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If your family isn't close...
If your family isn't close have you identified a reason why things are that way?
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Re: If your family isn't close...
10 Years Later
Mommy's little helper
Yes, and I don't particularly consider this a negative thing. We are all very independant people so when we all get together it doesn't always work. I don't really need and/or want my family around. I get annoyed by them in 2.5seconds I get that the feeling is mutual with my parents. My parents are young and dealt with not having a life through their late teens and twenties so they are enjoying their time w/no kids now. I respect that. I am enjoying my life w/out being nagged at for my existance. We make a point when it matters to "enjoy" each other's company.
Steph and Jeff's Shutterfly Website
~ Stephanie & Jeffrey ~ 9.15.2007
Kira wins.
My Boys Lawson, Lucas and Landon
In regards to my dad, that was his decision. We talk on holidays, and maybe see each other once a year or whenever he comes to MI to visit my aunt or my stepmom's family. He no longer has a relationship with my brother. I stopped trying to mend that a long time ago and I don't discuss my brother at all with my dad.
As for extended family, they all live in other states (except for 1 aunt, who I never see). I didn't grow up close to any aunts, uncles, cousins or grandparents.
Yep.
5 whole feet of unsuccessful decision making
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Personally identified.
Immediate
I'm close with my parents but my sister is pretty much the exact opposite of me and we find each other difficult to relate to e/o. I am always trying to do things with her. She is not interested as she fines me old, married and boring. I find her self absorbed lately so it's been a challenge to even want to do things other than punch her in the face. We are close in the sense that if we are fighting in person, over text, or on the phone we justbitch each other out, get it off our chest and then are completely fine. It's bizarre.
With my in-laws there is 10 years difference between the oldest and youngest boy. They do not do family things together other than cake at MILs for birthdays of nephews. We do eat holiday meals together but it's eat and leave, no game playing or family fun. I don't understand what the purpose of having 4 boys was if you weren't going to instill an importence of family in them. They do not go to sporting events or fishing trips together. It's a waste of four brothers.
The bolded part of what you said is really odd to me. I don't think any children are 'wasted.' It may be sad that they aren't close, but most definitely not a waste.
Ditto. I don't think siblings have to be close and they shouldn't be forced into thinking that their brother has to be their best bud. DH and his brother are 4 years apart and barely speak. They don't do things together unless the whole family is. They are not "friends" and don't have the same interests and that is okay.
Steph and Jeff's Shutterfly Website
~ Stephanie & Jeffrey ~ 9.15.2007
DH and his brother are not close. They are 5 years apart and have no common interests. They don't have anything against one another and get along fine, they just are at very different points in their lives and don't have much to talk about. I would never say that this is a 'waste' of brothers. They love one another and respect one another, they just don't do a lot together. It works for them and they are fine with it.
I'm close with everyone in my family except one brother. He's always been a selfish D-Bag that I go in and out of speaking to for various reasons. My other brother and I are very close. We talk a few times a week and get together when we can.
Mom and I are very close, although this in itself can cause problems because we butt heads sometimes. Dad and I have a decently close relationship, but we don't really spend a lot of time together outside of family events just "hanging out" like Mom and I do.
Oh for god's sake. I guess "waste" was not the best choice of words. But I really don't understand what the point of having a big_ass family is if you don't act like a family. And I don't know if your remember but two of the brothers are in an all out war and couldn't even be decent to one another during the death of FIL. I guess a lot of the family dynamic is rooted in the fact that my MIL is a nutter.