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Thoughts on milestone birthdays...
Here's my post for the day.
Help me understand WHY people flip out when turning 30, 40, whatever. Yes, it's a milestone birthday but it's not like your body/life/whatever completely shuts down once you hit a certain age. Help me understand what I'm missing.
And go....
Re: Thoughts on milestone birthdays...
I guess b/c everybody's in denial about aging and going into another decade makes it irrefutable.
I think now most people just like a good excuse to either have a big party and/or flip out and act like the world is ending and get alot of attention.
I think its partially because people have such set ideas of where they'll be at a certain age and if they're not there they freak.
One of my good friends will be 30 in January and she is freaking because her younger sister (who is 26 or 27?) just got engaged. My friend is all "I'm going to be 30 and I'M NOT MARRIED!!!" It's not because she thinks 30 is old or anything, its just because she always thought she'd be married with a kid or two by then. So her expectations haven't adjusted to her reality.
She's also a bit over-dramatic ;-)
But besides that - I don't really get it. I'm actually really looking forward to turning 30 because I figure it means I'll be able to stop dealing with the "are you sad about turning 30" line of questions that I've been getting for the past 6 months or so.
I'm going to go ahead and confess that when people freak out over turning 30 it makes me kind of stabby. You're 30-its not 70. Relax.
I don't remember doing anything exceptional for my 30th. Just the usual dinner celebration, etc, so I guess the milestone b-days are not a big deal to me.
My possibly unpopular opinion- I think a lot of people are overly=dramatic/over-celebraters/AW's.
a friend tried to claim 35 as a milestone B-day (and therefore was pouting over the lack of party or other big plans.0 Um, no, just because you can run for president does not make it a milestone.
I know for my 30th, I had a big party. I agree with Becky...some people's expectation of their life don't match up to their realities and when they hit another milestone they freak out. I didn't freak out turning 30, I just had a good time.
OMG, I never thought of that and I totally disagree. I am absolutely going to throw a giant 35th birthday party for MH to celebrate the kickoff of his presidential campaign. this is going to be awesome. I just have to remember the idea for the next 6 years.
I kinda get freaking out if you always had the idea in your head that life would be a certain way by a certain age and it's not. I always thought I'd be done having kids by 30, but I'm 28 and haven't even had one yet, so that seems pretty unlikely. I could see if I wasn't even married yet by 30 (when I'd hoped to have two kids by then) I'd be kinda upset about it. But more as a "boo. well, guess I need a new plan" way and not in a "OMG my life is crap!" way.
I really do not understand people who are legit upset about just getting older. It happens every second of every day...relax and go with it.
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See- I have no problem if you wanted to throw your DH a huge 35th party- you want to invite friends and family to have a good time in honor of your DH, that's awesome.
My personal theory is that people who complain/whine about upcoming birthdays (major or not) are doing so because they WANT attention, via a party or some sort of major gift, etc.
We got married the day before my 30th birthday, so my actual birthday was pretty anti-climactic. DH's b-day is the day after mine. I guess in 5 years when we will be celebrating our 10th anniversary and my 40th b-day it could be a big deal (and we are hoping to be able to take a family trip to Costa Rica to celebrate) but I can't see myself whining/freaking out about it.
Eh, the people I know who've had milestone birthday freakouts aren't doing it for attention or because they want a big party/gift. They're doing it because they can't handle the idea of getting older or because they aren't where they expected to be in their lives.
I agree with this statement AND I also agree that some people are simply attention-whores. The person that triggered this post is a HUGE AW and I think they are not happy with their current standings in life. As a result, they insult every single person when they hit 30 to make themselves feel better. Not cool in my mind at all.
Don't get me wrong, DH and I had a combo 30th birthday party to celebrate, but it wasn't anything out of the ordinary for us. We look at birthdays as a reason to have people over!
I agree with this. And I did slightly freak out about 30. I haven't done all the things I thought I would have by this point, and it scares me a little. That said, once 30 came and went, I was all, eh no big deal. NOW, 31, I had no feelings about whatsoever. The day after I turned 31 I felt like I was going to have a nervous breakdown. IDK why, but it was hard for me to accept that I am now IN my 30's as opposed to being 30. But admittedly, I have a real issue with the idea of aging.