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I'm having irrational beeotchee moments today, long
MIL and SIL want to come over and paint Owens room and the baby's room today. I had a meltdown last night to dh about this. I just dont feel good (sinus infection) and I dont feel like paint shopping, dont want to spend the money on the paint, and they cant paint today anyway because there are nail holes that need to be spackled first, and I cant exactly keep the windows open to air out the fumes, and I dont want to spend the money on the low VOC paint, and I just dont want to be bothered with this shitt when I dont really care to do it anyway - the rooms are fine. MIL keeps asking me what color to paint it, and I dont really give a shitt because they are a pale yellow and a khaki now, and thats pretty neutral enough - wtf does she want to paint them, white? She wants to help, I know, and she is so fixated on this painting bullshitt, but I need help with other things first - like, getting the baby's clothes unpacked, getting Owen's clothes moved over to a new dresser that I havent bought yet and need to shop for, and getting a chance to get to BRU without a child so I can pick up the remainder of what I need, super cleaning the house, getting things ready to go, washing walls, PAINTING IS NOT A PRIORITY ON THIS LIST - so I wish she would just drop it already. DH is calling them off my back today.
If she wanted to help, she should babysit Owen so I can get this stuff done. Thats what I really need. Or help me get stuff done around this house. Or help me go shopping and wrangle Owen in the store so I can make some decisions.
I'm just irrationally annoyed for some reason. Hormones, I know.
And, my mom is coming into town to "help" with the baby when he gets here, like, a week after he is born - and if she would cook and clean, that would be such a relief. But I know my damn drama sis is going to want to dump her kid off here with my mom, and this house is NOT going to be a party house, or a babysitting house, and I know that it is going to cause shitt. I just know drama sis is going cause a scene about this, but I want to be all bratty and say "Mom is not here to have a family reunion and play with the grandkids all week - she is here to help ME out, so stay away". Ugh. Its not my problem that my parents hate each other and my dad doesnt want my mom in his house, where my sister lives.
Lastly, we were talking about godparents for the baby, and I dont want my sister to be one, once again - mostly because she doesnt go to church, doesnt have the greatest morals, and isnt who I would choose for anyone, period. I know that this will cause a shittpot of drama, but I dont care - and family is pressuring me saying "its your sister" but I dont give a shitt if we share the same dna. We arent close, we dont have much in common, I maybe see her once a month. I'm sticking to my guns, because its MY child. This is right, right?
Bleh. This should be an awesome day. NOT. Thanks for listening 
Re: I'm having irrational beeotchee moments today, long
If we could crack open a beer (or 3) right now and b*tch, you and I would be a team of drunken nesties.
So sorry about all the drama.
Your h's taking care of MIL, ask her to help with Owen or offer to go shopping. Check some of those things that you need to get done off your list.
Tell your mom how it is (I know this is tough, I had to tell my mom this morning to lay the f-off. She's been calling every day, is baby here yet? No, but I am tempted to say yes I had him Saturday and didn't call).
We didn't do godparents for this reason (we talked to our pastor about it and he was okay with it- we're Methodist though so that might make a differance), too much drama between family members.
Hang in there.
I'd be pretty annoyed too, Tiff. If painting is not a priority then don't let it happen. Why's she all gung-ho about it when it's not even something you were wanting? Wait until the boys are older and they can help decide what they want in their own room.
As far as godparents go - we just went through this with Amelie. I don't think godparents even need to be family. I see it as a way to grow your family. Family is already family and they'll always be there. We named friends for Owen's godparents and Amelie's godmother because they were already "like family" so we went ahead and made them "part of the family" by naming them godparents. This is totally your choice and don't let anyone push you on it. Your sister seems like a real "gem." I wouldn't name her either.
Tell MIL and SIL that when they come over you have things you need help with. First is hanging with Owen while you go shopping. The rest will be a checklist style and they can just choose one and get at it.
Regarding MIL, can Nick tell her what would REALLY help you out? Would she go for that and actually be helpful? I would be equally annoyed.
Regarding your mom-- how do you combat your sister dropping her daughter off? Can you tell your mom absolutely not to becoming the drop off daycare?
AAAAAND, absolutely no on the godmother. We don't use our siblings as godparents....and we don't feel bad about it
Oy. You poor thing. That all sounds very frustrating.
I would absolutely not use the sister for a godparent. We used one sister and not the other and it did cause some drama, but everyone's over it. But, the sister realizes that she doesn't go to church and has even said recently she's not sure she believes in God, so she understood. She was hurt, but she got it.
Hang in there. Hopefully your mom will be more help than you expect her to be and your ILs will get a clue.
Stick to your guns on all this stuff. You're right, and you know it. Good luck!
I'm sorry, Tiff!
I think Nick should tell his mom if she really wants to help you she'll stay with Owen while you do stuff that actually needs to be done. If you are ok with the rooms as is then there's NO reason she should care.
Get some rest today! If you want I could meet you and shop later. I'm off at 2 and need to hit up BRU anyway
love is for every her, love is for every him, love is for everyone
I'm going to try and do it today around his naptime, at noon. Hopefully this is a good plan. I'm just going to go balls to the wall and get it all done today hopefully.
YES, I will be the godmother!
In all honesty though - Audrey & Owen love each other, call me when you've got schitt to do! Truly, we would have fun.