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Re: Octomom

  • Well when you have children like a golden retriever what do you expect.  She is so gross and I just wish she would just go away!!!
  • I'm very sad for her and her children.
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  • She needs help.  Many parents make negative comments about their kids in moments of stress, many parents hide in the bathroom to get some peace and quiet, most parents just don't say these things to the press.  
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  • I agree - she definitely needs help. I feel bad for her kids...that whole situation has been a hot mess from the very beginning.
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  • imageMrsOjoButtons:
    I'm very sad for her and her children.
    This. Clearly there is something within herself that is missing. She tried to fill that hole with babies. The problem with that is babies grow-up and require more and more. She does not have the resources, emotionally and financially, to support this family she was hell-bent on creating. She is suffering, which, IMO, is too bad, too sad. . . But, those kids are suffering--and it's her fault. Honestly, I think that someone needs to step in and take guardianship of the children. Sure, there are times I want to hide in the bathroom from my LO, but I'm the adult, so I don't.

    What pisses me off is that she went to great lengths to have these children. It would be one thing if she had a partner and was uber fertile. . . It's wrong that she underwent multiple (invasive) fertility treatments to create these children AND did not think through the logistics of raising her family. IMO, she approached having these kids in the way some people approach getting s dog or cat. Once the cute puppy/kitten/baby phase is over, they are left with living beings to raise that need love, care and cash.
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  • imageSmudges*Mom:
    imageMrsOjoButtons:
    I'm very sad for her and her children.
    This. Clearly there is something within herself that is missing. She tried to fill that hole with babies. The problem with that is babies grow-up and require more and more. She does not have the resources, emotionally and financially, to support this family she was hell-bent on creating. She is suffering, which, IMO, is too bad, too sad. . . But, those kids are suffering--and it's her fault. Honestly, I think that someone needs to step in and take guardianship of the children. Sure, there are times I want to hide in the bathroom from my LO, but I'm the adult, so I don't.

    What pisses me off is that she went to great lengths to have these children. It would be one thing if she had a partner and was uber fertile. . . It's wrong that she underwent multiple (invasive) fertility treatments to create these children AND did not think through the logistics of raising her family. IMO, she approached having these kids in the way some people approach getting s dog or cat. Once the cute puppy/kitten/baby phase is over, they are left with living beings to raise that need love, care and cash.

    I worked in foster care for over 7 years and the information in that article does not meet the grounds for removal.   Also, removal is very traumatic to the children.  In this particular situation there is no way they would find a home that could take all of those children so they would be split up which adds another level of trauma.  The first step should be to put support services in place to try to maintain the children in the home.


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  • Thats incredibly sad.  

    I watched her on Oprah when I was in the hospital and she's pretty frazzled.  It just kills me that she regrets her children.  Poor babies :(  they didn't ask to be born. 

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  • imagemysticl:

    imageSmudges*Mom:
    imageMrsOjoButtons:
    I'm very sad for her and her children.
    This. Clearly there is something within herself that is missing. She tried to fill that hole with babies. The problem with that is babies grow-up and require more and more. She does not have the resources, emotionally and financially, to support this family she was hell-bent on creating. She is suffering, which, IMO, is too bad, too sad. . . But, those kids are suffering--and it's her fault. Honestly, I think that someone needs to step in and take guardianship of the children. Sure, there are times I want to hide in the bathroom from my LO, but I'm the adult, so I don't.

    What pisses me off is that she went to great lengths to have these children. It would be one thing if she had a partner and was uber fertile. . . It's wrong that she underwent multiple (invasive) fertility treatments to create these children AND did not think through the logistics of raising her family. IMO, she approached having these kids in the way some people approach getting s dog or cat. Once the cute puppy/kitten/baby phase is over, they are left with living beings to raise that need love, care and cash.

    I worked in foster care for over 7 years and the information in that article does not meet the grounds for removal.   Also, removal is very traumatic to the children.  In this particular situation there is no way they would find a home that could take all of those children so they would be split up which adds another level of trauma.  The first step should be to put support services in place to try to maintain the children in the home.


    Perhaps I should have been more clear. I don't necessarily think that the children need to be removed from their home/family unit, but I think that Octomom has shown that she does not have sound decision making skills. She has repeatedly made poor choices and those choices impact her brood. I feel that someone, besides Octomom (and her parents) needs to ensure that the welfare of those kids is the driving factor in all decisions. Really, who tells a national gossip magazine that they eat their meals in the bathroom to escape her 14 children? Heck, most moms I know couldn't even get peace and quiet in the loo because the kids follow them in! I have not peed in private for nearly two years!

    Generally, I am not one to promote interference with families, but this is an extreme situation. These children need to be protected or insulated from their mother's inability to see beyond herself and her selfish needs and wants.
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  • imageSmudges*Mom:
    imagemysticl:

    imageSmudges*Mom:
    imageMrsOjoButtons:
    I'm very sad for her and her children.
    This. Clearly there is something within herself that is missing. She tried to fill that hole with babies. The problem with that is babies grow-up and require more and more. She does not have the resources, emotionally and financially, to support this family she was hell-bent on creating. She is suffering, which, IMO, is too bad, too sad. . . But, those kids are suffering--and it's her fault. Honestly, I think that someone needs to step in and take guardianship of the children. Sure, there are times I want to hide in the bathroom from my LO, but I'm the adult, so I don't.

