After lots of tears & confusion yesterday, DH & I have decided to work on things. He's already agreed to come home tonight.
I don't want to go into too much detail... But I've done shitty things. He's done shitty things. We know what we did, we know why we did it & we're taking the steps to make sure it never happens again. We've agreed that we need to put most of this behind us & just move forward with what we've learned.
That & I think he had a serious Come to Jesus moment with our counselor yesterday. I know I did with myself. I pushed away what was clouding my judgment & felt clarity for the first time in awhile. For the first time, he's acknowledging & legitimizing a major issue I've had that has been the source of the vast majority of our problems. His acknowledgement is by far the biggest step. I thought it was over between us because I honestly thought he was never going to see it. But he does now & that completely changes the ballgame.
Re: So... (DH Update)
I know. Like I said, the big game changer was his recognition of what I'd been trying to explain. That's changed my willingness to put in the work & he is too.
That's awesome that you two are dealing with things in such a mature manner. I hope that it will be exactly what you need, both for each of you personally and as a couple. At least you know that you are both in it wholeheartedly now.
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I just read your announcement on the way home but didn't have time to post, and now I'm glad I didn't
That's really great that he has confronted the major issue and is willing to put some work into it. I hope for both of your sakes that it's what you need.
Either way, I know I haven't been around much, but you know that you can b!tch to me any time. I happily receive b!tchy texts 24-7
How is it that my BABY is going to be 3?
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