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WWYD - Re: Wedding Invite
This is kind of a silly question and situation ...
I lost touch with my 8th grade "BFF" when I went to a different high school. I haven't seen her in person in about 12 years. We spoke on Facebook a few years ago, but that's it.
When I got engaged she messaged me (on FB) congrats and would say she's so excited for the wedding, she "better be invited", etc. Well, I didn't invite her. I just don't know her or talk to her anymore and we had a hard enough time cutting down the guest list. Anyway, she commented on pictures of the wedding saying they were pretty, etc even though she's "still mad I didn't invite her."
That was 2 years ago. I just got a message on FB asking me for my address so she can invite me to her April wedding. I feel like if I send it to her it's like saying, sorry I didn't invite you to my wedding, but feel free to invite me to yours! I also don't want to just ignore her ... I'm not sure what I should do here.
Collin Thayne 10.11.2010
Re: WWYD - Re: Wedding Invite
I'd send it. She's asking for yours knowing full well that you didn't invite her to yours, so that's her choice.
I suppose her motivation might be to make you feel bad for not inviting her to yours, or she might just genuinely want you there. Either way, I'd send it. You definitely don't have to go to the wedding, but I think a response is appropriate.
Ditto. What a sticky situation though. I don't envy you! She's sounds pretty manipulative!
I think this is assuming a lot. I was fortunate to not have to cut people from my wedding list & I invited several people who hadn't invited me to their wedding. There was no ill intent or manipulation behind it.
HP: did you nag them in comments on their wedding pictures saying, "I'm still mad I didn't get invited!"?
- Paula Deen to 104.1 KRBE's Producer Eric 9/17/2011
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Maybe she was just joking and actually holds no hard feelings for not getting an invite?
That's what I was thinking.
to me that sounds like a passive aggresive comment, she could always back out of it saying she was just joking.
I wasn't sure how to take her comments back then because, like I said, I just don't know her anymore. It's not like we grew up together or anything. We were great friends for a year in school but then went to different schools and went our separate ways.
I did feel bad not inviting her because multiple times she said she better be invited, and where's her invitation, etc. I finally just had to say that I was really sorry but due to our limited budget that most of our invitations were sent to family and close friends.
I think I'll send the address and then just send a gift and wish her well. I don't have any hard feelings or anything, I'm just not friends with her so why she would even want to come to my wedding or want to invite me to hers I have no clue!
Collin Thayne 10.11.2010
Ditto this to a T.
Oh, I know it probably wasn't a manipulative situation! That's why I said she *could* be doing it for that reason (because, let's face it, there are plenty of people out there who WOULD do that), but that she also could just genuinely want her friend there. I wasn't trying to imply that the manipulation scenario was more likely than really wanting ayers there; I was more saying that we have no idea what her intent is since she obviously is a little bit hurt/bitter/whatever about not being invited to ayers' wedding (commenting on her wedding photos, etc).
I'm sure her intent probably is totally genuine, though (seriously, not being sarcastic).
Send it to her. She probably just wants to see you. Give her the benefit of the doubt.
Maybe she just doesn't have very many friends?