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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Really want to show DH my appreciation...Any suggestions?
I need some help with suggestions of nice things I can do for my DH. I'm 5.5 months pregnant with our first child and my doctors have recently determined that my pregnancy is high risk. I'm not on bed rest but the doctors have told me take it easy so all I do is go to work, come home, and just relax. Well, the hubby has been doing MORE than his fair share around the house (cooking, cleaning) and going out of his way to make me as comfortable as possible. I tell him how much I appreciate all that he does, but I want to do something nice/special for him to show him. Plus, with all the talk of baby, I'm sure he would like to feel special too. I'm open to ideas of different things I can do. TIA for your help!
Re: Really want to show DH my appreciation...Any suggestions?
an old school shave at a place like the groom lounge, the art of shaving, or michael craig (this is in eastern market so maybe not convenient for you?)
someone to come clean once a month
is there a sports team that he loves? t-shirts for dad & baby?
i'd also try to have one last date as a family of two - somewhere that does a good mocktail for you and is the kind of place you won't get to go as often once the baby arrives
"What is a week-end?"
When I was on bedrest and DH was doing everything, I used the power of the internet to order stuff for him - nothing major, but I'd order him a book or a t-shirt or something small. I also tried to keep tasks fairly simple for him - not constantly saying "you need to do this or that" but timing my requests and figuring out what was necessary and what could wait. But honestly, if you spend your time worrying that you're not doing enough, that isn't good for baby - I had to take my blood pressure pretty regularly and I could definitely see a difference when I was feeling stressed about putting demands on DH vs. when I was more zen about it.
I also just told him all the time that he was an awesome daddy already and that I loved him and appreciated him. Not that I had ever had any doubts, but when I saw the lengths that he would go to to take care of me and baby when I was pregnant, I knew that he was going to be the best daddy ever (and he is).
As Pam and John said, though, he is doing what he needs to do so you can keep yourself and baby healthy. You guys are a team.
ETA - I was on orders to relax from 29-32 weeks, modified bedrest from 32-35 weeks (during the holidays, which sucked), went back to work for one week and then my water broke right before 36 weeks. Don't forget that this can be very hard for you emotionally. It's scary and stressful, and it can feel like you did something wrong. I called my company's EAP and spoke to a counselor on the phone a couple of times. She taught me some relaxation exercises and it helped to talk through my fears. Also, I spent a lot of time on the bump high-risk pregnancy board. The ladies there were really supportive.
I second the experience gift. I gave DH two NASCAR driving lessons - one for him and a friend. He is doing it in a month or so and is so excited!