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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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I think I am going to tell my bosses today...
I am not 13 weeks yet, but I am showing bigtime. It is mostly bloat, but very rounded and protruding by the end of the day (sometimes in the morning as well). I know they prob just think I am getting fat, but it will be nice to get it out there in the open.....I am just nervous!
ETA: The thing is...the second twin is a blighted ovum...so my body still thinks it is growing TWO. I should miscarry the second one toward the very end of the 1st tri, but until then, my body is treating it as twins. The second sac is almost the same size as the sac with the big baby in it.....so the bloat is insane! I look 16 weeks-ish pregnant. I was noticeably pregnant with Joe at 14 weeks....
Re: I think I am going to tell my bosses today...
Agreed. I'm sure they'll be happy for you.
Good luck in the conversation. Those are always nerve wracking.
I and i just wanted to express my sympathy again at the loss of your second twin as well as what you might be going through emotionally as nature takes its course. I don't know how I'd process the fact that (rough quote) "I should miscarry before the end of the first trimester." That must be hard in a number of different ways so my heart goes out to you.
- Paula Deen to 104.1 KRBE's Producer Eric 9/17/2011
Wow. Thanks so much. It is so hard to describe how all this feels. It has been very difficult on me. Knowing that I lost one is an awful thing, but knowing it is still inside of me and that I just have to wait to pass it is truly awful. Most people get a D&C at this point bc the blighted ovum is so big and keep growing...but that's obviously impossible when there is also a live baby in there. I have had alot of trouble connecting with the live baby inside of me bc of the sadness involved with the other one =(
lots and lots of hugs for you!!
I know telling them is stressful, but like the PP said, I am sure you will feel much better once it is out in the open.
I am so sorry you are in the waiting to miscarry place. That is rough.
big hugs to you, MGR.
ETA - those emotions - the challenge in connecting with the remaining child right now - those seem very normal to me. You have the right to grieve the loss of the one twin and will have lots of time to connect with the remaining little one and refocus on all the joy and excitement of expanding your family with him/her when your grief has passed.
- Paula Deen to 104.1 KRBE's Producer Eric 9/17/2011
I am so sorry, I didn't realize you lost a twin. That must be so hard on you, physically and emotionally, but especially the waiting.
I think I was already in maternity clothes by 8 weeks this time around from the bloat, so I know what you mean. I think you will feel better after you tell work though. Good luck!
I'm so sorry, MGR. Lots of hugs and prayers for you.