Poll: Love

Mrs_W_Pookie · July 2011

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ashleemw · July 2011

Yes, very much. Even when he does dumb stuff (still can't wrap my head around the losing track of 3 hours thing...) I can't stay mad at him. He's really impressed me with stepping it up in the past few months, and I definitely love him more and more as the years pass by. I seriously melt when I see him being cute with the dogs, I can't imagine how it will be when he's with our child!

Temp103605875001677 · July 2011

Absolutely. Even though we drive each other crazy at times. He knows exactly what to do when I need something. He isn't selfish. He can move me from crying to laughing in moments. He is supportive of almost every crazy idea that I mention. He is taking a step of faith currently and agreeing that maybe its time for a big change.

This sounds cliche, but I fell in love all over again with him when Luke was born. He has been everything 10x more than I imagined.

ClaireDunphy · July 2011

DH & I are going through some shiz right now... Y'all know that. Love? Yes. In love? Meh.... Not so sure.

Mrs_W_Pookie · July 2011

ClaireDunphy:
Love? Yes. In love? Meh.... Not so sure.

Yeah, I wasn't quite sure how to differentiate between those two. I should have been very specific.

I do hope that you and your DH get back on track

luckyinlove11902 · July 2011

I really love his cute little butt. Wink

ashleemw · July 2011

luckyinlove11902:
I really love his cute little butt.

LOL. I really love JJ's bubble butt I sometimes call him "two-scoops"... he doesn't laugh.... haha

ClaireDunphy · July 2011

ashleemw:

luckyinlove11902:
I really love his cute little butt.

LOL. I really love JJ's bubble butt I sometimes call him "two-scoops"... he doesn't laugh.... haha

DH had such a nice butt when we met *sigh*

Then he lost weight & lost it Crying

Temp103605875001677 · July 2011

This may be flameable, so flame on Stick out tongue

I feel like our relationship goes through cycles. Like really in love with him and ehh love him. It could just be me and how our life plays out, but sometimes my feelings are stronger than others.

ClaireDunphy · July 2011

Mrs_W_Pookie:

ClaireDunphy:
Love? Yes. In love? Meh.... Not so sure.

Yeah, I wasn't quite sure how to differentiate between those two. I should have been very specific.

I do hope that you and your DH get back on track

Thank you Smile I'm just remaining optimistic that everything happens for a reason Yes

LXLX · July 2011

I have a long (and probably rambling) response to this, but I don't want to type it all out on my BB so I'll respond tonight. ETA: in the meantime, totally ditto 4806.

jodippls · July 2011

I think it's safe to say that I'm more "in love" with my H now than I was when we "fell in love" 6+ years ago.

luckyinlove11902 · July 2011

4-8-06:
This may be flameable, so flame on
I feel like our relationship goes through cycles. Like really in love with him and ehh love him. It could just be me and how our life plays out, but sometimes my feelings are stronger than others.

I think that's completely reasonable.

ashleemw · July 2011

luckyinlove11902:
4-8-06:
This may be flameable, so flame on
I feel like our relationship goes through cycles. Like really in love with him and ehh love him. It could just be me and how our life plays out, but sometimes my feelings are stronger than others.
I think that's completely reasonable.

I agree with this completely. It's all dependent on what's going on in our lives and other circumstances, but as a whole, I'd say definitely in love.

Mrs_W_Pookie · July 2011

4-8-06:
This may be flameable, so flame on
I feel like our relationship goes through cycles. Like really in love with him and ehh love him. It could just be me and how our life plays out, but sometimes my feelings are stronger than others.

I definitely don't think that is flammable. When DH is being a douche, I go through moments of, I can't believe I procreated with you! I don't say that to him though, that might not be so nice. It's safe to say that I feel the same way that you do sometimes.

clseale13 · July 2011

luckyinlove11902:
4-8-06:
This may be flameable, so flame on
I feel like our relationship goes through cycles. Like really in love with him and ehh love him. It could just be me and how our life plays out, but sometimes my feelings are stronger than others.
I think that's completely reasonable.

Yeah, of course there are couples that are exceptions...but I feel like this is probably the most natural thing for most relationships.

