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feeling like a failure
i'm throwing in the towel on breastfeeding. it's been a struggle since the beginning but had gotten better but we seem to have regressed the past few days. its to the point i'm in tears and stressed out each time i feed her. not good.
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Re: feeling like a failure
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You are by no means a failure. You have to make the decision that is best for the whole family. At least you tried, that is more than a lot of people do.
I know from experience that it is tough. Ella wasn't even 2 days old when I started to suppliment and I believe she was 8 days old the last time I actually nursed her. She was eating for upwards of an hour at a time and was hungry again less than 2 hours later. It caused an extreme lack of sleep which threw me in to a bit of a funk and I decided my mental health was important for all of us. I have been able to continue with pumping but I still do not produce enough milk for her, most days she gets one bottle of formula. I felt bad about it when I stopped because she latched pretty well by my supply was way low and the poor thing was hungry allllll the time. When I first went to just pumping she was only getting 1-2 bottles of milk a day and she got formula the rest of the time.
It is good that she took to the bottle well. EPing has worked out well fr us. It is a pain sometimes but I love how convenient breastmilk is. Since it is good at room temp for several hours it easier to take along than formula.
I went through that when H1 was 3 weeks old... it's like I was terrified of her stirring and wanting to eat again because it hurt. so. much. In my opinion, a happy mom and happy baby are what is most important, so don't feel like a failure!
I made it 8 weeks with Sloane. She had difficulty latching on one side plus she was colicky and had reflux. We barely left the house but that was more due to colick than breastfeeding. She cried EVERY time I burped her. I mean screamed. Eventually, I found out I had an infection on my lips, yes, my lips. I had to go on steroids so I pumped and dumped and gave her formula. She did so awesome on the formula, I didn't have the heart to put her back to breast. She was happier and more content. Don't get me wrong, not every feed was horrible. I pumped once a day so my hubby would take one night feed so I could sleep and that helped but she was just happier overall on formula.
I am looking forward to breastfeeding #2 here in October. I am hoping for a better experience. I need the redo mentally!!!! I will also take more advantage of the lactation specialists and help.
You need to do what is best for you and family. I know when we switched to formula, it was a mental load off of me since hubby could also do more feeds. He enjoyed being able to be more involved other than cleaning the house!!!!
Awww, don't beat yourself up!!! This is the #1 thing that upsets me about breastfeeding v. formula feeding, we put too much guilt on ourselves if we give up. It is your choice, if formula was horrible they wouldn't sell it. Formula is food, it is good and you are making a decision that is best for yourself and for the baby. In the end the mom needs to be happy.
I also threw in the towel after about 3 weeks and never looked back. Formula feeding worked for us, it was the best decision I ever made, it made me happy, Davis was happy, Jeff was happy and in the end that was all that matters. Davis was getting food and he was perfectly content with formula. I do wish that I hadn't built breastfeeding up so much in my head before Davis was born, everything I read on the boards, etc.. made me feel like formula was just a failure so that really gave me a lot of mommy guilt when I realized breastfeeding wasn't for me.
In the end it really doesn't matter how you feed your baby, just feed the baby
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This is what happened with Kenleigh too. Don't feel like a failure!