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should I be offended?

so I am a bridesmaid in my cousin's wedding in aug and his fiance has been asking me lately about going to the gym with her. I am like ok, whats behind this? she has not asked once but she has asked me twice, I said, I will go with you on the weekends maybe but then she said, no we need to go everyday, wtf? ok, I have two kids, I work a full time job and I will be damned if I will be getting off of work everyday and working out at the gym. I know I am curvy but damn, lol

Re: should I be offended?

  • Maybe she feels that if you go every day she will HAVE to go every day and that with the buddy system she will be more likely to go. I don't think it reflects anything on you personally, its probably just her feeling like she has to be pushed to get to the gym and maybe having you there will help with that.
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  • I hope this is the case but now that I think about, she has been making comments like "we cannot have cake until after the wedding" so wen she bought up the gym thing I started thinking. Plus her fiance goes to the gym all the time so she could go with him
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    I hope this is the case but now that I think about, she has been making comments like "we cannot have cake until after the wedding" so wen she bought up the gym thing I started thinking. Plus her fiance goes to the gym all the time so she could go with him

     

    Um, yeah, I would be offended.   You can't ask someone to be a bridesmaid and then force them to go to boot camp to look the way you want them to look.  Sounds like a bridezilla in the making.   F*** that.


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  • i think i want to laugh, but i'm not sure Tongue Tied

    i really hope she isn't being rude and offensive!!!!! 

    bride brain is way worse than pregnant brain, don't you think?

  • I would have been annoyed with the nagging to go to the gym... but then at the we can't have cake until after the wedding I would have laughed in her face!!! hahaha and I'd make sure I was eating cake everytime I was around her!

    She definitely sounds like someone who wants to be on bridezillas... making girls weigh themselves, putting a lock on the fridge, making your bridesmaids workout.  If I encountered that I'd peace out from the wedding party!

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    I would have been offended at the gym comment but the cake would have put it over the edge!
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  • imageELF4321:

    imagebrownsugarbabe:
    I hope this is the case but now that I think about, she has been making comments like "we cannot have cake until after the wedding" so wen she bought up the gym thing I started thinking. Plus her fiance goes to the gym all the time so she could go with him

     

    Um, yeah, I would be offended.   You can't ask someone to be a bridesmaid and then force them to go to boot camp to look the way you want them to look.  Sounds like a bridezilla in the making.   F*** that.

    exactly! I love my curves, could I drop 20-30 pounds, yes but not b/c of your wedding and not on your terms, I will do it when I get good and ready, and right now I dont feel like it, lol. love it Devil
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    i think i want to laugh, but i'm not sure Tongue Tied

    i really hope she isn't being rude and offensive!!!!! 

    bride brain is way worse than pregnant brain, don't you think?

    yes, bride brain is far worse, I am like dude, the wedding is only for a few hours and plus, no one will be focused on the bridesmaids anyway, lol
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    I would have been annoyed with the nagging to go to the gym... but then at the we can't have cake until after the wedding I would have laughed in her face!!! hahaha and I'd make sure I was eating cake everytime I was around her!

    She definitely sounds like someone who wants to be on bridezillas... making girls weigh themselves, putting a lock on the fridge, making your bridesmaids workout.  If I encountered that I'd peace out from the wedding party!

    perfectly said, however,since the wedding is next month, I will just have to deal with her rude azz and makesure I eat plenty of cake, lol
  • you have to call her and tell her your dress doesn't fit.must be all that cake you eat every single day.

    ruin her weekend  Devil

  • imageMelanie2003:

    you have to call her and tell her your dress doesn't fit.must be all that cake you eat every single day.

    ruin her weekend  Devil

    lol, I love this one!
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