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Strangest thing someone has said to me yet
Okay so since becoming pregnant people have decided that they can freely make comments about my body. Also people have no problem touching/rubbing my tummy. I hate this. I am not a person who likes to be touched. Anyways....at a family event this weekend with DH's family someone said to me "Oh CameDown you are looking just wonderful up top! I mean really you are so full! You are going to make gorgeous milk with those!" Ridiculous! Ha ha ha. I just said "ummm I hope so." I thought it was really funny. I have never been small on top anyways so I am particularly self conscious about my chest right now. I love that my bump is growing because I feel like it is a distraction from my chest, but I guess not! Ha ha ha.
Re: Strangest thing someone has said to me yet
What the....
REALLY?! Wow.
I never understood why people have no boundaries with regard to our bodies during pregnancy. The endless comments on my weight gain and shape REALLY pissed me off.
Thankfully, I haven't had too many crazy comments-- the one that I find hilarious is that my cousin (and probably more people), thought I'd be a crazy, hormonal lunatic during pregnancy... and my cousin keeps commenting that she's so surprised that I'm "normal" (and maybe better than the regular me)...
Someone (my sister) did say that since I was so small chested, I would probably not produce much milk. I'm an A cup. I'm now a B cup.
I have 1100 ounces in my freezer. Suck on that! (no pun intended).
Wow...some people just have no filter.
"Thanks...please stop staring at my boobs now."
Yup! Always. I think that is why I can find the humor in this. I suppose it is a compliment anyways right??? I mean my milk will be GORGEOUS!
ha ha ha...oh gosh.
Pretty much all of this, exactly.
People are weird, yo.What???
People are so strange. I don't get the going up to people and touching their belly. I would never put my hand on someone's belly (unless they made me... like my best friends when little one was doing the mambo in her belly... it was awesome!)
Why do people feel it's ok to make comments when woman are pregnant? I see it happen with the woman at my school all of the time. I just sit back and watch the uncomfortable conversation and moments happen and just shake my head.
OMG. Gorgeous milk?? That's awesomely innapropriate, yet I can't help but laugh. I mean, gorgeous milk?? What does that even mean?? hahaha.
::makes note to rub down camedown next time she sees her::
It is so funny. Ha ha ha. Each time I think about it I laugh...especially the woman's face as she said it to me. It was such a serious face.
Yes--please bring your oil!
I actually never really had strangers touch me, and I can't even remember anything super inappropriate anyone said to me. Although I was surprised how often people would ask about it because I thought it was taboo to "assume" someone is pregnant, but people mentioned it everywhere I went.
I have had much worse things said to me since DS has been born.
Do tell...
Yes! Please tell. I need to be prepared!
Oh gosh, just STRANGERS... I'm constantly told that he's dressed to warm/cold. People touch him, which is think is weird. They tell me he's "so fat!" (which he isn't- he's 99th percentile in height and 95th in weight so he's actually thinner than average). It's just constant. "He's drooling all over you!" Um, no sh!t, thanks for the update.
The worst was once I was shopping with a friend and talking about how we had gone to Mass General for DS's specialist and they had switched him to a formula that is for line fed babies, so our insurance covers it. And I said "Thank God, because it's $1,600 a month." Some woman walked up to me and said "YOU had the choice to breast feed. That's free. Formula is expensive."
I was too surprised to say anything. But really? I believe in "breast is best", but if she was eavesdropping she would have heard that I was talking about DS seeing specialists and getting formula for a tube fed child- obviously he has medical issues. Why would you say something like that to the parent of a sick baby??
OMG Lady, I remember when that rudeassed lady said that to you. I could not believe that. Like she knows anything about you at all. Hell, for all she knows, you could have adopted him!
Ugh.
I, too, get a lot of annoying comments. People know EVERYTHING about your child. I have been told, at 3 to 4 weeks of age to shut him in a room and close the door and just let him cry. Put cereal in his bottle to make him STTN. Get rid of the dog before any problems occur, shove his thumb in his mouth so he doesn't want the pacifier, on and on and on.
Annoying friend is the bulk of the comments, to be honest. Recently she said, "OMG you better not be one of THOSE mothers who is still breastfeeding in a year or 2." I said, "Um, I don't see how my decision to feed my child affects you, exactly." and she said, "Well I get that women love their BF boobs, but don't feed your child with them, PUMP."
I rolled my eyes and walked off because she is so stupid. It's not like you can let your boobs fill with milk and wander around aimlessly like that for hours on end, soaking in the porn star boob effect. Pumping is so much work, it can be tiresome and it can cause a lot of tenderness and soreness (at least for me, who did it for 5 days straight nonstop last week).
OMG she is so dumb. I have really been distancing myself from her in the past 6 months and every time I see her and she opens her mouth, I remember why.
Oh gosh LadyE and Punky. I can't believe people SAY those things. I don't understand any comments about breastfeeding. I think it is so strange.
Can I ask you guys if people asked how much weight you gained while you were pregnant? I feel like it is really weird that people are asking me, and I don't know what to say other than "enough." Ha ha ha.
Oh yes, everyone asked me that.
Some people even raised their eyebrows at me and would say, "Have you gained ANY weight?" all disapprovingly and I would say, "Yes, actually, 30 pounds! I just look REALLY good."
lol
People need to mind their own damn business and stop judging how others raise their kids. LadyE, I can't believe that lady had the balls to say that to you! I have an awful temper and would have told her off right there (not that that's the appropriate or mature reaction, but I am who I am
).
On another note, I didn't realize BabyE had these issues. Sounds like he's growing just fine though so hopefully it's no big deal?
Yeah that is what I am getting... a lot of "if I didn't know you were pregnant I wouldn't be able to tell" 'How much weight have you gained??? It looks like nothing" Now I have gained almost 20 lbs so far, and I am 27 weeks so I have gained plenty...but I just think it is weird. Plus people are always watching what I eat...well my in-laws in particular....and then commenting on how I need to eat more.
He's good, thanks! He has three doctors now- his pedi, a pediatric GI at MGH and an allergist at NWH. So we go to the doctor a lot, but they have all really helped and he's growing faster than expected LOL
I also said a lot of "My OB says I'm textbook perfect!"
Lady E-- I know you were nervous about allergies & the dog. How's he doing with those? Did he get tested?
In regards to weight gain, people seem so surprised and say "wow, you look good"-(I think I look better/ smaller pregnant than not). I think people expected that I would look horrible or something by their expression... it's so weird!
His allergist is just for food allergies at the moment. We haven't done any blood or skin tests because we're currently still trying foods. He gets hives from jarred pureed fruits, like banana, but not when I just mash up a banana and give it to him. I guess companies will put additives in even baby food and they aren't required to list them on the label if it's a small amount. So we think it's some additive he's reacting to, but we don't know what because it isn't disclosed on the food label! Grr!!
I swear I do not mean this in a snarky way at all, and I am NOT calling your baby fat. I just feel the need to educate you because I'm obnoxious like that. 50% is average. Below 50% is below average, and above 50% is above average. Personally, I don't think the percentiles should be taken as seriously as some people do (and I say that as a mom of a 3rd percenter). Anyway my point is while 99th and 95th percentile are healthy, they are not thinner than average. I bet he has the cutest rolls though :-) Like any good mom I think my baby is the cutest ever, but I do wish he was rolly polly, chubby babies make me swoon :-P
Regardless, I'm not taking the percentiles seriously, simply using them to illustrate the fact he is not a "fat" baby. It was for the sake of the story.
Aaahh I gotcha. Yeah I don't take them too seriously either, like I said J is 3rd% for height and weight, but I know he's still perfectly healthy.