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up for discussion: is the term "lame" offensive?
I know that some people use the word "gay" or "retarded" to describe things negatively, and that's really offensive to me. I was wondering if you think using the word "lame" is offensive as well. Do you think it is ok to use "lame" to mean "uncool"? Is it maybe offensive to people who can't walk?
I know I have definitely used it before, without thinking. I guess it doesn't seem "as offensive", but now, thinking about it more, I can see that it definitely has the potential to be offensive, and I wouldn't want that.
So, what do you think?
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Re: up for discussion: is the term "lame" offensive?
i don't find it offensive at all.
but then again, i may have used the other terms you mentioned too...so yea. (don't love me any less)
Yeah, it's never occurred to me that that might be offensive, and no one's ever point it out to me as offensive. "Gay" and "retarded" on the other hand are definitely offensive in my book. I've had blow ups with friends and family members who continue to use "gay" to describe something as bad or stupid. Pisses me off.
see, and I use them (and offend people) when they're used correctly:
gay = happy/frivolous (the Gay Divorcee, Gay Paris, etc etc)
retarded = slow, deficient in some way. (And yes - I posted on another board about how something was going to "retard the process of our adoption" and some nimrod got all offended. I told them to pull out the dictionary.)
Lame - I've never thought about it, but if it is, then "Lame Duck President" is going to have to be removed from the lexicon.
Ultimately, unless I'm dropping f-bombs (or the equivalent) I rarely care if what I say is offensive. Because I'm aiming for clarity rather than ego stroking. If I mis-speak, of COURSE I apologize and correct myself, but seriously - if we walked around worrying that we were going to offend every.single.person we encountered...
ETA - I do use "Gay" to mean "homosexual." Just to clarify
I don't find it offensive. There are some words I do find offensive, but honestly, if we get on every single word that's just ridiculous. I hate uber PC people.
A side note, lame isn't really used anymore to describe someone with a physical handicap, so I wonder if people even know what it truly means.
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I have to say that ultimately - no word is (in itself) offensive. It is just a word. It's the intention and emotion behind it - the opinion of the person delivering it - that make it offensive.
Like Hannah mentioned - her H uses "cripple" and Snoop Dogg calls everyone "***", so...words are just words.
It's always a little different when someone says something offensive about themselves vs. about others.