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Who has to throw the baby shower?
My sister-in-law is pregnant with her first child! Yay! My dilemma is, who should be throwing the shower? She is an only child who lives in Virginia, her mother in law, husband's family, and myself live in PA, and her mom and dad live in california with all of her extended family.
Her mom did throw her wedding shower in VA and the family flew in from CA and traveled from PA. At that point in time, I was not yet married and not officially in the family. Do I have an obligation to offer to throw a shower? If yes, what state do you have it in?
Re: Who has to throw the baby shower?
You are not obligated to throw a shower, but you can if you want.
Talk to SIL and see what she wants. She can have more than one shower, so her family in CA can host one there if they like and you could host one closer to where she lives.
Nobody is obligated to throw a shower for her. You can throw her one if you wish, and you can host it wherever you think would be practical.
I would call her mother and MIL and run your idea by them, to be polite and so that you can find out if they have any plans for her already. They can always throw her a local shower if they wish.
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i'm going to assume that you know that showers are a gift and that you're not under any obligation to throw one and that you'd like to throw it to be nice.
that being said-is there any way that you can get in contact with any of her good friends? ask them if they're planning anything and explain the situation.
Hi,
I wanted to let you know that no specific person is obligated to throw her a baby shower. Putting myself in her shoes I would never think that my sister in law would be the one to throw me the shower. If you do decide that you would like to do that I would simply call her and ask if she would rather it be in her home state or out of town. I would assume she would like it in her home state so more of her family and friends could make it. However, I live in CO with my husband, my parents and majority of my friends live in IL and my cousins/aunts/grandma live in KY so honestly for me I had three showers one thrown in CO by my classmates, one in my home state IL thrown by my mom and one in KY pretty much thrown by my mom this one was very simple we went to a restaurant. I would definitely say NO 100% you are in no way responsible for throwing her a shower and if you did you'd be super nice to do that for someone. Hope this helps. you can always send her a nice baby gift or offer to come out after the baby is born to help out around the house if she needs anything.