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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
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3rd shift?
Hello, I'm a newlywed...(5/21/2011)....anyone on here work the graveyard shift or their spouse work 3rd shift? How do you cope with it? I work at a vet hospital and work Mon-Fri 11-7 which actually brings me into Saturday morning.
I don't get to spend much time with my husband as I'm always tired and I feel so guilty. I also have 2 horses so I have to make time for them as well.
Anyone else in this same predicament?
Re: 3rd shift?
I currently work full-time as a victim advocate at a shelter, Sunday through Thursdays 11pm to 7am. I am also working a part-time job Tuesday (2 - 9pm), Thursday (2-9pm), Friday (either 12 or 2 to 9pm) and Saturdays 11am to 8pm.
My husband is going into his second year of medical school as well, so we're both extremely busy (I am planning on quitting my part time job in October though). In addition my husband is taking French and Spanish classes on the side (yes, even on his summer break he can't take a break from studying!).
It doesn't sound romantic, but we schedule time for each other. Its how we prioritize each other around our hectic schedule.
What has worked for us is that we each have a daily planner. Every Sunday night we plan out each day of the week. We plan time to just talk together, time to do bills, time to clean, 30 mins of exercise 3 days a week, sexy time, and a date night. It only takes 10 to 15 minutes to match up our schedules and pencil in time to do all these things, and it keeps us organized. And yes, we do fit all of that stuff in every week. Plus, we for sure have times to look forward to during the week that we'll know we'll be together.
As for being tired, the most important thing I've discovered working 3rd shift is having a consistent schedule. Sleep the exact same hours of sleep every day, eat enough, and get in some exercise. This will keep you energized for when you are hanging out with your spouse.
I worked nights for almost 10 years, several of those years on a weekend shift (F-M). I'm not sure what you mean by "cope with it".
You aren't entitled to have certain days/hours off and you just have to make the best of the time that you do have off. Just like everyone else. It's not that big a deal.
My H works 3rd shift. He works 10pm to 6am. We are newlyweds but he's been on this shift 3/4 the time we've been dating and we prefer it. His choices are between 3rd and 2nd shift- with him on 2nd we never get anytime at all together.
However he used to work Sun-Thurs and now works Mon-Fri and Saturdays, so he goes into Sunday mornings and sleeps all sunday. I work 8-5 so the weekends suck for the most part. It's def something to adjust too. We get weekday evenings and saturday evenings til 9 together. It won't be this way forever so we'll just take it one week at a time. GL and hope you get used to it!
We just make the most out of the time we do get. Luckily we have 2 other couples we hang out with and I tag along with them every friday and saturday night while my H is at work so im not bored.
H is always scheduled 7-4 and an occasionally 11-8 since he a dept manager. My schedule ranges from 7-4(if I am lucky) to 3pm-12am. I have tried to get on the same schedule at H but my manager said she has enough 7-4 workers.