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sex is a chore
hi ladies!
i'm new to TN, just migrated over from TK, and i figured my first post might as well be on sex!
me and DH have been having sex for a few years now, so it's nothing new to me, but for some reason, i have a hard time *wanting* to have sex.
i have no idea why this is. i'm very attracted to DH, he's constantly trying to pursue me sexually, and i enjoy sex very much once we get into it. it's just the getting into part initially that i have a hard time with. there are very few moments when i'm the one the wants to initiate sex.
any thoughts on this one? i'd appreciate a little insight. thanks!
Re: sex is a chore
I feel the same way. I've tried going on different birth control pills, thinking it was the hormones, but I think I just have a low sex drive....or the fact that you're with someone now and are more comfortbale. I've been trying to think positive and think of more exciting ways and so far it's working. We just got back from our honeymoon so I'm trying for a fresh start when it comes to sex to make our marriage healthy and happy. Wedding stress is over, time to start a happy marriage!
PS I also live close to TN (right on the GA/TN border)...welcome to TN!
yeah, i don't think it was wedding stress, although it could be, who knows. i've kinda always been this way with him. but now that we're married, i don't want my low sex drive to negatively affect our marriage.
also, sorry for the confusion! i meant TN as in The Nest
but i am moving to GA! near savannah!
I feel the same way and my husband tries the same stuff. I tried different pills and even tried going off of them using other forms of protection and nothing worked. it was killing our relationship. i started looking into it further and met with doctors and actually found out my testosterone levels were non existence which means you have no libido. I am not on hormone replacement and i have a drive like i used to when i was 17 just going on birth control. To be 24 with no sex drive sucks!
Good luck!
We've been married just under a year and we have had to adjust our sex life. We did not live together before we got married and for much of our relationship, we were a couple of hours apart. When we saw each other we always wanted sex.
Now, being married and living together, there is not the same anticipation and time in between seeing each other. We have found that the more we have it, the more we want it! Like you, I don't always feel in the mood, but once we get started, it is great. I just keep this in the back of my mind and say yes when DH is in the mood. It really has made a difference.
Good luck!
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I feel like I could have written this myself! We've been married 2 months, but have lived together for a year and this has been an issue for a few months now. I've been switching BC pills, but no luck yet.