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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Newbie!
I just wanted to say hi and introduce myself!
My name is Sarah and I got married on May 20. My husband and I are both in the Navy, but we are unfortunately stationed across the country from each other. We are hoping to get stationed together once our orders are up, next May. This makes things difficult, but we try to see each other every 3 months or so. I can't wait until we are together all the time!
Are there any other dual-military couples stationed apart? Just curious!
I look forward to getting to know people on here. 
Go Navy!
Re: Newbie!
Well both of our orders are up next May. We just put in paperwork for co-location and there is a slight possibility that they could move us somewhere before that, but what I've heard hasn't been positive. I keep hoping that they will move us before the holidays, so I don't have to spend our first Christmas alone, but I just hope they put us together at all! He has run into quite a bit of opposition on his end. I'm very frustrated with the Navy right now.
As for what we do to help with distance, we try to visit each other every few months, we text ever day, talk on the phone almost every day, and Skype when we can. I'm working nights right now and he's on days, so its difficult right now to get a lot of time to talk. I like to surprise him by sending him stuff in the mail, little things like that. Its hard, I have my bad days, but we are making it work. I'm just hoping it won't have to be for long, but needs of the Navy. Ugh...
Thank you!! That means a lot.
We are both enlisted. My husband is a Master-at-Arms, as am I. It does come with the territory, and we've dealt with the distance for most of our relationship, but now that we're married its a lot harder on me. I see everybody else that gets married and gets to go home and live happily every after, and I just don't have that yet. I know I'll have my day, but I've never been a very patient person!
Welcome! My husband is in the Army but I am not. We however are still doing the long distance thing since there is a deployment in the furture and all of my support system is where I currently live and I do not know a lot of people where he is. I also have a great job and own my house so selling it right now would suck. I am one of the lucky ones since I get to see the H on weekends since we are currently only 2+ hours away.
Here is wishing you luck with the new orders.
Hi! DH and I are both AD AF. Although we've been very fortunate to have the same permanent duty stations for our last three bases, we were separated almost continually for 2008 and 2009 because of deployments.
How long have you been in? Have you and your H ever lived near each other? Try not to be crabby with the Navy. With budget cutbacks all over DoD, PCS funding shrinks dramatically, so time on station requirements tend to be lengthened. Because I have no dependents, I used to be able to move very frequently, but now I'm looking at 4 years minimum at each base. I was only at my first base two years, second base for a year, third base three years. I have a feeling we'll be at my current base at least 6 years, but I think DH would be happy here until he retires.
Hi DH and I are both AD Navy as well, If your spousal co-location is approved which one of you would be moving? have you been at your duty station at least a year? if you haven't already, you should check out the MILPERSMAN 1300-1000 it can give you an idea of what pre-reqs are needed before co-location is approved.
Welcome! My FI is leaving for Navy basic training next month, but I'm not in the military.
My name is Britt and my FI is Allan. We're getting married in December. I'm in the process of getting my degree in culinary arts with emphasis on pastries. We have 3 black cats and they're our babies for a few more years til we decide to have kids.
I hope your husband and you get stationed together!
The Dogs and Us
First of all, I wanted to thank all of your so much for the warm welcome! You've welcomed me with open arms and have been nicer than a lot of the other boards. In fact, they were very rude! You ladies are awesome!
blancanyc69- We both have put in our co-location paperwork. We have had a lot of opposition with this however. The detailers are telling us we don't have enough time left on contract to co-locate, so we're dealing with that and trying to figure out what to do. I'm willing to obliserve the extra 5 months, but it depends on PTS (stupidest thing ever).
I think they are also trying to give us friction because we are first termers. The whole thing is really frustrating. I want to be able to be with my husband and have a family, not spend the first 3 years of our marriage apart, ugh!