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update on marriage and baby
I saw the therapist yesterday and my husband surprised me and took a few hours off work and came with me. That was a huge first step. The therapist was very nice and understanding. She suggested that we each see an individual therapist and then after a little bit see a couples therapist. She really does not think we should start couples for at least a month. She feels that we both need to decide what we want before sitting and talking about it together. After some thought I agree. So Bill has agreed to go to a male therapist and I will continue with this lady. When the time comes she will recommend a couples therapist.
And on the baby note: Had my OB appt on Monday, really nothing happened it is still too early to hear HB on doppler so I just talked with the Dr. They ran some labs and stupid me asked for another HCG level and am now flipping out about it LOL. It came back at 39,000. That # is in the normal range but the lower end and not as high as I expected. It could be because the placenta already took over so the HCG drops. The nurse was not concerned but of course me the worry wart is. I am trying not to stress.
Thanks again ladies for being great listeners and friends!
Re: update on marriage and baby
I'm glad that your tharapy appt went well and I'm so happy that you H took that first step to go with you day! You guys are still in my thoughts.
Try not to stress about the HCG levels. I'm sure that if there was anything you should worry about the doctors and nurses would let you know. Try to remember that the best thing you can do for the baby is to lower your stress level and take care of your body. Nature will do the rest! Your body knows what its doing even if you don't! haha. That is such a trippy thing to me! But so true
Glad to hear that you guys got into counseling. That is a great first step that you DH is willing to talk to someone! I hope that you guys stick with it.
And I totally would not worry about the HCG levels. I had 2 blood tests taken and I never asked for the #. The Dr. just told me that they were where they needed to be. Are you going to have a NT scan done? They do that at around 12 weeks. It is amazing at how much the baby looks like a "human" already at 12 weeks.
I'm so glad that your DH decided to go to the therapist with you. That is a big first step, and shows that he wants this thing to work. I wish you all the best, and you're still in my thoughts and prayers.
As for the baby, I have no clue what all of those numbers are for (having never been pregnant and all), but I'm sure that if the doctor says it's all okay, then you're doing fine. It's amazing what our bodies are designed to do, and it knows what it's supposed to be doing while cooking that little baby of yours. Keep thinking positively!
I am so happy to see that it went so well, and that your husband ended up joining you. Everything will be good, you will see!
As for the baby - stop stressing! Sometimes ignorance is a bliss
Forget about all these numbers and just enjoy being pregnant 
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That is such a wonderful sign that your husband decided to join you in therapy. Good luck with your sessions and I hope things begin to get better (sounds like they already are if he's made this step)! Just try to relax, enjoy your pregnancy, and hopefully the two of you will be happier individually and together.