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Marriage Survey (since it's anniversary month!)
I figured since it's our month again, and we've all been married for a year (or almost) that a survey about our married lives might be fun!!
Is this your first marriage?
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises?
What do you have lovers spats about the most?
Did you live together before you got married?
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws?
How does he feel about his inlaws?
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple?
What is something you have in common?
Do you agree on pizza toppings?
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher?
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work)
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions?
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his?
Re: Marriage Survey (since it's anniversary month!)
Is this your first marriage? Yes.
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises? Not really. I think we were both ready and well prepared, so nothing surprising.
What do you have lovers spats about the most? We never really have argued about anything. Usually if we have a spat, it's because one of us is crabby and says something to the other. Really the only thing we ever have "discussions" on is religion. We were raised in 2 different religions (although both Christian) and deciding what to raise our children sometimes causes discussion.
Did you live together before you got married? Not technically, although we stayed together most nights for about 18 months before getting married. We still had our own places and space though. (Mostly because my mom and dad would have gone through the roof if we had actually moved in together. They are very traditional.)
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws? I love my in-laws. I got really lucky. My MIL and FIL are honestly like second parents to me. They have always been so welcoming and loving. My SIL is amazing, and one of my closest friends. I absolutely adore my nieces and nephew. And my BIL absolutely cracks me up.
How does he feel about his inlaws? I think I'm a little closer with his entire family than he is with mine, but he loves my family. You know how they say you marry someone like your dad? I totally did. They have so many little random things in common. My brother and SIL live in our town, about 5 minutes away and Gabe enjoys spending time with them.
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? A little of both. We are SO alike on so many things (they way we spend and save, our values, work ethic, etc.) But our childhoods were very different - I grew up in the city, and he is a totally "country boy".
What is something you have in common? We love baseball (but rival teams.)
Do you agree on pizza toppings? Eh. We agree on pepperoni. That's about it. He likes mushrooms with his pepperoni, I hate mushrooms. I also like pineapple and ham pizza, he hates pineapple.
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? He almost always does the trash. I usually do the dishwasher.
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) He does. He is a morning person. I love to sleep in.
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? Buying an ornament every year for Christmas.
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his? I'm pretty sure he doesn't know mine. I know his, but every once in awhile I mix up the last 4 digits.
Is this your first marriage? yes
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises? not really
What do you have lovers spats about the most? finances (mostly how i have huge college loans that are getting in the way of buying a house..etc
Did you live together before you got married? no
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws? they are great people, but can be needy
How does he feel about his inlaws? he gets along with them but thinks the extended family is crazy (i agree haha)
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? opposites attract
What is something you have in common? he loves cars and i do too. we are both down to earth people that would rather sit home and watch a movie on the weekend then go out and party
Do you agree on pizza toppings? no he likes meat toppings and I like veggie toppings- we agree on the cheese part!
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? trash-who ever is the last person home on tuesday night. NO dishwasher
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) he does
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? Yes, Christmas Eve is my family, Christmas Day is his family, all the other holidays we will share or rotate
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his? no
Is this your first marriage? yep
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises? Not really- we've had such a crazy year! Some little things were surprising... like if I were to do the dishes & clean up after dinner, I would clean the counters and clean out the sink. He just does the dishes.
What do you have lovers spats about the most? Me having some credit card debt & student loan debt has bothered him more than I thought it was (esp. since we both have good, stable jobs and I am able to actively pay things off for the first time ever).
Did you live together before you got married? Nope. We spent weekends/weeks together, but we lived two states from each other for our entire engagement (lived in the same city when we met, I moved, broke up, got back together, got engaged 6 weeks later).
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws? They are great- my MIL was so happy to finally have daughters (BIL got married a year before us).
How does he feel about his inlaws? I think the sheer number of us scares him at times, but he likes everyone. All my nieces & nephews love him! And he is totally protective of the youngest one (she is flying for the first time today, and he looked up which security lines they should try to steer her towards to avoid the backscatter machines & the pat-downs!
