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You spent what?!?
So yesterday DH and I were leaving for a post-run casual dinner and he asked me if I was going to change like I usually do. I said, "No, this is one of the most expensive outfits I own." I was wearing a pair of workout capris, workout tank, running socks and running shoes. I never would have admitted it to DH but this was like a $300 total outfit. He would have died.
What is something you think is important to spend money on that DH thinks is ridiculous?
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I spend a lot of money on shoes, that he would think are a waste of money. I can easily spend $150 on a pair of shoes, but to me they're worth it.
I think a good quality, semi-comfortable shoe is important. Especially when it's a heel.
I don't mind spending a little extra on wardrobe staples. Black pencil skirt, white button down, etc.
Also, I think the perfume I wear is a bit spendy. But, I'm not allergic to it, it doesn't give me a rash and I like the fragrance.
And finally - bedding. A good night's sleep is very important to me. I want to sleep comfortably each night. It's worth the money to me.
That reminds me. A good mattress. DH could sleep on a freakin piece of cardboard and be happy. I think a quality mattress is worth the money. You don't go cheap on that kind of thing.
DH and I agree on most things, including bedding and shoes. His dress shoes actually cost more than mine do. In fact I am usually the one that is saying "you spent what!?" ..haha.
I guess the one thing I can think of is towels. I love nice luxurious towels.
DH gives me a little grief over eating lunch out every day - more at my old job than my new job. I tell him I'd rather save in other places, because lunch with my work friends was the only good part of my day at that job!
I give him grief over the tools he buys. He actually uses them, so it's more teasing, but I still like to give him the blues about keeping Home Depot in the black. Let's turn the tables - what do you give your DH grief about spending money on?
BRAS! DH just doesn't understand how such a small piece of clothing can cost so much. I had to break the news to him yesterday that I would be needing to buy more bras and clothes as we get farther into pregnancy. He can't really say too much. He has spent over $600 on 3 bottles of beer the last few months so I think I should be able to buy things I NEED not just WANT.
I am for sure the "You spent what?!?" person in our relationship. He is much more of a spender and I am the crazy, conservative saver!
But he never will understand the importance/value of the money I spend on haircuts/colors. I think good hair is priceless! I also like expensive shampoos/conditioners and he doesn't really get that either.
This. DH doesn't understand that as a woman, I want the bedroom to coordinate...or at least NOT look like a dorm room. When the room looks nice, I can rest easy and all the world is right...
"...And he just came out of my imaginary birthday cake." -its apelila
Wait. What?
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WHAT??? $600 for 3 bottles of beer??? Is he drinking liquid gold???
LOL pretty much!
It's the Samuel Adams Utopias. It's a special beer. They only make it every 2 years and they only make about 300 bottles or so so it is very rare. He bought 2 bottles of that and he is hoping to sell one on eBay. They are about $200 each. The bottle he is keeping he is opening when we find out the baby's sex and he will celebrate with his friends. It's more like a red wine or cognac. The other bottle is a DogFish and Samuel Adams collaboration and again it's limited and rare.
I just roll my eyes when he buys them and keep taps so when I go shopping and he says I spent too much I can just say yeah but the clothes, shoes, purse, etc will last longer than the beer so I win!
Yeah, this gave me pause too What?
Regarding what DH spends money on that I don't understand - beer. We have a kegerator, so we buy beer in kegs not bottles but does he have to give it away to the neighbors for free all the time? They don't give us free stuff when we go to their house!
Ben likes pricey stuff as much as I do so not much bothers him. Stuff like hair, shoes, clothes don't bother him as long as I need them. He has even gotten used to my Coach purses now. My GNC vitamins sort of bother him--he thinks I should just take Centrum or something.
What bothers him is carelessness--like when I lost my Coach sunglasses and went and bought new ones. Yeah, he didn't like that much.
He will even get mad over $10--like when Mel rips off her belt off her jeans every day and over time breaks them and we have to go buy another one. Even though it's only $10 he goes crazy--you wouldn't believe the fights we have had over a $10 belt.
With All the Trimmings
Just do it!
My DH doesn't get mad at me. Normally he just rolls his eyes and laughs.
Matt and I spend in very different places but we both understand the reasoning for the other so we are okay with it.
It took him actually seeing the results to understand 200-300 on a brazillian blowout for my hair but now he is all for it.
He thinks my bras are crazy expensive and always says Target bras cant be that much different but whatever.
He spends TONS of money on shoes and gaming stuff and I think its stupid. Half the shoes he wears maybe once a month and the gaming stuff he just upgrades to the next best thing the next year which drives me crazy.
Same. He doesn't get mad he just doesn't understand why I can't buy something from Wal-Mart instead of Luke's Locker or Victoria's Secret.
Exactly. Our DH's would get along.
I tried buying bras from Target 2 weeks ago but they ALL made my boobs point outwards <> Seriously. I would love to be able to buy cheap bras and go on with my day (I'm sure I can) but I can't. I look too funny.
I think we are okay with what each other spends. I did used to have a problem with his game buying but it was due to space, not really money. Although when you are on a tight budget and pinching pennies, gaming is not a priority to me
Now that we have a bigger house, I'm okay with the purchases (not that I want to become a hoarder and buy everything). Plus he has his own room to store all of them now and he's keeping it pretty clean.
Groceries can be a problem for me but I try to watch what I spend and not grab the salmon or whatever million random things I find neat and would like to own. Hair stuff is my issue but that ebbs and flows and it doesn't bother him so much as it does me (I can't believe how much you can spend on just your hair!).
The only thing he gives me a hard time about is buying salon hair products. I think that is mainly because I stock up when Ulta has their buy 2 get 2 free sale so I spend a lot of money at once.
Thankfully, Bill never says a word when I decide that it's time for a new purse. I don't say much about buying books or DVDs just so long as we don't already have another copy lying around. He also doesn't mind when I say that I need cosmetics or that I say I need to go to North Park when Nordstrom is having their Clinique bonus time. I actually put away a bigger percentage of my pay check into retirement than Bill does, which shocked the hel! out of me.
We are fortunate enough that my pay check can go towards vacations and other fun stuff. In fact, I've paid for the last three vacations we went on. He is responsible for costs once we get there but I pay for airfare, hotel, entertainment. In fact our last three have included food, so he gets to pay tips and buy me souvenirs. Hello, new Dooney and Burke Disney purse!
http://thebloggess.com/2011/06/and-thats-why-you-should-learn-to-pick-your-battles/
I thought this was cute
Haha I can't see any man getting mad over their wife buying something at Victoria Secret
This made me lol so hard!
DH would always laugh when I came out of the coach outlets with more than one shopping bag of purses, and I always joke about his comic book/ gaming spending. For the past couple of years all of my extra spending went to the wedding, so there wasn't much that he could be surprised about (although he thought the new bras were expensive, but I finally got fitted for a bra so it was worth it to me).
I also do the spending on bedding and towels. He doesn't get why we need new stuff, but doesn't really say much about the cost since I get it on sale, or at Ross. He did raise an eyebrow when I told him what the upgrade for our wedding album will be. Oh well, it'll be so worth it!
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It's probably not sign of a healthy relationship, but he doesn't know how much I spend!! He has had that surprised reaction on the price tag of a few of my handbags.
If he asks I will tell him, but most of the time, if it wasn't cheap I would not bring up the price.