    What pisses me off is that she went to great lengths to have these children. It would be one thing if she had a partner and was uber fertile. . . It's wrong that she underwent multiple (invasive) fertility treatments to create these children AND did not think through the logistics of raising her family. IMO, she approached having these kids in the way some people approach getting s dog or cat. Once the cute puppy/kitten/baby phase is over, they are left with living beings to raise that need love, care and cash.

    I worked in foster care for over 7 years and the information in that article does not meet the grounds for removal.   Also, removal is very traumatic to the children.  In this particular situation there is no way they would find a home that could take all of those children so they would be split up which adds another level of trauma.  The first step should be to put support services in place to try to maintain the children in the home.


    Perhaps I should have been more clear. I don't necessarily think that the children need to be removed from their home/family unit, but I think that Octomom has shown that she does not have sound decision making skills. She has repeatedly made poor choices and those choices impact her brood. I feel that someone, besides Octomom (and her parents) needs to ensure that the welfare of those kids is the driving factor in all decisions. Really, who tells a national gossip magazine that they eat their meals in the bathroom to escape her 14 children? Heck, most moms I know couldn't even get peace and quiet in the loo because the kids follow them in! I have not peed in private for nearly two years!

    Generally, I am not one to promote interference with families, but this is an extreme situation. These children need to be protected or insulated from their mother's inability to see beyond herself and her selfish needs and wants.

    I agree.  There needs to be some type of child advocate involved.  It sounds like she is on a down ward spiral.  She's not all there to begin with.  I'm honestly afraid for her children.  The last thing we want to see on the news anytime soon is a murder/suicide of Octomom and her 14 children. 

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  • imageSmudges*Mom:
    imagemysticl:

    imageSmudges*Mom:
    imageMrsOjoButtons:
    I'm very sad for her and her children.
    This. Clearly there is something within herself that is missing. She tried to fill that hole with babies. The problem with that is babies grow-up and require more and more. She does not have the resources, emotionally and financially, to support this family she was hell-bent on creating. She is suffering, which, IMO, is too bad, too sad. . . But, those kids are suffering--and it's her fault. Honestly, I think that someone needs to step in and take guardianship of the children. Sure, there are times I want to hide in the bathroom from my LO, but I'm the adult, so I don't.

    What pisses me off is that she went to great lengths to have these children. It would be one thing if she had a partner and was uber fertile. . . It's wrong that she underwent multiple (invasive) fertility treatments to create these children AND did not think through the logistics of raising her family. IMO, she approached having these kids in the way some people approach getting s dog or cat. Once the cute puppy/kitten/baby phase is over, they are left with living beings to raise that need love, care and cash.

    I worked in foster care for over 7 years and the information in that article does not meet the grounds for removal.   Also, removal is very traumatic to the children.  In this particular situation there is no way they would find a home that could take all of those children so they would be split up which adds another level of trauma.  The first step should be to put support services in place to try to maintain the children in the home.


    Perhaps I should have been more clear. I don't necessarily think that the children need to be removed from their home/family unit, but I think that Octomom has shown that she does not have sound decision making skills. She has repeatedly made poor choices and those choices impact her brood. I feel that someone, besides Octomom (and her parents) needs to ensure that the welfare of those kids is the driving factor in all decisions. Really, who tells a national gossip magazine that they eat their meals in the bathroom to escape her 14 children? Heck, most moms I know couldn't even get peace and quiet in the loo because the kids follow them in! I have not peed in private for nearly two years!

    Generally, I am not one to promote interference with families, but this is an extreme situation. These children need to be protected or insulated from their mother's inability to see beyond herself and her selfish needs and wants.

    In the eyes of child services this isn't close to an extreme situation.  An extreme situation is a child not having anything at all to eat for several days, a child beaten so badly they are hospitalized, a child forced to live in a cage, a child pimped out by their parent for drugs, a child who is left home alone for days with the adult not coming home at all, a house that looks like an episode of Hoarders.  

    I agree this woman needs help.  I agree that she made less than responsible choices in her life that directly impacted her children.   I agree that talking to a gossip magazine about her issues shows poor judgment.  However, the reality is that right now she needs to help herself.  She's a good candidate for abuse prevention and family preservation services but most likely she will need to seek these out for herself. 

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  • I'm wondering if she has the audacity to say that to the press, what is she doing at home when no one is watching, besides locking herself in the bathroom?  She needs some help.  It's a shame the laws can't allow for more direct involvement at this point.
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    I'm wondering if she has the audacity to say that to the press, what is she doing at home when no one is watching, besides locking herself in the bathroom?  She needs some help.  It's a shame the laws can't allow for more direct involvement at this point.

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  • I think she is probably talking about how dire her situation/finances are to the media so people will feel badly and give her help/money.
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  • imageMaryboo247:
    I think she is probably talking about how dire her situation/finances are to the media so people will feel badly and give her help/money.

    I had that thought as well but to degrade your children like that in the process...horrible. 

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  • imagemysticl:

    In the eyes of child services this isn't close to an extreme situation.  An extreme situation is a child not having anything at all to eat for several days, a child beaten so badly they are hospitalized, a child forced to live in a cage, a child pimped out by their parent for drugs, a child who is left home alone for days with the adult not coming home at all, a house that looks like an episode of Hoarders.; 

    I agree this woman needs help.  I agree that she made less than responsible choices in her life that directly impacted her children.   I agree that talking to a gossip magazine about her issues shows poor judgment.  However, the reality is that right now she needs to help herself.  She's a good candidate for abuse prevention and family preservation services but most likely she will need to seek these out for herself. 

    I think her house probably resembles an episode of Hoarders...Child Hoarders.
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