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Guess What I did!
I adore my MIL, I really really do!! But feel like she is just really holding on tight to her son, my DH, in terms of doing "motherly" stuff for him like making appointments, doing his laundry etc (yeah she tells him to bring over his work shirts if he wants...he doesn't; I take care of all housework in our house!). (Scheduling eighteen thousand family events so we can hang out with them every second of every day...posted about that earlier this week).
Well MIL made DH a dentist and Drs appt at the providers near their house (about 40 minutes away from our house). I called today, canceled them, and made new appointments at providers right near our house. I don't plan on telling MIL, but in the future when she tells DH she will be making him an appointment, DH will be saying "oh no Ma, my WIFE will take care of that."
felt very vindicated canceling the appointments that she made 
DH and I are building our own lives and can make our own appointments. Thank you!
Re: Guess What I did!
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
THIS THIS THIS - and you DH needs to cut those apron strings if he has to use a chainsaw to do it.
Ditto. The vibe I'm getting from your post is that you don't want MIL to mother your husband, you want to and that to me is creepy. Your husband is a grown adult who can take care of himself.
You're happy that your husband told his mom she doesn't need to be his servant because that's why he's got you?
Congratulations. You are now the proud mother of a 25 year old son.
this makes my head hurt. Why the heck doesn't your DH take care of himself?? does he have some sort of condition or disability that hinders him from doing these things for himself? or is he just lazy?
and apparently he cannot make his own appts. IMO if my husband couldn't pick up the phone to make an appt I'd be fine with him mom doing it as I am not my DH's MOM - I am his wife and his partner and it'd be a few less things for me to do if his mom did it for him. why are you so insecure??
I literally LOLed at this. He would sound like a petulant two year old.
Your H needs to put his big boy pants on and make his own appointments. And you need to stop competing with his mother as to who can take better care of the manchild.
Wait, what? First of all, this is between your DH and his Mom. She will continue to be overbearing and meddle until he makes her stop. Second of all, he is a grown man, he can make his own doctor's appointments.
There is no reason this needs to be a jealous little war between you and MIL, act like adults.
This.
Man, I need to get a spouse that does that.
OP- Did you H encourage his mother to do this?
Also, please consider that with a mindset like this you may very well be just like your MIL one day.
I needed a good laugh this afternoon Kuus!
Wow you ladies are just so supportive and kind! Thanks for all of the negativity--really what I was looking for here.