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? We like a ton of the same things, and are both generally laid back... but... he is a total type A personality and I am not. He's a completely typical oldest child, and I am the youngest. He wants everything done yesterday, I am more of a "what's the rush? it's sunny today!" kind of person.
What is something you have in common? Music. We both enjoy live music. Travel. We both enjoy traveling.
Do you agree on pizza toppings? I am way more picky than he is! He loves sausage, but I am allergic to pork. Most other toppings we agree on.
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? Either of us & him! I cook!
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) Generally me. Mostly b/c I keep him up b/c I snore- so I get a full 7-8 hours, and he plays catch up by sleeping in.
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? Not really for major holidays- I was trying to get through all the holidays this year without crying all day (first of everything w/out my dad) & trying to keep it together for my mom. We traveled so much, too. We do plan to have a St. Patrick's Day party every year, though!
Does he actually know your Social Security number? I am sure he does. Do you know his? No idea whatsoever! Heck, I just learned his cell phone number by heart this year, even though I've known him for 4.5 years
Is this your first marriage? yes
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises? No
What do you have lovers spats about the most? We rarely argue and when we do it is usually because one is grumpy and not being rational.
Did you live together before you got married?yes
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws? They are great, but they are also local and my parents are not. There are times I feel like we spend too much time with them, but we usually have a good time.
How does he feel about his inlaws? He gets along really well with my dad. Unfortunately, my mom has become a different person over the past 10 years and is hard to be around period. We both
my extended family.
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? We have the same values, but our interests are very different. I'd rather spend an afternoon on a horse or at a spa, and he'd rather play video games.
What is something you have in common? Our last name
Do you agree on pizza toppings? He likes just about any and all food. Thankfully he puts up with me being picky and I get to choose pizza toppings or we go 1/2 and 1/2.
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? He actually does both most of the time. He likes to do things first thing in the morning, while I have to rush out of the door to be at work at specific time.
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) I do
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions?
Our goal is to travel or at least spend one night away for every anniversary.
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his?
He knows mine. I only know his last 4 digits.
Is this your first marriage? Yes
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises? We are messier than i thought we would be haha
What do you have lovers spats about the most? cleaning hahaha and family issues (not us, extended families)
Did you live together before you got married? Yes
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws? i love them, but sometimes they bug me! then again, sometimes my husband bugs me but i love him anyways!
How does he feel about his inlaws? he loves my family, but they bug him sometimes too!
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? a little bit of both
What is something you have in common? cars, cooking
Do you agree on pizza toppings? most of the time! its the pizza crust that we dont agree on. mine's gf, though not by choice :P
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? he mostly takes out the trash, i empty the dishwasher. we both fill it, i do most of the dishes by hand that cant go in...or leave them in the sink for days and days until he does them (not on purpose, just becaues of schedule!)
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) me
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? leaving early? haha just kidding. switching off holidays so we don't get too stressed out, i guess would be the only tradition. we did put up a christmas tree this year, which was nice
it was fun to decorate it until my kitten climbed it all the time and knocked all hte ornaments off. but i think next year he'll be too fat to get up there.
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his? i doubt he knows mine. i know his but i always have to double check to make sure im not getting it wrong
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I am a gluten-free, gun-toting wife! :P
I love you, Daddy...2/24/1953 to 2/13/2011
Is this your first marriage? Yes
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises? Not really different, but it was a big event that when combined with a brand new mortgage and me losing my job did cause stress.
What do you have lovers spats about the most? Finances. I still don't have a full time job, and I have huge student loan payments. He has some student loans, but not as much as I do. He is also more of a spender than I am.
Did you live together before you got married? Technically no, though I pretty much lived at his apartment our junior and senior year. But I had my own apartment because my family would have not let me sign a lease with him.
