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s/o hell yeah post below
I know the author of the article below is raising his son in a two dad household and I wonder how much influence two males had on how their son views discipline and behavior, given the stereotypical picture of kids behaving better for their dad than for their mom.
So, do your kid(s) behave differently for each parent? Did you, as a child, behave differently for your mom than for your dad?
Re: s/o hell yeah post below
My siblings and I were better behaved by far with my dad. He was The Punisher. You had to be an idiot to purposely piss him off at the grocery store/church/whatever.
I do not see a noticable difference in the way Tori behaves for me and DH. She has good and bad moments for both of us.
The older girls are a different story. I have heard shocking stories about behavior at their dad's. (talking back, yelling, lying, defiance) They would never dare act like that at my house. But he spent so many years trying to get them to "pick him" that he was never an authority figure. They have little respect for him.
A&J behave much better for DH.
I was the same for both parents. They ran a tight ship for me. Their standards weren't the same for my sister and she runs over my Mom and kisses my Dad's ass.
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My kid (B is too little to care who's face he screams in) doesn't really act any differently with me vs DH. The issue we have is home vs away. His behavior (generally speaking) is far better in public than it is at home. We do have the occasional meltdown in public, but usually his tantrums are saved for at home.
We as kids were worse for my mom than my dad. My dad is terrifying, my mom not so much.
Evan is only 15 months old, but he behaves the same for both of us (the good and the bad).
Growing up my brother and I behaved the same for my parents, but we got away with a lot more with my dad. Honestly, my dad didn't take care of us on his own when we were small. He couldn't have handled it. And my mom didn't believe in the "wait until your dad gets home" line. She was judge, jury, and executioner.
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Pretty much this. My dad is the epitome of mild mannered, with a good dose of absent-minded-professor-type thrown in he was ALWAYS the push over.
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DD behaves better for me, but DH wasn't Daddy until she was almost 5 - so there are a lot of other factors with that. I'm learning to back off and let him discipline without stepping in.
My brother and I were the same with both parents. My Dad traveled a lot so my little 5'1" Mom was terrifying to us.
For my sister, who was 10 when they divorced, it was a different story.
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This was my parents in a nutshell, double for my dad. All he had to do was look at us and we were done.
Marion is far naughtier with Josh than she is with me. But like Sigmund's Girl said about her mom, I'm judge, jury and executioner. I'm probably far too strict with her and really really need to learn to let up somewhat or she'll resent me the rest of her life.
Josh is more lenient (and probably less observant) than I am
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Yes. similar to Duchess when considering behavior for step-mom (who was my 2nd mom since I was <2 yrs old so she really was like any other mom).
My mom had completely different parenting styles than my dad. So I'm not sure how I could compare. I adapted to hers better and usually fell in line with her parenting, but hers was easier - you knew where the boundary was and feared your life if you crossed it, but also knew life was smooth sailing if you didn't.
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This is horrible, but we were never alone with my dad... Though they were/are married, my mom did 99% of the parenting. Dad offered harsher punishments, but we never acted a differnt with him because it was always my mom or both parents, never just my dad alone.
My parents set guide lines.. Stay within the lines and life is good... cross the lines and... well, I don't really know, but we didn't ever cross it for fear of the other side.
I was worse for my mom in some ways - definitely I was meaner to her. My parents were divorced - mom was the parent, dad was the playmate. If there are no rules, you can't break them. But my dad was/is such a loosey-goosey laid-back kind of guy that he was more likely to do stuff that made me uncomfortable because I was more uptight like my mom.
E is slightly better for me. But that has less to do with our disciplining and more to do with the fact that I actually listen to her and respond to her and let her do things her own way if there's no reason not to. DH can be in the same room and have no clue what she's playing because he only listens if she specifically gets his attention first. And this tends to make her grumpy. It also makes DH grumpy. And they both have the same grumpy face... but DH doesn't realize it and thinks she's making some random "mean face" at him. But it's a perfect reflection of his face. So they get into a grump-off and it's not pretty.
William is pretty much the same for both of us. He is very much a daddy's boy, but he will throw a fit for his dad just the same as he does for me. It typically has to do with his mood, and neither of us can change that. He woke up on the wrong side of the bed today (after going to bed super late last night), and he was pretty difficult until he got a good nap.
My dad was not very present in my life growing up, so my mom filled both roles. She's a scary person if you cross her, that's for sure.
This is true for Wyatt too. He is 100% daddy's boy, but his behavior is generally the same for both of us. I am the stricter parent, though, so I have more "rules" and greater chances for breaking them, I guess.
I was raised by only my father.
They act the same with both of us.
My parents divorced, and my dad was never really around much partially because he travelled a lot), so I honestly don't remember how I behaved with him. When he remarried, my stepmother wasn't a strict disciplinarian, but then again, we never gave her much trouble. However, we were 11 and 9 when they got married, so we weren't in too difficult a stage yet.
I behaved better for my dad. My brother behaved better for my mom.
I think it had more to do with our personalities than anything--I've always (and still) gotten along better with my daddy. I have mother issues.