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Selfish Vent - just need to get it out
FIL/MIL are in their mid 60's and work (and will need to for a long time b/c they have not saved/planned for retirement, but will most likely end up moving in with us once they are totally broke) but they are living beyond their means. DH is one of two children and his younger brother is as hopeless as FIL/MIL when it comes to $$ matters. Basically, DH has been their security blanket whenever they don't have enough money for monthly bills. Even after we got married (almost 5 years ago), DH continued to give them money here and there (with or without consulting me) and they have continued to spend irresponsibly. I wouldn't mind helping them as much if they were at least making an effort to be wise with their money. But they are not! FIL buys flat screens and computers and then complains to DH that they don't know how they will manage with their mortgage. Well now, we have a LO on the way and I was planning on quitting my job and being a SAHM. I'm really trying not to, but I'm stressed about our finances. We have done well with putting money away in savings, but once I quit, my in-laws will start eating it up if we continue supporting them financially. I try to talk to DH about it, but he feels that if I ask about it, then I am saying I don't want to help them. If you read all of that, thanks for listening.
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Re: Selfish Vent - just need to get it out
TTC #1 since 08/11 IUI#2 = BFP!
I was also going to suggest taking a financial course or even a brief marriage counseling session. Money issues are hard and when you both aren't on the same page, especially in regards to a toxic family situation you know isn't good, it can put strain on you. It's best to get on the same page, have a frank discussion with his parents, and have it settled before the baby comes.
GL to you!
love is for every her, love is for every him, love is for everyone
I do like those books and the money suggestions made above... but I think the issues run deep here especially with your husband and his need to help mom and dad. I would suggest marriage counseling because his feelings to help his family seem to run really strong.
I'm guessing his thoughts are its his family and he feels obligated. But, he needs to realize that you and your unborn child are his top priority.