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orgasm (follow up)
ok.. so..
I bought a vibrator (pure romance) as you awesome ladies recommended....and I've been enjoying it so much!..
About the orgasm. As I mentioned in another post, I've never had one before. Now, with the vibrator I've been feeling kind of like contractions inside me, it feels awesome, but I don't feel "the explosion" that people talks about... I get very wet, but still in a normal way...
I doubt if that's "an orgasm" (I'm sorry if all this sounds stupid!), because I don't get any tense, or as I mentioned, "the explosion"....I read that if you doubt it, then it is definitely not an orgasm hahaha
I am super relax about it, I've been having sex with DH for 8 years and I love it and enjoy it so much even without getting the big fat "O" haha... But now, after 8 years I started wondering and working ont it 
Any advise? Do you know if I am getting it? Am I in the middle of the procedure? haha...What do you think? What do you feel when you orgasm??
Re: orgasm (follow up)
So I think that you could very well be having an orgasm. i know often times when I use a vibrator and O, its not as intense is when I have one with my H.
You should experiment with different positions with your vibrator, and whatever seems to work the best for you also mimick that with your H. For example, I can only O when I am on top with my H. Also, when I use a vibrator, I have to be on my stomach, with lots of clitoral stimulation.
Good luck!
I think you're having orgasms.
Perhaps my sex life is pathetic, but not every orgasm is "an explosion." They vary in intensity.
That is the Start of one. For me i start feeling that sort of contraction feeling and the the "explosion" happens. I too have to have a lot of clitoral stimulation, so try that it might put you over that edge!!
Good Luck!
When you say "I have to have a lot of stimulation" what do you mean with "a lot"???.. 5 min? 15min? 1 hour? 10 hours?...
Ladies, I REALLY appreciate your comments and help!!!... you are making a person happier than she was
LOL
There is more than one way to the "Big O", and you are describing an orgasm.
One way for an awesome orgasm is to turn on the vibrator, and just rub it against your clit - do not insert. Guarantee you will have an explosive orgasm.
Sometimes I orgasm quickly with my toy, sometimes it takes a bit longer - it all depends. DH and I really enjoy it together also........you could also use it for stimulation while you and H are enjoying doggie style........just a suggestion.
I think you are having an orgasm. They are different for everyone. Some people have more subtle, quick orgasms, some have "explosive" orgasms.
If you are just rubbing on the outside, with no penetration with it, than you are having a clitoral orgasm, which is not as powerful as a g-spot orgasm.
When you are having sex, are you mostly on the top or bottom? I can only orgasm if I am on top. Try hopping on top after a lot of foreplay and you're really revved up.
It will be the same type f orgasm that you get with your vibrator, but you'll find its a lot more satisfying. When I use my vibrator I just never really feel satisfied, its kind of a let down. When I'm with my fiance, I feel good and fulfilled
when it come to sex there only one way that is complete cuz
an orgasm is an explosion u get from interacting with your lover after getting foreplay,penetration,emotional sharing,loving your partner,participating in love making even if on the bottom ,wanting to surrender completely and merging of your souls.
Can your vibrator do that? Can it kiss you and u feel loved ? Can it cuddle with u?
All the vibrator can do is get you off to feel empty and still feel like something is missing.
I know its better then nothing.
That is a orgasm. Orgasms have different "intensities" depending on your mood and the type of vibrator you are using. If you havent done so already you should try a cliteral vibrator or a g spot vibrator that had cliteral stimulation. I am a Pure Romance consultant so if you have any questions about any of the products we sell feel free to email me at megancokley@pureromance.com.
I was in the exact situation. I enjoyed doing things with my bf, and tried really hard to get something out of a vibrator, even though it feels good, my thought is if you're still questioning whether or not you've really had one, then you haven't.
For me it took years to get there. And for it to happen I needed to be totally relaxed, clitoral stimulation helps. .And then I realized for me the only way it could happen is if I was on top. Many of my friends told me this was hard for them. But when I am in control, I determine the angle, the depth, the speed, everything, so even if maybe I'm feeling shy, I feel the need to take over. And once you get warmed up, you're going to want to finish, and for me I just needed to be on top.
Try some new positions, maybe some new props (stick a pillow under you). By changing it up you can determine what feels the best out of your options, and then after time you'll find yourself getting closer and closer, until one day tada!
Good luck!