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws?Their nice, but really boring. They went to bed on our vacation last week between 8 and 8:30 (which was really 7:30 in our regular time zone) so we had to be really quiet while us and his BIL/BIL's gf were drinking.
How does he feel about his inlaws? He likes my family, but doesn't understand why our extended family gets together so often. His family has no contact with his mom's extended family, and his dad's side is small and they only get together once a year if that.
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? 2 peas in a pod for the most part. He even looks like my siblings and I (we all have brown hair and glasses)
What is something you have in common? We both prefer staying in and chilling at home instead of going out and partying.
Do you agree on pizza toppings? We usually get two- plain cheese or hawaiin for me, and something with sausage and mushrooms for him.
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? He takes out all the trash and mows the lawn. Who ever is home empties the dishwasher.
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) When he's not getting up for work he is still up earlier than I am.
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? We get our own ornament together every year. The tree last year had 25 ornaments with his name on it- so slowly we'll get ornaments that the two of us have picked out and without names sharpied on it.
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his? Nope.
I figured since it's our month again, and we've all been married for a year (or almost) that a survey about our married lives might be fun!!
Is this your first marriage? Yes
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises? I really didn't think it'd be that different since we lived together before the wedding, but it kind of was! I just like being able to call him my husband!
What do you have lovers spats about the most? In-laws and money.
Did you live together before you got married? yes.
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws? Well I LOVE BIL and his new wife, FIL is great, MIL and I just have personalities that clash I think. Also, FIL and MIL together are a pretty dysfunctional combination...all he does is whatever she wants, which is really not helping her get over some physical and mental problems she has...but that's another story.
How does he feel about his inlaws? He loves them. And I can tell he's not lying because he text's and e-mails my mom all the time. She loves him to pieces because she only had daughters.
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? 2 peas in a pod. We agree on most things.
What is something you have in common? We went to the same undergraduate university, both love classic rock, and like to cook.
Do you agree on pizza toppings? I like cheese, and he usually likes a little more.
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? He does the trash, he usually starts the dishwasher and I feel bad and finish.
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) He does.
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? On Christmas now, we exchange gifts like normal, but also have an "extra" gift for each other: we exchange books each Christmas eve to build our library!
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his? Nope. I can barely remember mine.
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Is this your first marriage? Yes
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises? Nope, it was pretty much as we expected. I still love referring to him as my husband :-)
What do you have lovers spats about the most? Whether to buy a house or a condo and where to live.
Did you live together before you got married? Yes
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws? I'm lucky - my in-laws are great
How does he feel about his inlaws? He loves them, but he doesn't really understand how close my extended family is and why I love being with them for long periods of time. He is sick of his family after about 3 hours and is itching to go home, but I could spend and entire day with my family and still be sad to leave.
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? 2 peas in a pod, but he has way more hobbies than I do.
What is something you have in common? First and foremost, our education and career (exactly the same, except we have different employers). We also love to travel, explore our neighborhood when the weather is nice, and go on long bike rides. Neither of us is very social by nature - we almost always would rather spend time just the two of us than with a group.
Do you agree on pizza toppings? I'm super picky and have allergies, so I just like cheese. He will eat anything. We usually get 1/2 cheese and 1/2 whatever he is feeling that day.
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? He does the trash and I usually do the dishwasher, but sometimes he'll do it. I never take out the trash - our alley freaks me out so I avoid it at all costs.
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) He does.
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? We have been setting traditions over the last several years since we were already living together. Nothing too exciting, it's more of which side of the family we spend holidays with.
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his? Nope. I don't think I've ever had to get it from him.
Is this your first marriage? Yes
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises? It's pretty much what I expected, but I like feeling more like a "family" than when we were just dating.
What do you have lovers spats about the most? Cleaning the apartment.
Did you live together before you got married? Yes, for 2 years.
