Rude or not rude?

allioops414 · June 2011

This is silly, but I just wanted your (valued) opinions on something that's bugging me!

So my mom has a lot of first cousins, and I invited them all to my wedding and many of them came. They are the family you see at "weddings and funerals" so I was happy to invite them so my mom could spend time with them. One of said cousins has a son who got married a few months ago. They had a nice wedding, and there are a ton of pics on facebook. My parents were not invited, but no big deal. I get it, you can't invite everyone.

BUT my parents recently got an invitation for a "meet the newlyweds" party in their honor. WTF is that? To me, it's just an opportunity to collect more gifts, no? I can see MAYBE doing something like this if they had a small destination wedding, and wanted to celebrate with everyone at home, but they did NOT have a destination wedding. Weird right? My parents did not go, but my mom sent a generous gift. I think they are being rude What is wrong with people???

Thoughts? Feelings?

stellelinds25 · June 2011

Wtf is a meet the newlyweds party?! Sounds like it's a cop out party so they can get gifts from all the people who they didn't invite to their wedding. It was nice of your parents to send a gift, but I agree....it's rude and tacky!

waltzingmatilda13 · June 2011

Yeah, that definitely sounds like a condolence prize for those who weren't invited to the wedding. I would not have sent a gift, your parents are much nicer people than I am.

Marick · June 2011

That does seem pretty rude. . .

courtniko · July 2011

I vote rude, and gift grabby. That was very nice of your parents to send a gift, I would not have sent a gift.

allioops414 · July 2011

I know! I was mad that my mom sent a gift. She basically reciprocated the cash gift that this groom's parents gave me at OUR wedding, to which they came and ate a $150 a plate dinner. My mom gave the same gift and didn't even go. She's generous to a fault. She BETTER get a nice thank you card at least. Oh well, I think it's very tacky and I'm glad you agree with me!!!

rands09 · July 2011

courtniko:
I vote rude, and gift grabby. That was very nice of your parents to send a gift, I would not have sent a gift.

This - what will people think of next?

mickylvr1 · July 2011

I say it's rude/taky/greedy. If you can't invite me to your wedding, that's fine, I understand, but don't invite me to a "meet the newlyweds" party (whatever that is) later and expect a gift from me.

breannie · July 2011

I think thats pretty rude. I am not such a fan of gift grubbing. I agree that if it was a destination wedding that would have been totally acceptable to have a party like that when they got back, but that just seems like a reach when they had a pretty typical wedding.

If they really wanted to have a party I would have at least waited a bit and done something for the house, or children, or just a BBQ. Call it their new last name together's 1st annual or something. Then it is clear that it is just about everyone getting together.

dasmel30 · July 2011

Rude! Never heard of "meet the newlyweds" party (except for DW). I would not have sent a gift! Kudos to your mom for looking past it and seeing that they are familyl.....

friendlyturner · July 2011

It'd be one thing to have a housewarming party if they just so happened to get a new home immediately following their wedding. But a "meet the newlyweds" bash? Sounds like a scheming opportunity to collect more gifts from people you weren't willing to feed at your wedding.

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