (and she won't drive herself and the weather has to be perfect for her to get out, etc). I'm totally headed that way and I don't want to be.
I realize it is completely irrational to be afraid to fly and I know that I am 456 times more likely to get killed in a car wreck or something like that...but I still can't get over it.
Drugs may be the only way H will get me in a plane Sunday. Sigh. It makes me feel rather stupid.
Re: I have a doctor appointment in about 30.
Our flight leaves at 6am, which is too early for my stomach to handle drinking. I am not usually a pill popper and I am going to ask if there are any other options--but I know he'll tell me not with how soon I'm leaving. He'll probably say um...therapy?
I have this trouble, too. For me, it's a control thing. There are a ton of things in life that I can't control, but airplanes are one of the most blatant. In a car, I can tell myself that I could drive defensively and carefully, etc. etc., but in reality there's only so much I can do to avoid an accident. Still, I can pretend. But in an airplane, there is nothing I can do to avoid a crash.
What helps me is to review how airplanes work, to kind of understand the physics. They don't really just fall out of the air (like I originally thought) but I've read that it's more like they are kind of suspended in the sky like fruit in a jello mold. I don't know why, but that comforts me a lot for some reason. Maybe it will comfort you, too.
I am somewhat comforted by the fact that you also have my same fear, and you are a very rational person. Thanks for that!
I need to google, but am afraid if I do, that I will just freak myself out even more than I am already. Sigh. I CAN'T WIN!!!!!!!
Jello mold cracks me up. How can it not just drop? I am specifically terrified of the take off and landing. I just don't see how that big pile of fvcking metal can lift off of the ground and go way up high. It just doesn't look right!
The first five minutes of the flight are crucial - if you make it through those first five minutes - you will be fine. Planes cannot fall out of the sky - it has to do with the speed of the plane and the air below the plane that is kind of cushioning it. 99% of crashes are due to pilot error.
I used to be terrified of flying but now I love it. Get on the plane, get yourself comfy and just try to relax and fall asleep. If that doesn't work, looking out the window while the plane takes off usually makes me feel better.
I'm waiting for H to get home so we can go to Bradley class and I googled some stuff...
I like to see statistics. They make me feel better.
http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/nova/space/how-risky-is-flying.html This site says your chances of dying in a plane crash are 1 in 2 million. (FYI - your chances of dying on a bicycle are 1 in 410,000. Sorry Bri.)
This website lists all the airlines that have never crashed. http://www.planecrashinfo.com/noaccident.htm (which includes Frontier which flies out of OKC a lot)
According to this site your chances of dying in a plane crash is 1 in 11 million http://www.informationisbeautiful.net/visualizations/reduce-your-chances-of-dying-in-a-plane-crash/ You're 55 times more likely to die from falling down (lol).
I hope you got something to help you relax. I too am totally jealous of your trip, would you please have a few Rum punches for me?
Oh Tavia... Good thing I haven't been on my bike in a year!