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws? They are very nice people, and I definitely care about them, but we have MANY fundamental differences. I prefer to see them in small doses, and I avoid staying at their house because they never clean it.
How does he feel about his inlaws? He fits in with my family much better than he fits in with his. They get along well, and I think he likes them.
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? Probably more opposite.
What is something you have in common? Usually when we go out to eat, we both want to order the same thing! We have to consult each other before ordering and then we usually share.
Do you agree on pizza toppings? I'm a plain pizza girl, and he likes more toppings.
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? He does the trash, but usually I have to tell him to do it. We both do the dishwasher.
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) He does.
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? Nope. We spent Christmas apart, which I hope will NOT be a tradition!
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his? I know his. I've told him mine, but I don't think he has it memorized.
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
Is this your first marriage? yes
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises? not really, we lived together for a year before we were married so it seemed like we already were haha
What do you have lovers spats about the most? its mostly me and my stubborness haha
Did you live together before you got married? yes
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws? i like them, but dont seem them much
How does he feel about his inlaws? depends on the day hahah
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? neither really
What is something you have in common? sports
Do you agree on pizza toppings? no
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? me to both!!!
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) usually him but only like 1/2 hour earlier but now we have the baby it's me
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? since his family doesnt live around here we usually just go hang with my family
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his? nope
Is this your first marriage?
Yes.
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises?
It really isn't any different. I thought since we'd been together so long and our situation didn't change at all, there wouldn't be any difference, but I definitely feel more unified.
What do you have lovers spats about the most?
H's attitude. He gets tired or when something bothers him, he gets into a bad mood and it gets me into one.
Did you live together before you got married?
Yes, for about 2 years
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws?
MIL is good. She has some things going on that makes her life difficult, and she can be a difficult person to deal with, but otherwise she is a good person. She doesn't hide her feelings though, and has opinions on everything, which gets annoying. I hardly know FIL, as he lives out of state and we've only seen him three times since H and I started dating.
How does he feel about his inlaws?
He and my dad are best friends. And my mom died four years ago, but he can always make me laugh by mimicking her reaction to meeting him (she just had this goofy face and said "hhiii".) He liked her.
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple?
We have almost the exact same morals, goals, etc, but our personalities are completely different. He doesn't care for going to family gatherings, cookouts, etc (unless it's mostly his friends) and I like to be out. We also have different interests, but we also like our space so it works out great.
What is something you have in common?
Our care and passion for animals.
Do you agree on pizza toppings?
Sort of. H will eat anything, I am picky. So he usually eats pretty plain.
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher?
We both do. Sometimes it takes me to ask or start doing something myself, but if there is something that makes him notice that cleaning needs to be done, he does a great job.
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work)
Usually he does- he wakes up at 3AM for work so sleeping in is still earlier than the time I get up on any day.
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions?
Not really. But he will help me bake or take care of whatever I need to do. We also always go shopping together at Christmas.
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his?
Nope!
Hope you all don't mind me jumping back in on this board.
Is this your first marriage? This is my first and his second
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises?No real surprises. I knew I'd have to jump right in to being a stepmom as well as a wife, so that took some adjusting. Nothing unexpected though.
What do you have lovers spats about the most?cleaning the house and disciplining the boys
Did you live together before you got married?No, DH had full custody of the boys and we didn't want to move them in the middle of a school year.
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws?I married a momma's boy. His mother is nice, but very needy.
How does he feel about his inlaws? He loves my mom.
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? A mixture of it all
What is something you have in common? We both love the Red Sox
Do you agree on pizza toppings? For the most part
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? The kids! Hehe, one benefit to having them live with us....they are old enough to do chores!
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) He does. I am NOT a morning person
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? We are trying. Its hard with alternating holidays with the boys and their mother.
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his? Nope. I constantly have to email or text him for his.
