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BC: Something Borrowed: Men, Women, & Cheating
Disloyalty is a major theme in this novel. How differently do men and women view cheating with a friend? Why is Darcy so indignant when she catches Dex and Rachel together when she has been having an affair of her own?
Re: BC: Something Borrowed: Men, Women, & Cheating
I agree with Claire in that Darcy was only pissed off because she wasn't chosen over Rachel. She was just the type of person that always had to be first even if Dex wasn't her first choice.
As far as how men and women view cheating differently. I think it depends on the man or woman in question. I know Alexi views certain things as cheating that some of my ex's wouldn't and I know that he and I agree on what constitutes cheating (i.e. Weiner's sexting and sharing naked pictures on Twitter = cheating).
Totally agree that Darcy was upset about not being the chosen one and the shock at having Rachel chosen over her.
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I agree with everything you said, Claire. Also, I don't think you can really classify affairs as "worse". It's all bad, IMO.
I think men and women typically view cheating differently. I think men can get over a friend cheating easier than women can if the affair doesn't last.
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It seems to me that men seem more relaxed about cheating with a friend as if they don't get caught up in it as much and think about all the feelings and how different things will be if it doesn't work out. They seem to think about the here and now and not the what if's.
Darcy is probably just upset that Dex chose Rachel over her because she is used to be the "chosen" one. She probably thought she was having her cake and eating it too and realized that that wasn't the case at all.