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I'm back...and need some opinions :)
Hey all! After a beautiful working "vacation" to New Orleans (which was so amazing, neither DH or I wanted to come back home) and a move into our new house (!!) as well as a week of painting/redoing our kitchen/attempting to put things away/realizing it is going to take us months to get the house together...I'm back! Hope everyone had a great 4th and is happy/healthy/enjoying the summer 
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So, my issue is this. MIL is watching LO at our house now that we have moved and are about 5 mins away from them. She originally wanted no $$ from us but finally agreed to let us pay her what is the equivalent of a tank of gas a week since she has to drive to our house. I really wanted to provide her (and FIL, who is currently unemployed and about ready to file for retirement so he will probably be a permanent fixture as well) foods for breakfast and lunch but she insists on just bringing food from home...which I think is crazy!
Any ideas on how I can get her to let us provide for her a little? Especially since she is practically watching him for free (which is $1000+ savings for us each month given the average cost of daycare in our area).
FIL will likely be "working" for us too from time to time since we have lots of little things to do in the house (change out light fixtures, paint, hanging things).
I just want them to feel as welcome as possible in our house and I know money is tight for them so being able to provide 10 of their meals a week would make me feel a lot better about the whole situation. Any suggestions?
Re: I'm back...and need some opinions :)
Maybe them accepting money makes them feel more like employees than welcome family members? If they don't want to accept money as a form of payment, maybe figure out how much you want to pay them and gift it to them on holidays. So, for example, if you want to pay them $1000 and MIL's bday is next month, gift it to her then. The other thing you can do is ask them to run errands and tell them to keep the change on purchases.
IDK, parents seem weird about accepting money.