Stepmom to: Lizzie (4); Justin (10); and Cameron (13)
Mom to 3 angels: Baby 1 MC 2/13/09 @ 7 wks; Baby 2 CP 11/5/10 @ 5 wks;
and Brendan - Late Loss 4/27/11 @ 20 wks
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Is this your first marriage? yep
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises? it's unicorns and rainbows and everything is so perfect.. lalalala. LOL no
What do you have lovers spats about the most? me not being able to talk about how i feel all the time
Did you live together before you got married? yes we did
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws? They aren't that bad. i get irritated with his mom always trying to give advice.
How does he feel about his inlaws? he thinks they are crazy, which they are
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? two peas in a pod
What is something you have in common? we love movies, a lot of the same values, beliefs and we like to drink lol.
Do you agree on pizza toppings? sometimes he gets a supreme pizza which I don't like
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? majority of the time it's me for both
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) he does at 5:30am
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? none that I can think of.
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his? i know half of his, he doesn't know mine.
Is this your first marriage? Yes.
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises? How much I still have to do on my own instead of with someone. Accepting that I will most likely never be as neat/organized/on time as he wants me to be, and that he will most likely never be as social/motivated/demonstrative as I want him to be.
What do you have lovers spats about the most? DH just flat out refusing to do something I want him to do and refusing to even discuss it.
Did you live together before you got married? No.
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws? I adore my FIL and StepMIL and feel very comfortable with them. My MIL is okay - much better now that she's gotten over hating me for taking her 45 y.o. boy away. My StepFIL is cool.
How does he feel about his inlaws? I think he likes them, my father especially.
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? Opposites attract.
What is something you have in common? Watching tv and movies.
Do you agree on pizza toppings? We prefer different toppings on regular pizza, but usually agree on specialty pizza.
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? He takes out the trash if I collect it (since he refuses to change the bags in the small trash cans for some reason - just wants to dump them out). I usually empty the dishwasher, but he does it occasionally. He almost never loads it, though.
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) Usually me.
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? Hmm, does him being a pain in my neck count? He hates holidays, and I love them so it's difficult to create traditions.
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his? He has no clue what mine is. I don't know his off the top of my head, but at least I know where to find it!
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises?No surprises really. But sometimes sharing is hard!
What do you have lovers spats about the most?lately, not much (I don't want to jinx things), before sex sometimes and chores
Did you live together before you got married?No
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws?I got lucky. I really like my in-laws. It is a family joke that they like me more than DH
How does he feel about his inlaws? He likes them, but is not especially close to them.
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? A combination
What is something you have in common? enjoying movies, being outdoors
Do you agree on pizza toppings? we agree that I get what I want on half, and he gets what he wants on half
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? We both do, just depends on what we are doing
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) Me
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? Having both of our families over to our place. We had everyone here for Christmas Eve, Mother's Day, and Father's Day.
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Yes, he is good with numbers. Do you know his? No.
Is this your first marriage? Yes
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises? I thought we would make dinner tog more but the way we do it is cheaper and easier for now. Once we have a family we'll def be cookig more!
What do you have lovers spats about the most? I guess money, we're just trying to save and save and there's no room to go to the craft store anymore boo haha
Did you live together before you got married? Yes for 2 years
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws? I like them, it's just very different when we're there because their family is so small and they all sit at one table the whole time...my family is so large if you are bored in one room you go find another group to talk too.
How does he feel about his inlaws? I think he likes them.
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? I think we are both. He is so organized and indepedant and I am a slob at times but we're both very much the same in a lot of ways too. We have a lot of the same morals and views.
What is something you have in common? We are both really hard workers. Both our father's rarely took days off our whole lives and they passed their work ethic down to us.
Do you agree on pizza toppings? Well we get a bacon pizza and I get pinapple on half so I guess thats a compromise haha
Who takes out the trash? Him
Who empties the dishwasher? We both do, but he does more dishes than I do
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) I do, I'm so over sleeping in, you waste the day! He's a night owl so he sleeps in.
