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Monster In Law
Me and my mother-in-law always seemed to get along GREAT! The day after my husband proposed she rushed me out to the book store to get my planner and magazines to start the planning. My side of the family is rather on the poor side so I wasn't expecting a big wedding, and she had BIG ideas. I loved the ideas but didn't want to insult my parents, make anyone uncomfortable, or pay a lot for a wedding when we didn't even own a home. I just wanted simple and cute.
Me and my husband decided to do a small destination wedding in the Mountains of TN, only family and very close friends. A lil package deal. I was happy with it and we just wanted it to be special. Well she FLIPPED when she found out her 100+ family plus other 250+ friends weren't going to be able to all attend. She played it pitty like, crying sometimes, making it a big akward deal, other times, calling be a B!#$* in front of my friends jokingly, saying I was being selfish. Never straight forward mean, but made us feel terrible like we were leaving people out of our special day.
Well she offered to pay for most of it along with me, and what my parents put in, and a lil of everyone; and give me the wedding of my dreams, which she did. But still it caused controversy on my side of family. My family felt obligated, and guilty that they couldn't so that for me. Then I didn't know 1/4 of the people at MY wedding. But it was pretty magical!!
We still don't have a house, and me and my mother-in-law are just fine! And my wedding was WONDERFUL, truely a fairytail wedding, I wouldn't change it for the world; but I will always wonder what would have happened if I stood up for us and what we wanted more. I will say when we have kids... It will be my way 
Thought I would share for anyone else that has had the same or similar monster in law issue.
Re: Monster In Law
I have NEVER gotten why anyone thinks it is appropriate to tell people who to invite to a wedding not their own. It is nice that she offered to paid for most of those guests but I would have flipped. I have always been open to extra but I draw the line early and leave only a certain number to be added extra, and you better believe those extras that they want comes out of their pocket, not mine.
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I dont see how she is a monster in law. She manipulated you, you fell for it but you got a "magical wedding" a "fairytale"..and now you are fine with her.
If you think this is a monster in law you need to stick around and read a lot more posts!
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What are you looking for with this post? I don't get it.
You let your MIL take over your wedding. You let her have her way and the results are that you had your dream wedding even though you only knew 25% of the people there and now you get along fine. I imagine that as long as you continue to agree with MIL and let her have her way, there will be no conflict.
I had the same thought. *My* mother is the monster-in-law. I know what they look like, LOL.
You caved.
Stop blaming her for giving you what you wanted.
She may have been overbearing and excited but she convinced you (you agreed) and she paid for it. I dont see the problem.
so the wedding of your dreams wasn't the small destination wedding?
When someone tells you something about herself, you'd be advised to believe it. It's like the guy that says he is not good enough for you.
Do you live with her?
That's good to hear. I couldn't tell by your OP.
My MIL tryied to do the same thing for our wedding. I wanted a wedding with about 100ish people. We ended up coming up with a guest list of 120 people. My MIL didn't like this at all, as the hall could hold up to 200 people, so she didn't understand why we didn't want 200 people there. She offered to pay for the remaining guest, if she could choose them. My H told her no, her response was you havent even heard who I wanted to invite yet. We did not allow her to pay for any of our wedding as this was our wedding which to us ment we could do what we wanted if we paid for it.
This is what we did and I don't regret any of it.
As for you guys having children and such need to set up bounderies ASAP. If you don't your MIL will try and control you. I see this every time I am with my SIL. She tries to act like it doesn't bother her, but I can tell she hates being controled by her mom.