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Baby momma drama.....
Omg, this is basically going to be a vent but I have to do it somewhere and I don't know where else to go lol. We haven't seen my oldest step daughter since her birthday/christmas. She lives with her mom and her mom doesn't let her see us except 1-2 times a year. Heaven has been on facebook and has recently friended her dad and I. We had been friends on there before but her mom found out and blocked both of us, until Heaven realized it and unblocked us. Her and I will talk here and there. I'll leave her a message telling her that I hope she is enjoying her summer and that we love her and miss her, but nothing more than that unless her and I were talking. She keeps mentioning about how she wants to come over and told me the other day that she talked with her mom and her mom said that all we had to do was call her and she would let her come over. So DH had to try and get her number(she wouldn't give it to us and DH's sister had to ask the mom if we could have it), and when he texted her asking if we could see her this weekend since we didn't have her for fathers day and she started being all nasty to him. She started out saying that she would advise him not to talk to her like that, and told him basically that she isn't obligated to let her see us(her reason is because he has some back c/s from when he lost is job, even though we are paying every week). She also taunted him, telling him that she took his fathers day because she deserves it not him, and then told him that heaven is growing up and he's missing it(and proceded to laugh at him and send 3 smiley faces.). She basically was just being an overall b!tch.
Heaven,who by the way is 13 now, had asked that if we talk to her mom, we let her know what she says because she wanted to know if she was lying to her about letting her come over or not. So yesterday morning, after the whole thing went down with her mom, I messaged Heaven through fb and explained to her(in a way that was fit for her to read) that we didn't think her mom was going to let her come over anytime soon. I mentioned to her that she may not want to say anything to her mom about this though because then it would jeoporadize her talking with us at all because her mom would probably just block us again(which is what happened until heaven unblocked us again). I'm guess Janice read this before heaven because I got a message back saying that she was deleting her facebook goodbye, and then she was gone from our friends list for a while. She ended up coming back so i'm guessing she unblocked us.
Well this morning, Janice texted DH telling him that he needed to tell me to quit trying to turn her daughter against her, that I don't know anything about her or heaven. That irked me. Then I get 2 more forwards telling him that I shouldn't be telling heaven to lie to her because thats a bad thing and that it was wrong of me to do that. I guess she ended up calling him and he just told her that I probably didn't mean it to outright lie to her but that we fear not having any contact with her and if she ended up finding out we were worried that she would block us again. I guess they had a civil conversation and it ended with her saying she would talk to heaven and see whats going on. This whole thing has just gotten completely out of hand. All we ask is to see her, and heaven asks the same thing. We have taken her to court and all they do is slap her on the wrist and tell her not to do it again. We can't afford another lawyer right now. its just so frustrating that she is being so nasty about the whole thing. All I can hope for is that heaven will one day stand up to her mom and say that she will come see us and is at that point old enough to make that decision. That and the fact that karma will come back on Janice for being such a nasty person!
If you read all of that, you deserve a cookie. 
Married My Best Friend On May 23rd, 2009
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Re: Baby momma drama.....
No offense but get a new lawyer. I know you say you can't afford one but it is his daughter you are talking about. Has he ever had contact with her these past 13 years? I know you said 1 or 2 times a year, has it been like that the entire 13 years. Were they ever married? I am divorced and in my child support orders there are specific days/times/birthdays/holidays drawn up in a schedule. If he has legal documents from his child support orders then she has to abide by them. Call the mom and say "hey we will be picking up H for the weekend and will drop her back off at 7pm Sunday" or whatever his court documents say. Obviously be civil and nice. A 13 year is going through a lot of emotional stuff it seems and at that age they need support from both sides of the family. You guys need to keep at it and get her every other weekend not just here and there though. If documents state he gets her 3 weeks a summer then you need to do it. Can the two of them sit down and talk? Clear up the air. Times change! My dd is 13 and her dad was not the greatest dad when we were younger but now he is AWESOME! Maybe she can see that things change and maybe your dh deserves a 2nd chance etc.
As for lawyers I have names of two awesome one's in the Toledo area. Let me know! My sister has FULL custody of her two step children (mom's live in TN and AL) and I know others that have used her (lawyer) for other custody cases. I know my cousin is in the process of gaining full custody of his 3 kids.
The mom sounds like a b!tch that needs to get her priorities in order. What a crappy thing to do to a child! Hope it all works it for you all.
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The new baby would have nothing to do w/ why his child support went up. It's not his baby, they wouldn't make him pay more. Again, I would advise a good attorney if that is the case. How old is this baby?
As for child support both parties have the right to have the case re-evaluated. It used to be every 3 years. She would have had to initiate the process they just don't do it. The only reason yours would go up is b/c your dh owes child support and then they would add that amount in to the amount she gets or your dh makes more money now then what he did when the order was initiated.
It really sounds like a good attorney is what you guys need to get this all straightened out.