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? We are going to get each other an ornament every year for x mas. I'm sure we'll create more when we have kids!
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his? No how often do you need to know your husbands? I can just ask for his card.
What fun!
Is this your first marriage? Yes
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises? Not really. We lived together for 18 months prior to our wedding for financial reasons (I was teaching and didn't make enough to live in insanely expensive NoVA and pay bills...). I guess the (pleasant) surprise is how much better it is than what people tell you it is. I still get excited when he gets home from work, I hate to be away from him and he still manages to find ways to make me laugh...
What do you have lovers spats about the most? We don't really fight. I know it sounds nuts, but we hold a lot of the same major values and both think things out before discussing them. We are both (typically) very calm and level-headed people who can have differing points of view and just be like "enh, whatevs". I mean, we sometimes accidentally annoy one another, but we tend to go out of the way to NOT do those things b/c we both hate fighting. I know, we're so sappy.
Did you live together before you got married? yes, read above...financial reasons. Otherwise my dad NEVER would have been okay with it...plus we were engaged before he moved in
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws? Usually okay, they're real nice but they are a little cranky sometimes and can make me nuts b/c MIL is going through empty nest with DH leaving (still....SIL lives at home still) and SIL is sometimes spoiled and can be very un-flexible....she'll be fun when baby is here and won't conform to her schedule....LOL. But overall, they are good nice people who are nice to me.
How does he feel about his inlaws? He likes my parents, but has trouble with my younger brother (I do too, bro #1 is a bit entitled and self-centered) but loves my youngest siblings (sister & bro #2)
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? both! it depends on what you are talking about. Probably more of a 2 peas in terms of interests and values, but opposties in terms of our family dynamics and where we were raised.
What is something you have in common? love of music - it's how we met
Do you agree on pizza toppings? sometimes
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? him (i am sensitive to smell, even moreso now) and I usually do the dishwasher, but I am in need of more help with reaching the bottom rack as I get bigger...
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) me, I just can't sleep like him....Once I hit my 8 or 9 hours, I'm awake. If I'm behind on sleep I have to make it up in naps, he can sleep for 12 hours if he was tired and no one woke him up, haha!
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? yep! annual trip to colonial williamsburg to see the christmas lights, reading a Christmas Carol during christmas season, and having lamb on easter instead of ham (i dont like ham, and we could never even make a small one and finish all the leftovers...)
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his? No, I am getting better at his since I changed health insurance 3 times in the last year (once for being married, once when our plan changed, again when his co got bought out and they took away our "mid-level" plan within the same insurance co.)
How does he feel about his in-laws? He loves my dad and they were close and great friends before we ever started dating. I am a complete daddy's girl, so I love the close relationship they share. He likes my mom, but I know she can get on his nerves at times. She gets on mine too, that's just how she is. Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites attract" couple? A little of both What is something you have in common? Our friends. We have a great group of mutual friends that we love dearly, and spend a lot of time with.
Do you agree on pizza toppings? we agree that I get what I want on half, and he gets what he wants on half
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? The trash is mainly his job, the dishwasher is mine. Although, if the other notices it needs to be done we go ahead an do it.
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) I am always the first one up. I am a morning person, and am always up early. Him...not so much. Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? Not really. Our parents did share some holidays (before we would split our time between the two. Now his parents would go to mine, or mine to theirs). Once we start our own family, I want to start some traditions of our own. Does he actually know your Social Security number? No Do you know his? No. Neither of us is good at remembering numbers. We always have to ask.
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises? Not really. We were living together nearly a year before getting married so not much seemed to change. I really love being able to call him "Hubby" though!
What do you have lovers spats about the most? Probably our messy house! We are both clutter bugs so our poor house gets neglected sometimes. We both seem to get frustrated about it at different times which usually ends up in little squabbles.
Did you live together before you got married? Yup
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws? I have a wonderful FIL, great SIL, and love FIL's fiancee. Unfortunately, I never was able to meet my MIL due to her passing away before I met DH.
