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BC: Something Borrowed: B!tchy Darcy
Was Rachel's moral dilemma made easier because of Darcy's personality? Would she have acted on her attraction to Dex if Darcy were a different kind of person and friend? How does Rachel rationalize he affair with Dex?
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Was Rachel's moral dilemma made easier because of Darcy's personality? Yes, in a way I think it was, but if Rachel really was the bigger person she wouldn't have slept with her best friend's fiance. Period. No matter how big a beyotch she was.
Would she have acted on her attraction to Dex if Darcy were a different kind of person and friend? I don't know. I think she would've felt a helluva lot guiltier for acting on it had she still slept with Dex and Darcy was a better person.
How does Rachel rationalize her affair with Dex? I think to a degree she views it as almost payback for all those times she came in 2nd place to Darcy or for all the times when Darcy "walked all over her rough shodden". As the book and her affair progresses she gets more and more impatient with Darcy and more disgruntled with her actions while in the past she'd just ignore it or laugh it off.
Was Rachel's moral dilemma made easier because of Darcy's personality? Would she have acted on her attraction to Dex if Darcy were a different kind of person and friend? I think so. Because Darcy was such a bully, and because I think it was obvious that she and Dex were never really involved in their relationship, it made it easier for Rachel (and in turn for Dex) to shut her out and move forward together.
How does Rachel rationalize he affair with Dex? Like I stated above, she probably realized that Dex and Darcy were never really IN their relationship. And especially when she found out that Darcy was also having an affair.
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Was Rachel's moral dilemma made easier because of Darcy's personality? I would say it was easier (at least for me as a reader) but I would say that Rachel used Darcy's personality as justification.
Would she have acted on her attraction to Dex if Darcy were a different kind of person and friend? I think so. It didn't seem like she was really thinking about Darcy's personality in the cab. It may have crossed her mind, but I doubt she made a conscious decision that "hey, Darcy sucks so this is ok".
How does Rachel rationalize he affair with Dex? She rationalizes by telling herself that she had a claim on him and that Darcy "stole" him from her like she did so many things. Rachel kind of makes it a game that she is finally going to win. This is why I don't really like Rachel.
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Was Rachel's moral dilemma made easier because of Darcy's personality? Yes. I think deep down Rachel always knew she was being walked on.
Would she have acted on her attraction to Dex if Darcy were a different kind of person and friend? I think she would have acted on her attraction way in the beginning when her and Dex met rather than think she wasn't good enough.
How does Rachel rationalize he affair with Dex? She uses her crappy friendship as a reason. Darcy always gets what she wants, now it's her turn.
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I agree. This also makes Rachel just as bad as Darcy, IMO. Just get out of the friendship if it is so bad instead of stooping down to Darcy's level.
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Oh, good point! Do you think that if she hadn't been beaten down all those years, would she have been confident enough to go for it with Dex while in law school and before he met Darcy?
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I agree with this. Or at the very least she wouldn't have tried to set them up, or Darcy wouldn't have taken advantage of the situation, or wouldn't have been too self-absorbed to recognize the attraction between R&D in the first place.
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I think her self-esteem would have been much higher and she would have felt good enough about herself to know she deserved a good and cute guy. I don't think she would have even introduced the Dex and Darcy without making it known she was interested, if not already dating him.
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Was Rachel's moral dilemma made easier because of Darcy's personality? Yes, I think it made it easier to deal with the guilt.
Would she have acted on her attraction to Dex if Darcy were a different kind of person and friend? I don't think the situation would have happened if Darcy was a different person, because Rachel would have been a different person. Rachel was definitely attracted to Darcy because of her low self-esteem and a true friend would have saw Rachel liked Dex and encouraged her.
How does Rachel rationalize he affair with Dex? That was such a crappy person that she didn't deserve Dex.
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I do think that Rachel would not have done this to someone like Hilary who is a good friend. I think it made it easier because Rachel already knew deep down without really admitting it that her friendship with Darcy wasn't that great.