Okay, this sounds like the typical beebee post, however I beg to differ.
There is so much history to this post, but I can only give a few otherwise I'll bore you like it bores me.
MIL was married to a man who was a little strange. When MIL was 43 she had SIL and 8 years later MIL and man divorced. This man was weird and MIL blamed all things on him. House being messy-man's fault, SIL being unruly-man's fault, etc etc etc.
Once MIL and SIL were on their own, I realized (as did others) that it was not all man's fault. MIL was perpetuating some behavior and liked to blame.
Fast Forward about 3 years. MIL is now giving up on being a parent. Will tell SIL that she wants to give her up to a foster family because she's so bad and won't listen. SIL is fine when she's with us, listens, is courteous, friendly and a good kid.
MIL has a history of telling people she can "see the big picture, and they cannot". MIL is just cahrazy. I love her to pieces, but she raised 4 other children and can't seem to with SIL. It's like she's just given up, and thrown her hands in the air and wants others to deal with it.
Poor H and his whole family (all the sibs) are all up in arms because MIL is just crazy. Poor SIL had to be told yesterday that she would never be in a foster family before one of us (the kids) would take care of her. I just hope this gets all straightened out and MIL gets her head out of her ass soon.
Vent over.
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Good God! You should just take SIL in. That is not healthy for her to be in that environment.
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That's so sad for your SIL. H's niece was told the same things when she was younger. She was taken in by the ILs and ran away and never cam back. She lives with some cousins, but she won't come back near her father.
Yeah. She's a good kid. I feel bad, but the siblings are just all completely in arms about it.
I also have to mention that almost ALL of the siblings moved out before they graduated or very shortly after. Because MIL was just a kook when it came to them being teenagers. None of the kids were bad. They went to school, had jobs and were productive.
It's frustrating.
And I would love to take her in, but I don't know if I can be selfless enough. That's in all honesty.
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That's nothign to feel bad about O-face. You shouldn't be in this position anyway, she's your MIL's child, not yours. But I'm sure if it came down to it and she really needed it, you would be more than willing to open your home to her.
Absolutely. I told H that.
BIL (douchecunt) said "I should just go over there and take her and then someone else can keep her".
Yeah, swoop in like the hero you AREN'T and then take all the credit when you don't do anything. *smh*
H is very firm with SIL and tells her that she will never be without a home.
Good for your H!