September 2008 Weddings
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Money question

Money and Wedding, gottcha

The DJs continued to talk and yada, yada, yada, how would travel affect the gift you give to a Bride and Groom. If it was a local wedding would you give more then a wedding you had to travel for? 

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Re: Money question

  • No, we generally do what we do regardless. Although for my cousin's wedding we spent over $1,000 to be there and he specifically said no gifts, so we just sent a card. But I still felt weird doing that. 

    However, for some weddings I bring the card and my checkbook and make the check out at some point during the reception. If it was super fancy I sometimes give more (as I know that allegedly you're supposed to cover the cost of your meal)...but honestly, we generally give like X amt for friends, Y amt for VERY close friends/if we're in the wedding. with Y being more than X.  

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  • I don't know that it necessarily would make a difference. If I were traveling for a wedding, it is most likely b/c that person is special to me and therefore would get the same amount of a gift I'd give for another special person (by special I mean closer friend or family). If it were a coworker having a wedding locally, I usually give less. If it were a coworker whose wedding required travel, I probably wouldn't go, just send my usual gift. Does that make sense?
  • mesa81mesa81 member
    We'd give the same... but depending on our financial state at the time of the wedding, we might mail a check or purchase a gift a little after the wedding.
  • No, absolutely not.  We give the same regardless
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  • xojo1xojo1 member
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    Travel costs have no bearing on our gift.
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  • We rarely have local weddings and we try to travel to as many as we possibly can, luckily that number has eased up over the past couple years!  And we give the same type of gift regardless of travel or no travel. Usually more for close friends, but a lot of our friends got married when we were right out of school.  Our gift giving quality has increased over the past few years! 
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