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Newly Estranged Family Members
My parents have recently stopped talking to my Aunt (my Mother's sister) and her husband. The real problem is my Uncle, he is, and has always been a problem for my Father. He has always done weird things to annoy him, and now they (my parents) are not on speaking terms. One of my memories of this Uncle is when he was playing with me as a child, he was twisting my arm around, but suddenly he started twisting my arm so that it hurt really bad. Who does that to a child? Since then I have never liked or trusted him.
At any rate, I like my Aunt and cousins. I may still run into them at social functions. I will still even run into my Uncle. The question is how do I act? Do I say hello and chat with them like nothing has happened? I think my parents are going to ignore that whole side of the family now. It makes for very awkward social gatherings (we will see them at cultural dinner dances).
Re: Newly Estranged Family Members
Your parents have made their decision and that's fine. This doesn't mean you have to follow suit. You're an adult w/ your own relationship w/ tehse people. if you see them, by all means be pleasant and nice.
I don't think you need to shun them " on principle" because your parents aren't talking to them.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
They have chosen not to speak to them - their choice, not yours.
My mom and I don't speak = my brother doesn't speak to me because he is a big pansy. Don't be like my brother. Form your own relationships and opinions of people, not your parents' opinion.
Whatever happened between them is between them. Don't risk your relationships with your family on account of your parents. It's not disrespectful towards your parents to continue talking to your aunt and cousins....those are your relationships that you are allowed to cultivate.