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Overseas Spouse = MIA Friends
I guess when your spouse deploys/goes to work overseas is when you truly figure out who your friends are. Or at least that's the case for me. So many people said to K before she left "Don't worry, we'll take care of J and the baby" and yet they are never around. I don't need to be taken care of, but to be included in activities now and again would be nice. The 4th was our first holiday without K or family (I went home for Easter) and not a single person attempted to include DD and I in their weekend parties. I reached out to people too. I tried to meet up with people but nothing worked.
If DW decides to go overseas again I'm definitely moving home. I love my child dearly but I would give anything to hand her over to family for 3 hours so I could get a pedicure or go to the movies.
I don't know how you ladies do multiple deployments. I realize overall things are great and LO and I are having a great time and a good life. But when these moody pity party moments hit they are awful. 
Anyone else want to let out a Tuesday morning vent?
Re: Overseas Spouse = MIA Friends
lol! I just realized I used the sentence that I hate hearing and I'm sure you all hear way too often. Oops, sorry.
Don't sweat, it. I've noticed over the years that people who aren't directly involved in this kind of life feel awkward around us. They don't mean anything by it. I once had a friend tell me she didn't invite me to a party because she didn't think I would be up for it and she didn't want me to be a big downer for everyone else. Thanks. People suck sometimes, but you are right. You really do figure out who your friends are when your SO goes overseas.
Sometimes you have to get the ball rolling by inviting people over for lunch, out to coffee, for a playdate, or whatever. You may be able to find a few people who will be available for regular get-togethers so you can set something up every week or every other week.
ITA. I have a group of 'mom' friends whom I get together with a few times a month. I guess yesterday I was just missing that 'family' feel.
I need to focus on finding a babysitter. I've had a mother's helper but it just never clicked enough for me to leave her alone with LO (she usually just played with her so I could do yard work, pay bills, etc). Having just a few hours to myself would be awesome.