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friend/ gift question
Emmie's post got me thinking.
One of my goals is to really purge all of the stuff we don't need. And, I'm kind of looking forward to it. I like to get rid of stuff, but Huz likes to keep stuff, and I always feel guilt when it comes to the "This was a gift!" or "Aunt X gave us this, it used to be hers". This gives me the opportunity to get rid of what we don't need/use/like because, we need to fit everything in our little room, and possibly a box or two in the garage. We're going bare bones, so I have a great excuse for why I can't keep all that stuff!
I am wondering about wedding gifts though. I may have brought this up before, but with out new circumstances, I'm visiting it again. Some of our friends got us a crapload of barware for our wedding. I really appreciate that they wanted to give us a gift. But Huz and I don't drink except for an occassional beer or jack and coke (him) and a margarita or daquiri (me) at a restaurant. In almost three years we've never even taken the stuff out of the box. We saved it for our "someday" house, and because it was from friends.
The friends have brought it up before with "oh, have you guys used that stuff we got you?" and we usually say something like "Oh, you guys will have to come over so we can break it in". Never happened.
So, should we sell all the stuff at a garage sale? Should we explain the situation to the friends and say "If you're interested in using the stuff, since we can't in our new housing situation, we'll gladly let you guys use it in your home"? Should we lug all the stuff and find a place to put the boxes and keep doing this for all eternity? Should we do something else?
I don't have any attachment to this stuff, but don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. Any suggestions or insight is very welcomed! TIA
Re: friend/ gift question
It sounds like you'd feel guilty just getting rid of/garage saling them so I would talk to your friends, explain the situation and if they don't want them go ahead and sell them, guilt free.
Ugh, I'm wrestling with this same thing with my MIL. She buys me lots and lots of crap. She's bought me two aprons within the last six months (and I already have a gorgeous one handmade by a friend that matches the kitchen towels she adorned too - why would I use anything but that?)
I don't know about telling the friends. It might hurt their feelings to know they bought you a gift that was so totally off. Is it better to not say anything at all and let them believe they bought you a nice gift? I guess I would feel like an idiot if I bought a gift that was so useless to my friends they tried to give it back, kwim?
As for my situation, we tried imploring MIL not to buy so much stuff, but it didn't work. I've since realized that it's her way of showing love, showing she cares. So I donate it... lots of it. And she's happy. At least this way it can get some use.
Can you sell it on eBay? (and yes, this falls into the category of problems people in Third World countries don't have.)
I agree with this. If they are true friends they will (hopefully) understand the situation. They must know about your housing situation, so maybe that would lessen any hurt feelings on their part. It's not that they gave you a bad gift, it is simply that you can't hold on to the glasses right now. Good luck!
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