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I HATE my step-mom

I know I'm being a PW, but I need to get this out...

I just got an email from my step-mom.  She starts by saying happy anniversary.  Then she says that they had to put my dog to sleep.  Then she asks about my camera because they need a new one.  Who does that?  She said they put her down Friday, but don't really know what was wrong with her.  Can't you pick up the f*ckin phone and call me?

A little back story.  My dad and step-mom have been married since I was 2 (3 months after he divorced my mom).  I have NEVER liked her.  She has made it her mission to steal him away from me and she succeeded.  When I was a junior in high school my dad got in a really bad car accident where his head was laying on the grill of a semi.  The police later told me that they got the body bag out because they thought he was dead.  My step-mom didn't call me until 5 days later and he was finally home.  I HATE that woman!

That felt good to get out...

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Re: I HATE my step-mom

  • She sounds like a witch. Sorry you have to deal with her evil-ness.
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  • The best advice I ever got in regards to handling DH's ex is "You can't control other people's actions, but you can control your reactions." You have been dealing with hurt feelings for over 20 years and it seems really deep seeded. Have you considered talking to someone professionally about how to not let it build up and stress you out so much? It is really sad that you were put in a position so young where you felt in competition for your father's attention and affection and I'd hope that it stops causing you pain soon.  Maybe talking to someone can give you those tools to work through the pain.
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  • I know how you feel, I too have an evil step-mother, difference is my dad married her when I was 21 after being with her for 6 years and they did it in secret because by then she had already driven my siblings and I off, including kicking both my sister and I out of our childhood home when we were each 18 and never allowing my dad to see my little brother. Yeah, she's a peach. She didn't come to my wedding, and at some point I wondered if my dad would because of her. As much as I dislike her though, I've come to realize that I can't change her or change my dad. He's not going to leave her, he knows who he married and he willingly married her knowing that she drove off his children and that he now has a strained relationship with us, especially my siblings.

    The only thing I can do is change the way I deal with her, so instead of fighting with her and letting her bother me, I just accept that she's a b!tch and move on and try to be as nice and cordial to her as possible, and realize that I can build a relationship with my dad to the best of my ability if I so chose to, and if not, well the power is all mine, because she doesn't control me.
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  • I'm sorry, she sounds horrible. :(
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  • I'm surprisingly really nice to her when I am around her.  I bite my tounge now in hopes that they will want to have a relationship with Parker, because that is the most important thing to me right now.  I have grown accustom to the disappointment I feel everytime my dad says he is going to do something or come by so I don't expect anything anymore.  I would just assume that they would call me to tell me when things happen.  I'm not mad about my dog.  She was 13 and had been on a downhill spiral for a couple years now, I'm just upset at they way they go about things.

    I just hope that they don't treat Parker like they do me.  I am begging my dad to come to his first birthday party.  If he doesn't, I don't know if I am going to try very hard to go see him any time soon.  Relationships are supposed to be give and take, but I give everything for this one and he just takes it all.

    At least I have the best step-dad and MIL and FIL!  That makes up for 75% of my daddy/step-mom issues!

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  • Your step mom sounds awful. I'm glad you have other, more positive parents/parental figures in your life, but I'm still sorry that you have to deal with someone like that. I also really hope your dad goes to Parker's birthday!
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