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If she acts like this all summer... help!

I am going to pull my hair out and summer vaca hasn't even started yet.  DD is only 4 (will be 5 end of Aug).  She has been acting so bad for a couple months now- used to behave so well, for teh most part.  I don't knwo what has gotten into her. She is so fresh and rude to us that i just can't take it anymore.  I feel like we have tried all behavior techniques that I could think of and have looked up online too.  She doesn't even care it seems.  She even laughs at us.  It's not that she is not nice, she is loving and caring, but then in a split of a second I swear she becomes posessed.  We thought behaviors started with things seen at school, then possibly from a grandson of someone she is with a bit, cousins who are a bit off in their behavior and get what they want hwen act up... i just don't know.  I know it can be a part of her age, but I am wondering if anyone has done somethig with their DC that has helped with fresh behaviors.  Right now she has a reward sysyem to get pasta in a container divided into 4 sections, getting something at each quarter (something sooner to see teh reward faster) that she fills with pasta when does something nice, good, etc.  it doesn'y have too many pieces of pasta yet.  We have done time outs, taken things away, positives, etc.  any help out there?  TIA

Re: If she acts like this all summer... help!

  • Completely normal for that age.  A little smack on the bum every once in a while is OK too IMO. 
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    We're dealing with that with Shannon, and she's only just turned three! No advice, but I'm tight there with you!!
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  • oh yes, she has been spanked... and has actually laughed during sometimes.  craaazy!  At least she is not the only one.  I might be drinking a lot after she goes to bed this summer.
  • I think it's the age. We went through this with Christian and actually still go through it from time to time. He'll be 5 in December. Time outs still do work occasionally, taking away toys works sometimes. But really taking away his shows really hits home. He loves the few shows he gets a day and taking them away kills him. I also find that when I have lost it complete, I just ignore him and take away all my attention good and bad. That, without a shadow of a doubt, works for both my kids. I found it out by accident. I put myself in a time out by walking away from him when he was a toddler. Honestly I was afraid for what I wanted to do to him if you catch my drift! He clung to my leg and cried and basically did what I wanted. It's no different with my students. Some kids just need attention so badly that negative attention is better than no attention. GL!
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  • I feel like I could have posted this post! DS1 is 3.5 and a maniac! Time outs do nothing, blatant ignoring and disobeying, spanking means nothing, taking toys away, taking privledges away...NOTHING IS WORKING! My DH is loosing his mind with it. I am loosing my mind! I think I am a screaming monster and my son told me the other day "Daddy yells mean" and I said what do I do and he says "You yell nice" WTF??? I think someone is going to DCYF on me and he thinks I am nice!

    Pam I am SO trying your method! At this point maybe a time out for Mommy is in order! I literally take meds to keep me level bc I don't want to be a maniac mom, but it isn't working for him! :(

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