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Spotting: Update
Soooo....I don't know if you guys remember asking for advice about spotting adn whether I should go to the doctor?
Yes, I know this isn't the bump, but I feel far more comfortable over here.
Anyway, I just got back from the doctors. My blood tests are crap and they could only see a sac, no yolk on my ultrasound.
Apparently, either I'm super early and I'm a ridiculously late ovulator, I had a twin that reabsorbed, or I am miscarrying. It's 50% I am miscarrying. Great odds right?
I can't do anything about it right now. I have t wait a week and a half to see if I just pass it out on my own, or if they have to take it, or if by some miracle everything turns out ok.
I'm pretty sad about this. It sucks. I was almost completely convinced that the spotting and cramping meant nothing. Turns out it did. I'm also pretty annoyed. I told two of my family members so far and all they can say is," don't worry, it's 50% good and that's great". This infuriates me for some reason. Like I'm being overly dramatic that I just got all test results back that say my pregnancy isn't evolving normally.
oh well....just wanted to share. yay.
TTC since 2010
Me: 36, slightly elevated FSH. Everything else (hysterescopy, HSG, b/w) normal.
DH:30, with super sperm? >200mil post wash
BFP #1 - May 2011 - m/c @ 8weeks
IUI #1 - July 26 2012 - Femara = BFN
Suprise BFP Jan 15 2013. Hope this one sticks!
Re: Spotting: Update
i'm sorry, alicia, that is always hard. that is why i never ever want to tell anyone (even say out loud) that i am preggs until i am like 9 months because i have a fear of this happening. did you know 1 in 4 women have a miscarriage???
none of this helps though, and it is still upsetting. i think your family members were just trying to cheer you up and say something like "i am sure it will work out!" but in a moment like this, nothing helps and the way they said it was not as kind as it could have been. you are NOT being over dramatic, this is a BIG deal and you deserve respect and sympathy. But here is hoping that they are right and that you and that fertilized egg and just fine. keep us posted.
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I'm sorry Alicia, I hope like hell that isn't the case. It is devastating. People honestly usually don't know what to say so they end up saying the wrong thing instead of just saying hey, sorry, I'm thinking of you. Do you want me to give your family members that are not being sensitive to you right now a high kick to the face? Hang in there. If you need anything I am local. Let me know.
Oh, Alicia. I am so, so sorry that you are going through this right now. However this turns out, remember that you and Chris can get through it together, and you have us here for support.
I'll be thinking of you.
Thanks guys. Really.
And I know my family is just trying to be supportive. I just wish they could acknowledge what's going on.
My cousin just told me that they couldn't find her daughter's yolk at 5 weeks. Most encouraging thing I've heard all day.
TTC since 2010
Me: 36, slightly elevated FSH. Everything else (hysterescopy, HSG, b/w) normal.
DH:30, with super sperm? >200mil post wash
BFP #1 - May 2011 - m/c @ 8weeks
IUI #1 - July 26 2012 - Femara = BFN
Suprise BFP Jan 15 2013. Hope this one sticks!
I'm so sorry, Alicia. I'm sending you good thoughts and really hope the LO is able to hang in there. We're all here for you. *hugs*
Did you ever do any charting or anything to know approximately when you ovulate to kind of gauge how far along you should/could be?
IUI #1 10/12/11 (Bravelle + HCG + Prometrium & acupuncture) = 10/26 BFP! Beta #1=250, Beta #2= 615. 1st u/s 11/8.
I was kinda half hearted charting. I did do a round of the ovulation test for two months and I did ovulate a couple days later than expected. I just went and looked at my dates again and I guess it's possible that maybe I'm just very early, but that doesn't explain the beta levels not rising.
I can't decide if I should remain hopeful or just grieve now and be over with - I really don't want to set myself up for disappointment.
Thanks everyone for being so supportive.
TTC since 2010
Me: 36, slightly elevated FSH. Everything else (hysterescopy, HSG, b/w) normal.
DH:30, with super sperm? >200mil post wash
BFP #1 - May 2011 - m/c @ 8weeks
IUI #1 - July 26 2012 - Femara = BFN
Suprise BFP Jan 15 2013. Hope this one sticks!
Late to the party (as usual). Alicia, you're in my thoughts and I'm sending lots of positive vibes your way. I truly hope everything turns out okay for you and Chris.
Big hugs!