Soon2BMrsSikes · July 2011

Yes. I am crazy in love with him. He is absolutely the best thing in my life. Totally in love is the only way I can describe how I feel about him. And I love watching him prepare for the baby to get here. He was rubbing my stomach the other day and said "I love you Evan" and the baby kicked. Totally random, of course, but he just got this huge grin on his face. I melted.

I'm not trying to be all P&R, but it's the truth.

Lanerbell · July 2011

No, that's why I got a divorce. Stick out tongue

dollfinn19 · July 2011

I voted 'in love.' But, I do agree there are cycles. Not that I'd say I ever DON'T love him. This may sound bad, but there are days where I'm like..."Is this what married life is? Is this what I dreamed of?" And I don't think that's necessarily a reflection of him or me. Maybe just marriage is too romanticized in society? But it's not always picture perfect, and we shouldn't feel bad because of it. I do believe there should be romance in a marriage. And a marriage is work....equal work from both parties. But, I don't think we should feel bad if it's not always a Hollywood picture of what marriage or love "should" be.

LXLX · July 2011

dollfinn19:
I voted 'in love.' But, I do agree there are cycles. Not that I'd say I ever DON'T love him. This may sound bad, but there are days where I'm like..."Is this what married life is? Is this what I dreamed of?" And I don't think that's necessarily a reflection of him or me. Maybe just marriage is too romanticized in society? But it's not always picture perfect, and we shouldn't feel bad because of it. I do believe there should be romance in a marriage. And a marriage is work....equal work from both parties. But, I don't think we should feel bad if it's not always a Hollywood picture of what marriage or love "should" be.

*slow clap*I couldn't agree more and this is almost exactly what I was going to say. I think this is a very rational and realistic view. Sometimes I feel like a cynic for thinking like this, but then I take a step back and I'm proud of myself for being realistic.Anyway, thank you for saying this.

Temp103605875001677 · July 2011

dollfinn19:
I voted 'in love.' But, I do agree there are cycles. Not that I'd say I ever DON'T love him. This may sound bad, but there are days where I'm like..."Is this what married life is? Is this what I dreamed of?" And I don't think that's necessarily a reflection of him or me. Maybe just marriage is too romanticized in society? But it's not always picture perfect, and we shouldn't feel bad because of it. I do believe there should be romance in a marriage. And a marriage is work....equal work from both parties. But, I don't think we should feel bad if it's not always a Hollywood picture of what marriage or love "should" be.

Very well said!

PantsOffDanceOff · July 2011

DH and I have had a very rough two years. There are definitely periods of time where I have questioned if this is right for me. Not because I don't love him but because our specific issues are so effing hard (not that anybody else's aren't but depression just adds to an already difficult thing which is marriage). But the fact that we have a committment to make it work no matter what makes me love him even more. I know we will be stronger together when this is behind us. And yes, today, I am in love with my husband.

ClaireDunphy · July 2011

PantsOffDanceOff:
DH and I have had a very rough two years. There are definitely periods of time where I have questioned if this is right for me. Not because I don't love him but because our specific issues are so effing hard (not that anybody else's aren't but depression just adds to an already difficult thing which is marriage). But the fact that we have a committment to make it work no matter what makes me love him even more. I know we will be stronger together when this is behind us. And yes, today, I am in love with my husband.

We struggle massively with this. It's not just one thing... its a multitude of things & his OCD does not make it easier.

jacmdb · July 2011

DH and I hit a very bad rough patch around this time last year. I actually moved out for a few days because I was questioning if we should really be together. We went to counseling and now have a better relationship than ever. We learned a lot about communication which was our main issue. I can honestly say I love him more now than ever.

gullterre · July 2011

jacmdb:
DH and I hit a very bad rough patch around this time last year. I actually moved out for a few days because I was questioning if we should really be together. We went to counseling and now have a better relationship than ever. We learned a lot about communication which was our main issue. I can honestly say I love him more now than ever.

