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Kathryn & other moms re: potty training
Paige had been scared of the potty at home for the past 2 months, but would go at school on the smaller kid potties. Well, I finally got her to go on the potty at home again on Tuesday (who said aiming for cheerios was just for boys, lol). Anyways, my questions:
She had a few wet diapers at school yesterday, but was dry all evening & last night and so far this morning. IF and when did you start pull ups? When did you go to underwear? Was he/she dry all day for a few days before you made the swtich to pull ups/underwear? Enlighten me b/c i'm clueless... I don't want pee all over my couch (though she is at school most days), lol.
Re: Kathryn & other moms re: potty training
We only used pull-ups a handful of times - going out in public those first few times when potty training was still very new. And at nap/bedtime for awhile, of course. But otherwise I wanted her in underwear so that she could truly feel it. Pull-ups are, IMO, too absorbent to be terribly effective in teaching them the difference. I hate the damn things. But if you're truly potty-training and going gung-ho for it, she shouldn't be in diapers at all, I don't think.
I potty trained DD during the blizzards of 09-10. We were home for a week and I just spent that week sitting her bare butt onto the potty chair, which was in the living room for ease. We also had a chair in her bedroom so that we could put her on it before bed, as soon as she woke up, and, when she got the hang of getting up at night, for those middle-of-the-night trips. We eventually moved it to her bathroom then got rid of it altogether, but having it conveniently located helped a great deal.
You're going to have clean up to do. It's inevitable and unavoidable. You have to stay on top of her, put her on the potty a LOT in the beginning, and reward heartily, of course. DD got M&Ms, her favorite candy, and it was a huge motivator for her. I stopped giving them to her Just Because so that they were even more special as the bathroom treats.
I carried a plastic bag, an extra pair of panties and pants (shorts for warm weather) and wipes in my purse for awhile, since we did have the occasional accident at Target. She'd feel herself starting to go, stop it, we'd rush to the bathroom and have to change her underwear. I also rode around with a potty chair in my car for awhile. We spend a lot of time in the car on the weekends and having a potty in the trunk saved our butts more than once when she had to go and there was nowhere to stop.
Ditto most of what FIA said-- IMO pull-ups are the same as diapers- they feel more like diapers than they do like underwear. If you want her to be wearing something you should look into cloth training pants, or the rubber training pants that go over regular underwear. There are some training pants that have a waterproof outer, but the inside is cotton fabric like underwear. These help contain any accidents.
If she is afraid of the big potty, I wouldn't force her to use the big potty, but rather get some little potty chairs. If you are close to an Ikea they have $4 ones there- we bought 4 of them- one for each bathroom, one for her bedroom and one for where ever else was needed, car, etc. I found that having multiple little potties made it easier for DD to be successful on her own, have a sense of accomplishment, etc. and she got the hang of it pretty quickly!
DD learned how to use the potty last summer- I pretty much let her run around in short dresses w/ nothing underneath.
miscarriage on 11/26/09 at 5w6d
Why am I so chicken just to do this... working full time doesn't help though I know school is pretty awesome with PTing. Sighh....
I wish we had an Ikea... $4 is great!
If her school can do it, you can do it. Helping multiple kids learn how to use the potty is no picnic.
Although this is purely anecdotal, I have some mommy friends who feel diapers are "easier" than potty-training before the age of 3 and all of them have ended up having a tougher time - one of them actually admitted on FB today that she fears she "missed the window" w/ her older son. I don't think that you should force Pt'ing but I do think that there is an age where they are interested & unafraid and you need to take advantage.
Yeah I think this is my 2nd window of opportunity so I need to run with it... we were doing really well back in March and then we moved and she got sick in the hospital and it's been all down hill.... Alright, i'm going to see how "dry" she stays at school today and hope for the best. Guess mommy needs to put her big girl panties on and get this ride started.
ITA
I'm rushing today, but I wanted to respond to you.
We've been using pull ups for awhile - like maybe a 3-4 months? I think they are kinda silly, but its a little bit of peer pressure from daycare to do pull ups as they encourage all the kids to use the potty several times a day and it is easier for them to manage the pull up themselves. So. .. it does encourage some independence, but it is basically a diaper they can put on themselves. In the last few weeks, Ella was staying mostly dry at school and she was using the potty regularly, but not asking to use the potty very often (except poop). I tried to switch her to underwear in the Fall and it was a huge failure - she had 3 accidents the first day adn really couldn't have cared less.
Last weekend, I just laid out some Dora and Minnie Mouse underpants and a pull up and asked her which one she wanted to wear and she picked Dora. I reminded her she had to tell me when she needed to use the potty, etc. and I reminded her about every hour and we went about our day (going to the playground, grocery store, etc.) she had one accident and was upset about it (which I took as a great sign!). I just changed her and reminded her to tell me next time, which she did - 20 minutes later! Next day, one accident also, but mostly my fault b/c I was in line @ Target abnd didn't move quickly enough. I sent her to school in underwear the next day and its been 2 weeks now. She had one accident at school and then none until yesterday when she had 2!
I bring in 2 extra pairs of underwear and shorts and tell them to put her back in a pull up if she has more than 2 accidents.
I am still putting her in a pull up for naps and bed and anytime there's any sort of uncertainty about what we're doing/how long. But, even then, she normally stays dry.
Thank K!!!
And I don't think i'm forcing or rushing anything. She has been sitting on the potty at school since 18 months and actually going on the potty probaby since January. She still has wet diapers and and dry diapers and has even woken up from nap/night dry a few times. Its just for the past 3 months shes been scared of the big potty at home. And now that we are over the fear (I hope) I want to move forward with it.