How does he feel about his inlaws? They are family to him. He even calls my parents mom and dad. I love it!
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? A little bit of both, I think. We like to do a lot of the same things but also have some big personality differences. For example, he is an outgoing and social person while I tend to keep more to myself.
What is something you have in common? We both like to play board games, go on hikes, travel, etc. Family is very important to us both and we are also both very easygoing people.
Do you agree on pizza toppings? Kind of. He prefers plain cheese and I'm fine with that most of the time but my two favorite toppings are probably among his least favorite: Mushroom and Hawaiian
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? We both do but he probably does the trash more and I the dishes
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) Me. I find it hard to sleep in anymore. I am usually awake by 7 even on days that I don't have to be.
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? We made a Christmas ornament together and plan on doing that every year now. Also every year I've known him we decorated Easter eggs with our nieces.
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his? Ha! Just yesterday I was on the phone activating a new credit card and they asked for my husbands ss#. I was like, "Hold on... HONEY!! WHAT IS THE LAST FOUR DIGITS OF YOUR SOC?" I probably should try to remember it.
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Is this your first marriage? my first, his second
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises? the fights/tifs over little things, the way he doesn't just "pick" up on stuff (things around the house, my thoughts and feelings,) the differences in opinions we have on more items than I thought
What do you have lovers spats about the most? what to do i.e. go out, etc., cleaning/house work,
Did you live together before you got married? yep for 6 mos. we were engaged when we moved in together
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws? I like them. MIL is great, his siblings are hard to read sometimes
How does he feel about his inlaws? He adores my mom...he is not always as keen on my brother, lol
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? opposites attract
What is something you have in common? We love sports, mostly Cardinals baseball, like to be active (although have done it less lately,) like to read
Do you agree on pizza toppings? usually
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? He does the trash if he remembers, I seem to do the dishwasher most but he does do it sometimes
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) He usually does, but today I did.
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? He cooks for me on VDay and has since our first, we get ornaments for our Xmas tree
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his? Nope. I text him for his and I doubt he knows mine.
Wow, I know it's been awhile since I've posted-I've been so busy with the baby, I hardly have time to think!!
Is this your first marriage? yes
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises? Not really, we had been together so long and were already living together for 2 years, so it really only felt like I changed my name.
What do you have lovers spats about the most? It was money, but now it's usually stupid stuff because we're both so tired and stressed being new parents (baby has colic and it hasn't been easy).
Did you live together before you got married? yes
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws? They drive me crazy! And really, it's more my problem than theirs but DH is an only child and their whole world revolves around him. They haven't learned to cut the cord! It's tough with the baby too, because they want to visit all the time.
How does he feel about his inlaws? I don't think he has as many issues with my parents, mostly because they are less "in our faces" than his.
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? Definitely opposites attract-we are very different in many ways, although similar in all the ways that count.
What is something you have in common? We both love hockey (although I never followed it before we were together). Go Flyers!!
Do you agree on pizza toppings? No! We usually have to split the toppings, he loves black olives on pizza-yuck!
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? He does the trash, I do the dishwasher.
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) Both-right now, on his weeks off, we take turns with the baby so we can both get some sleep.
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? We bought each other ornaments at Christmas.
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his? He doesn't know mine but I know his-mostly because I needed it to set up some of our bills, which is my job to pay.
p.s. I miss you girls and your positivity! It's been rough these past two months and I wish I had more time to get on and post!
Is this your first marriage? yes
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises? Not really pretty much the same as before
What do you have lovers spats about the most? Our messy house and how neither of us help the other one. Apparently DH seems to think that yard work counts as helping even though he makes up stupid projects to get him outside. lol
Did you live together before you got married? yes - 2 years
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws? Honestly they are a bunch of stuck up high society wanna bes. They act like they have sooo much money and live in a richer side of town but forget that they grew up on my side of town which is all middle class. But I am stuck with them so I make the best of it. On the flip side I love my new neices and nephews
How does he feel about his inlaws? he gets a long great with my parents and I think he genuinely likes them. My brother and sister tend to get on his nerves.
