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VENT: H's Ex-BFF (long)

Let me start off by saying that H and this guy were friends for almost 15 years. We didn't always get along, actually, I think I've vented about him before on here. He was the Best Man in our wedding, and his wife was my Matron of Honor. We did everything together, vacations, Christmas shopping, grocery shopping (yes, a little much, I know). I was friends with them for 7 years before we ended our friendship.

About 4 years ago we had a HUGE falling out while on vacation together in Key West, and ever since we're not friends. He told H to forget that they ever existed. Unfortunately, we can't forget about them because we have numerous mutual friends. Facebook & MySpace were a huge part in our falling out. Things were taken out of context when not needed.

Recently a mutual friend of ours posted on FB "step by step" after New Kids on the Block performed on a music award show. Me, being a HUGE NKOTB fan new exactly what she was talking about. So I wrote the next line in the song. See the comments below. After this convo, I blocked him. I don't know why I did, but tonight I unblocked him, just to see what he has commented. 

One of the girls friend commented also on the next line in the song, that's why it's not right...for all you NKOTB fans out there.

FB Comment: "step by step..."

Me:  We can have lots of fun...step 2....

Him: Wow f**** W O W!!!!!

  • Me: So anyways...yeah, NKOTB baby!!!
  • Insert his friend, that I also blocked: "Totally" biotch!
  • Him: Took the word right out of my mouth
  • Me: I take that as a compliment, thank you.
  • Him: There are 13 comments but I only see 10. Huuummmmm... did someone get upset and block me?! W O W!!! Not everything is about food or you. Lol.

I am so hurt by this comment. Yes, when H and I got married, I was a size 12, now, I'm HUGE. I've always struggled with my weight. I don't eat a lot, I don't eat bad, I just have a slow metabolism and I don't exercise. I'm not comfortable, I'm very self concious, etc. Right now, I want to comment, but I know I shouldn't because he's a child. He's the father of 2, and 6 months before he got married he cheated on his wife. He told my husband, about 6 months after they got married. It was with a girl that we all knew. We played co-ed softball with her, and his wife COULD.NOT.STAND.HER. So, needless to say that has always been something my H has had over him. Granted, H would never tell his wife, nor would I, but seriously, is the comment he made above necessary knowing that my H knows. I am so hurt I'm crying. It makes me so mad and angry. I know, for sure, that he does this to make himself feel better, and to get a rise out of me, and I've always been that 1 person out of all of our friends that always stood up to him, becuase he is such an ass, and that's what he doesn't like about me. Like I said, I want to comment, but I know I shouldn't. I know if I ask you ladies what you would do, you would all probalby say to just forget about him...but srsly...would you be able too?? 

Okay, I'm done.

Re: VENT: H's Ex-BFF (long)

  • He took a cheap shot at you and that sucks. I know it's hard but if that had happened to me, I would ignore his comment and not write back. If you try to comment back, you both will just be taking digs at each other and that gets babyish. Sorry you had to deal with something so hurtful :(
  • That is so fvcked up! Seriously what an assshole! Personally, I would unfriend all of them. You do NOT need that kind of poison in your life. Nobody is worth the kind of hurt that you're feeling right now, especially not an immature, irresponsible idiot who has low morals.  
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  • You should have stopped before you typed:  Me: So anyways...yeah, NKOTB baby!!!

    Just leave it alone.  

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  • I am right there with ya girl.  I would HAVE to say something back.  so, I would have done the same thing if i was you.  I recently had a sitch like that occur, and I completely and totally commented back.  it got big and huge and I fought with the person about it.  We have since made amends, but I will never forget.  did I say I am a grudge holder??  LOL!
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  • What went wrong in Key West? 

    I would probably send him a message/email and tell him how that hurt your feelings, and while y'all have parted ways, he doesn't have to be hateful towards you.

  • imagemoonstone523:

    What went wrong in Key West? 

    I would probably send him a message/email and tell him how that hurt your feelings, and while y'all have parted ways, he doesn't have to be hateful towards you.

    Ohhhh, what went wrong in Key West...well, one day we were all drinking at the beach, having a good time, came back to the pool, he of course was being ridiculously loud and obnoxious, so I went to the room with a headache. I laid down because I knew that night we were going to be out late. We shared a hotel room with them and they all decided to come back to the room. My husband sat down next to me on the bed, and X (that's what we'll cal him) was yelling and being stupid in the room. So I said, under my breath, but my husband could hear me "shut up". X said "what did you say?" Me: "nothing, I was talking to my H". X: I know you said something, what was it?" Me: I said "shut the f*** up!" That was the end of it. He didn't talk to us the rest of the day. Later that night at the bar, I apologized to him, but the next day he said he didn't believe me because I didn't do it right away after I said it, and I had already had a few drinks when I apologized. So, needless to say, the remaining 4 days of our vacation was extemely awkward and we ended up by leaving early...thank god we drove down seperately!

     

  • imagemay07wedding:

    Ohhhh, what went wrong in Key West...well, one day we were all drinking at the beach, having a good time, came back to the pool, he of course was being ridiculously loud and obnoxious, so I went to the room with a headache. I laid down because I knew that night we were going to be out late. We shared a hotel room with them and they all decided to come back to the room. My husband sat down next to me on the bed, and X (that's what we'll cal him) was yelling and being stupid in the room. So I said, under my breath, but my husband could hear me "shut up". X said "what did you say?" Me: "nothing, I was talking to my H". X: I know you said something, what was it?" Me: I said "shut the f*** up!" That was the end of it. He didn't talk to us the rest of the day. Later that night at the bar, I apologized to him, but the next day he said he didn't believe me because I didn't do it right away after I said it, and I had already had a few drinks when I apologized. So, needless to say, the remaining 4 days of our vacation was extemely awkward and we ended up by leaving early...thank god we drove down seperately!

     

    He got that mad just bc you told him to shut up when he was being obnoxious? And that ended the whole friendship? Seems like he kind of overreacted. Weird!

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