I am bummed I have been out of the loop the Past few days b/c it looks like you ladies have been having some darn good threads! Stick out tongue Jacmdb, I feel like we are now where you were last year. I have not moved out or anything but we are going through a terrible time right now and it makes me so sad, what with James here and everything. He just left for work for the next three weeks and i was happy to see him go. While he is gone I am going to look into some counseling. I doubt anyone will read this, it just feels good to get it out,

clseale13 · July 2011

gullterre:

jacmdb:
DH and I hit a very bad rough patch around this time last year. I actually moved out for a few days because I was questioning if we should really be together. We went to counseling and now have a better relationship than ever. We learned a lot about communication which was our main issue. I can honestly say I love him more now than ever.

I am bummed I have been out of the loop the Past few days b/c it looks like you ladies have been having some darn good threads! Jacmdb, I feel like we are now where you were last year. I have not moved out or anything but we are going through a terrible time right now and it makes me so sad, what with James here and everything. He just left for work for the next three weeks and i was happy to see him go. While he is gone I am going to look into some counseling. I doubt anyone will read this, it just feels good to get it out,

I read it. Zombie hugs. Left Hug

This thread is reassuring and so sad at the same time. I'm sad that 18% answered no. I'm sorry gullterre. I don't have any great words that will make you feel better, but you guys just went through a really big life change with a new baby and I imagine that DH's job must be difficult on relationship & family life. I know this time right after having James probably isn't what you imagined...but realistically it sadly seems that's true with a lot of life things. Life, marriage, relationships can definitely be way more challenging than we expected. I hope you're able to relax, enjoy your space & work on what you need while he's gone. I've had times when I've been happy for a break. Good for you for going to counseling. We're all always here if you need to vent.

jenhappy · July 2011

I totally agree with the cyclical sentiment. A marriage of two people means you're not always going to be on the same page at the same time.. but hopefully you can work to get back to the same page, even if it's not the page you shared before. I don't even know if that makes sense.

And ditto Cseale about this thread being reassuring and also sad. I'll be thinking about all of you ladies going through the less-fun part of the rollercoaster. It's obvious you're all putting a lot of effort into making things better, and I hope that you end up in a better place because of it.

jacmdb · July 2011

gullterre:
jacmdb:
DH and I hit a very bad rough patch around this time last year. I actually moved out for a few days because I was questioning if we should really be together. We went to counseling and now have a better relationship than ever. We learned a lot about communication which was our main issue. I can honestly say I love him more now than ever.
I am bummed I have been out of the loop the Past few days b/c it looks like you ladies have been having some darn good threads! Jacmdb, I feel like we are now where you were last year. I have not moved out or anything but we are going through a terrible time right now and it makes me so sad, what with James here and everything. He just left for work for the next three weeks and i was happy to see him go. While he is gone I am going to look into some counseling. I doubt anyone will read this, it just feels good to get it out,

I am sorry! I hope you guys can work things out. I can't remember if you work or are a SAHM but we went thru the EAP program at work so get a counselor and were really happy with her.

Good Luck. I never thought it would be so hard to make a marriage work.

Mrs_W_Pookie · July 2011

gullterre:

I am bummed I have been out of the loop the Past few days b/c it looks like you ladies have been having some darn good threads! Jacmdb, I feel like we are now where you were last year. I have not moved out or anything but we are going through a terrible time right now and it makes me so sad, what with James here and everything. He just left for work for the next three weeks and i was happy to see him go. While he is gone I am going to look into some counseling. I doubt anyone will read this, it just feels good to get it out.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I hope that this time apart will help clarify things for you. Marriage is definitely harder than one would think and then when children are involved it takes it to a whole new level. Hugs!

tlc_dav · July 2011

I agree with everyone who said it ebbs and flows, but overall, I love the hell out of my DH.

Kristin&Adam · July 2011

I am, but I agree 100% that its cyclic and there are times when I am so frustrated that I wonder what I was thinking when we got married. Then there are times like now, where things are great and we're happy and I know exactly why I married him.

Having a baby definitely throws a wrench in there - it totally changed the dynamic of our relationship. B's first year was really hard.

I'm sorry for all of you who are going through the rough times right now, and I hope that they pass quickly and you are happy and in love again soon.

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