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? two peas in a pod
What is something you have in common? we love cars and dogs
Do you agree on pizza toppings? Nope I am plain jane and he is the more the better - so we usually get a half and half pizza
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? Trash - DH / dishwasher - me
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) usually me - but I would rather lay in bed for awhile and watch TV DH as soon as he wakes up he wants to get out of bed.
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? Well we started a halloween party that we thought was going to be a tradition but the baby is due just a few weeks before Halloween so I am not sure that we are going to have this big blow out party this year
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his? Nope and Nope - those are the one things we haven't really had to memorize just yet. Funny though my parents don't know each others either and they have been married 30 years now.
Is this your first marriage? Yes
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises? Not really
What do you have lovers spats about the most? DH picking up his dirty clothes and who's cooking supper
Did you live together before you got married? Yes
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws? I love my in laws, they are super supportive and love having a daughter in law
How does he feel about his inlaws? DH loves my family
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple? 2 peas in a pod
What is something you have in common? Being adventurous and spontaneous
Do you agree on pizza toppings? Most of the time
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher? DH takes out the trash and I empty the dishwasher
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work) DH is usually up first
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions? At Christmas we buy a new ornament for our christmas tree
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his? No
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Is this your first marriage
Yes, and preferably my only marriage!
Anything about marriage completely different from how you thought it would be? Any surprises?
Not really. We've been together since I was sixteen (I'm almost 25 now), and we lived together for several years as well. I've known him inside and out since then, so I've pretty much had no surprises. Though lately he has been taking to surprising me with an impromptu dance on our screened in back porch.
What do you have lovers spats about the most?
Money mostly, or anything pertaining to our daughter's discipline, education, etc. Sometimes we don't see eye to eye on those things.
Did you live together before you got married?
Yes, and it was maybe three or four years? Possibly more, but I can barely remember those times.
Be honest - how do you feel about your in laws?
They are dramatic, naive, and needy. However, sometimes they come through for us. Half the time I can barely stand to be around them.
How does he feel about his inlaws?
Mostly he is okay with them, except for the times when my mother barges into our house without notice. Or if she comes in and tells us to help her with something instead of asking us first. He finds no issue with my dad -- probably because the two are so similar.
Are you "2 peas in a pod" or more a "opposites atract" couple?
A balance of both, I think. We mostly would fit into the former, but at times we can be the complete opposite of one another.
What is something you have in common?
We both don't fit into the general cookie-cutter country bumpkin, we're a bit geeky, and we have some pretty nontraditional parenting styles.
Do you agree on pizza toppings?
Whatever he wants, seeing as I don't eat pizza (unless its BBQ chicken pizza, and then we're good).
Who takes out the trash? Who empties the dishwasher?
Trey takes out the trash, and I clean the dishes (we don't have a dishwasher). However, sometimes we switch it up.
Who wakes up first in the morning? (On days you don't both have to be up for work)
Me! Someone has to wake up with our daughter, and it's always me. Trey works so when he has his days off I let him sleep in.
Now that we've been through every holiday - did you create any traditions?
Yes! I'm not a big fan of Christmas, especially when it comes to hitting each and every Christmas family get together. The in-laws tend to think Christmas Eve/Day is their day for Christmas get togethers, and I don't agree -- I think its for our family alone, so last year I refused for us to go anywhere on Christmas Eve and then that morning was ours and ours alone. That night we went to my parents and opened up the gifts from them, but Christmas Eve/Day (morning, anyway) is ours.
Does he actually know your Social Security number? Do you know his?
I'm trying to remember his, but I have enough on my mind as it is. I hardly doubt he'll ever remember mine!