October 2010 Weddings
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Re-do wedding
If you HAD to completely re-do your wedding (different flowers, colors, schemes, place, people, etc...) how would you do it?
I think I would have a color scheme of yellow and blue (had pink and grey), invite way more people, and have the setting on a resort. I would use yellow roses, and have a darkish blue to go with it.
Re: Re-do wedding
I would have a much bigger affair. Black and Purple would be colors. And I would invite people who would actually dance and a DJ to make sure it would happen.
I would have much more DIY things. etc.
The engagement would have to be much longer as well.
The only thing I wouldn't change would be the groom
I thought I wanted a wedding with everyone invited, but in hindsight I agree with Erin. I would have eloped, not even for the money purposes (althought that would have been nice), but just to not have to deal with pleasing everyone else.
If I decided to do another wedding the biggest thing I would have changed is my photographer. Knowing now what I do, I would have forfeited my deposit ($500) to have someone else take my pictures.
I like most of the details of my wedding; it was gorgeous. If I were redoing it I'd have changed very little - I'd have made DH do his own grooming the day before, instead of him going "OMG, will you shave the back of my neck, check my eyebrows, etc." when I was trying to get out the door for my nails/hair/makeup appointments. Maybe invite more people to the reception, but maybe not.
But if I had the chance to do it over again completely, I'd have done a very remote destination wedding. Think Bora Bora. Told people "we recommend you be here on this date" (we initially contemplated doing this). We had it in the USA so my grandmother could come (and she didn't as she decided a month out she was afraid to travel). We spent a fortune on our wedding. Yes, it was beautiful and memorable, but I'd have lumped $5-10K extra onto our honeymoon and gotten married honeymooned all as one thing. I've recommended this to two other brides (who are both getting married in the next month and have told me they regret not having taken this advice)...
I'd have to agree with Erin and Christie. Although I had fun at my wedding, it was a lot of stressful planning, and my life was BSC at the time we were trying to get the details down.
I'd totally elope if I did it again. Or Kenna's idea was good too, grab our immediate family and head to a destination...maybe in the Caribbean somewhere.
This was an interesting idea of a post; I like it!
I'd change a few things if I could. The biggest thing would probably be our venue. While I loved it and it was gorgeous, the bugs were horrible. I specifically picked an outdoor wedding in October because it's be cooler and had checked the past years weather where the high was only 68 for the last 3 years...perfect, alas, on our wedding day the high was 88 which made all the bugs come out, specifically stink bugs, and was just awful. The bugs weren't bad during the ceremony bc it was cooler then but as the day went on and it got warmer during the reception they all came out...ugh
Thankfully everyone was super nice and understanding but I almost lost it a few times. It didn't stop our guests from having fun though, at one point literally every single person invited was up dancing, it was great. So I'd probably still have the ceremony and cocktail hour at our venue, but then move the reception to somewhere inside.
I'd also change our photography since I didn't like her pictures much at all and I'd get a different florist since my bouquet didn't come out as expected and the guys bouts were the wrong color.
It's easy to be a Monday morning quarter back though, so overall I was happy with our wedding. We wanted something small and managed to keep it under 50 people including staff; we wanted a budget that we could afford without having to put a single thing on a credit card which we accomplished (this is what I was most proud of...not one single thing was charged and we had ZERO wedding debt afterwards and paid for it all 90% ourselves) and we wanted a wedding where we didn't have to spend hours walking around greeting different tables, everyone there was either immediate family or very close friends, so we got to spend our entire reception eating, dancing, and relaxing.
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TTC Since January 2011 - We have bad spermI'd have stuck to my guns and not let DH's Psycho Ex derail our plans and force our date back into December. It was too cold to get any good outdoor shots.
I'd have gone ahead and done video instead of letting vanity change my mind. We had wonderful pictures, but there are a few moments I only got to see from the back that I would have liked to have seen from the guests' point of view.
I would have coordinated the photography a little better. Some of my guests left the reception before we were done taking pictures, because it ran over.
AND I would have insisted on the corset back when my dress required alterations to make it fit better in the hips, because the panel they put in the back, while it got the job done, made my back view really boring, and made it look like a potato sack in some of our pictures.
Other than that, there's not much I would have changed. We had a modest, simple wedding with a minimum of fussy decor, with only good friends and family in attendance, and there was a lot of laughter and joy involved. You can't ask for better than that!
These, with the photography part being because I didn't get ready early enough to get photos with my bridesmaids before the wedding.
Other than the two nit-picky things I mentioned in the other post (the pipe and drape, and the windows not being opened), I wouldn't change a thing. Well, actually, I would have said yes when the photographer wanted Chris and me to go take pictures just the two of us before joining the cocktail hour. But that's it.
Our day was seriously perfect. Everyone talks about how much fun they had, and I have to agree...in fact, it was by far the most fun wedding I've ever been to (and I don't think it's just because it was mine).
We had it at a hotel so that everyone could spend the night and not have to worry about a designated driver, and I'd say 95% of our guests did (the others don't drink). It just meant everyone was able to let loose a little more than usual (not that they all got hammered), and that made it so much fun. Everyone danced, laughed, had a great time.
All of the details were just how I wanted them. Simple but beautiful arrangements, black and ivory theme, "modern" boutique hotel setting, and my dress...oh how I loved my dress.
Ahhh...I wish I could go back and relive it!
Megan & Chris
I would have had blue as a wedding color. I didn't because I was told blue isn't a fall wedding color, but in hindsight I wish I had just used my favorite color.
I would have either had the ceremony at a different location, or coordinated it better so that guests could see and hear the ceremony better.
I would make sure to give my photographer a more detailed list of what I wanted and leave more time for photos. Overall she did a good job, but I have three major complaints. 1) I don't have any formal pictures with my dress train down 2) I don't have any pictures with me and each individual bridesmaid 3) there are many guests at the wedding that there isn't one picture of, and there are way more pictures of DH's side (the photographer was SIL's bff).
I would have rented a trolley instead of a limo.
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This is my only complaint about my wedding. We literally have not one formal shot of my husband and I without either a cake or other people in it. I was so upset when I realized that. We don't have a single frameable photo of just us, unless I do some cropping. It bums me out. It's my fault, because I told our photographer I wanted more candids than formals, and he's my friend's husband, so I think he didn't want to push back too much. The freaking torrential downpour we had that day threw me off my picture game plan. (We picked a venue we loved for its outdoor space. Yeah, we got one photo outside, and that's because my husband's family were super good sports about getting wet.)
However, I will happily sacrifice that to never have to plan a wedding again. If you told me I had to re-do it, I would probably burst into hives. I loved my wedding, and our planning wasn't super stressful. But I would never do it again. We'd go to Hawaii and deal with the guilt when we got back.
I never wanted a wedding I was all for eloping and having a small party after to celebrate.
I went w/the wedding for everyone else, espcially my mom. When we began talking wedding she became sick with ovarian cancer stage 3 and she wanted it. It made her happy but I was pretty miserable the entire time.
I would of definitely pushed harder to have a small affair and much less formal.