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t & p for my friend
sooo... Remember last week that I posted that my bff was pregnant? Well I got to meet with her yesterday for a long lunch and she filled me in on so really bad stuff she is going through right now.
She said 4 days before she was suppose to leave to go on a 3 1/2 week long trip to California her DH came in and said he was quit his job and found another in his hometown which is about 45 minutes from where they are living right now. He said he was moving there and she could come if she wanted to or stay but he really wanted her to come. She said she could not she had just signed another contract to teach and their home was in their town. He stayed there until she left and then when she left he moved out. She came back home on Thursday and had her annual done that Monday and found out she was pregnant.
After the shock wore off she called him and let him know that they were going to have a baby. She said it is fine if you tell your family but tell them not to put anything on facebook (his mom uses it as a forum for her family and broadcast everything on it). She said she wanted to announce it before anyone did. He took it as she was not going to say anything at all on Facebook and thought it was suppose to be hush hush. So after she told all her family and friends she put it on Facebook to announce to those friends that you just are not that close with. Well the next day her MIL called her jumping down her throat yelling at her asking her why she was not allowed to put anything on facebook blah blah. My friend explained it to her MIL and her MIL still did not get it.
Anyways so my friend and her DH talked and she told him either he needed to move back home or they needed to seperate. She as not raising their baby while they lived apart they might as well be divorced if that is going to happen. She said I want you to move back home but if you don't I understand and I can make it own my own raising the baby.
Right now she is breaking. I have never seen her so low and we have been bff for 10 years now. I know there is nothing I can do but be there to give her a shoulder to cry on. I did tell her if she needed to get out of their house she could come stay with me. But honestly I feel so helpless right now. I mean I knew things were bad for them but I did not know they were this bad.
Re: t & p for my friend
OMG Carmen that is all just awful
I wonder what made him want to pick up and move away so suddenly (not just a job)?
Many T&P to your BFF, I hope she can figure out what is best for her and the baby and what will make her happy. Keep me posted.
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That is horrible. Sounds like something is going on with him that is more than the job because if it is not I would think he could commute some for at least a year.
Glad she has a friend like you there for her because she is going to need lots of support right now, especially when the baby comes.
Thoughts for your friend.