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I'm pissed and need to vent.
Feel free to add yours.
So last summer, (july 24th) we had a little family reunion. My cousin's SFil is a photographer and was willing to take some pics for us at a "discount" quotes because he was really expensive and for what we're getting, not really a discount. He printed them at.Walmart, and didn't do any retouching whatsoever or anything really I can.see that justifies the cost at all. Before I dropped my art major to graduate on time, I was a photo emphasis.
anyway, we finally got proofs around Dec I wrote a check to him right after in like late Jan. He cashed it this week! Which is ridiculously late. Oh. And he CHANGED THE DATE on the check. I'm super pissed! And that's illegal, right? Plus we STILL don't have pictures. I have stopped caring about family relations and will be sending a scathing email when my sister gets back to me with his address. He's been such an ***-io to work with the whole time.
AND the swamp cooler has made my office smell like a stale dirty fish tank, with intermittent eau de burnt rubber, which will presumably get worse as it gets hotter and the sun comes to this side of the building. I wish I could leave early. Booface
So last summer, (july 24th) we had a little family reunion. My cousin's SFil is a photographer and was willing to take some pics for us at a "discount" quotes because he was really expensive and for what we're getting, not really a discount. He printed them at.Walmart, and didn't do any retouching whatsoever or anything really I can.see that justifies the cost at all. Before I dropped my art major to graduate on time, I was a photo emphasis.
anyway, we finally got proofs around Dec I wrote a check to him right after in like late Jan. He cashed it this week! Which is ridiculously late. Oh. And he CHANGED THE DATE on the check. I'm super pissed! And that's illegal, right? Plus we STILL don't have pictures. I have stopped caring about family relations and will be sending a scathing email when my sister gets back to me with his address. He's been such an ***-io to work with the whole time.
AND the swamp cooler has made my office smell like a stale dirty fish tank, with intermittent eau de burnt rubber, which will presumably get worse as it gets hotter and the sun comes to this side of the building. I wish I could leave early. Booface
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Re: I'm pissed and need to vent.
Jilly, are you going to do anything about it?
KC, I have a bit of time this morning, I'll go kick him unless he's up North.
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Very much the bolded. And KC OMG! I'd want to give him a good swift kick as well.
That's fraud Jilly. I would speak with someone at your bank and maybe file a police report. GL with getting in touch with BBB as well.
KC-Give him a punch to the head on the way down for me. Thanks.
Agreed with the first and disgusted by the second. Why do people ruin perfectly happy families? I'm sorry your friend is going through this.
Mine's sad, you've been warned.
One of my besties (who I've been through hades and back with over the last couple years) lost her grandma to ovarian cancer last week. While they were all there at the hospital, her mom had a double aneurysm and they are removing life support Sunday. I'm so heartbroken for her and I have no idea what to say or do. I guess my vent is I just don't know what to say or do. I just keep telling her how much I love her. She's looking to me for support and I'm just completely at a loss. Major friend fail
What do you say to someone who lost a pregnancy, a grandmother and a mother in a very short span of time?
OMG! That is so tough
Poor girl. I would just be there for her and be a shoulder for her to cry on when she needs me. I wouldn't know what to say either, gosh. I'll be praying for her, that's too much to deal with at one time 
You say that you honestly have no words and that nothing you can say will help. That you love her and are here for her and that even if she just needs to call you and cry on the phone that is fine. Your here.
Lots of love and prayers going out to your friend.
There is nothing you can say, and for the love of all that is holy do not resort to "everything will be ok". Just listen.
Are you in the same area as her? If not can you go to her? If so hold her when she cries, run errands, help with meals, field phone calls, etc. After a few weeks most people will move on with their everyday lives and stop calling, visiting, etc. She won't have moved on yet, that's when she'll really need to hear from you, get help with stuff, etc.
Totally too much for one person to go through. Thanks for thinking of her
I know she would appreciate that.
She's the most faithful person I know, so I truly believe that will carry her through. She tells me shes just numb right now. My heart is just aching.
Speaking from experience she is. She is just going through the motions and keeping everything together forever one else. She will probably crash in the next month or so when people stop calling and life starts to move forward before she is ready for it too.
If she has to go through her mother's things or grandmother's alone and your close enough by offer to go help her. Even if she doesn't think she will need anyone she will. She will open the closet and start crying and start moving things and make no progress because she just can't do it alone.
My heart is breaking for her. I just want to wrap her in a hug and let her cry.
Jilly, Altering a check is definitely illegal! He hasn't given you the pics for almost a YEAR!? Am I reading that right? What a douche.
KC, I hate stories like that.
I don't understand what goes through people's heads that helps them justify ruining their family over mediocre, slutty ass.
FF, OMG! There are no words. I'll keep your friend in my prayers.
No, I'm in CO, she lives in TX but is in IN where her mom was in the hospital. I wish I could be with her. I keep asking what she needs, but she tells me they don't need anything. I get that, I mean they're trying to spend their last days with her. I'm trying not to intrude on that, but still let her know she's on my heart.
I'm thinking of flying out to be with her, but I don't want to get in the way. This will probably be down the road, like I said, I don't want to intrude on family time. I can't even imagine what she or you went through. Gosh.
thanks
Some silver lining is they're adopting a little boy from Uganda in Sept. He's a complete doll. I'm happy she has this to look forward to. She also has a kick butt husband and a wonderful little boy. She is very close to her momma. We are kindred and I feel like I'm falling with her.
100% what Afton said. Just her knowing that you are there for her is probably bringing her a lot of comfort. When my best friends Mom passed away, I felt like there was not enough I could do to help her, but I know she appreciated me just being a shoulder for her. And when my Mom passed away, she did the same thing for me. Hang in there A! You are being a great friend and I will keep her and her family in my thoughts and prayers.
I'm thinking of flying out to be with her, but I don't want to get in the way. This will probably be down the road, like I said, I don't want to intrude on family time. I can't even imagine what she or you went through. Gosh.
thanks
Some silver lining is they're adopting a little boy from Uganda in Sept. He's a complete doll. I'm happy she has this to look forward to. She also has a kick butt husband and a wonderful little boy. She is very close to her momma. We are kindred and I feel like I'm falling with her.
I think waiting to fly out is a good idea. Like I said before, she will need you much more later than she does right this minute. You're a good friend A and that's all she really needs right now. Hugs to you.
I agree with waiting. When something bad happens many times you are surrounded by all kinds of people and then they all go back to their own every life. I think she would really like if you were there later when it gets really hard. I would always just send a quick "thinking of you text" or a little card. That is what I did when one of my friends lost her baby. I will say a little prayer for her and you.
You can admit to her that you have no words, but explain that you are there for her 100% if she needs to cry and vent. You have been through too much together for you to walk away from her now, so you aren't going to. Maybe in a few weeks you can send her a gift certificate to a spa for a massage, just to do something nice to destress and get out of the house. There are a few good books on amazon about pregnancy loss. There are support groups out there that maybe you can find info for and pass it on to her. I lost a baby and 2 grandparents in the span of 8 months, so I really feel for her.
I know the best thing ppl did for us when we lost our baby and when my grandfather passed away was sending food. It's so hard to think about eating when you're hurting so bad and have so many things to address, like calling extended family and friends, making arrangements, etc. Maybe you can send her a nice fruit tray or sandwhich platter?
You're not a bad friend either. No one knows how to respond to that type of situation bc it's not natural. Nothing prepares you for it. You would be a bad friend if you ignored her or didn't acknowledge her feelings, like some of my now ex-friends have done to me.
This!