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It's me again, things got better and worse...

Sorry if I feel like an intruder since I don't post much, but thank y'all for your advice. So I posted "Help!" a few days ago, venting about how I didn't feel comfortable on top. Well we talked about it and that got better, especially after he had a few drinks. lol! However, for whatever reason it hurts. It doesn't always, but sometimes it does. Does anyone else deal with this? Is it the angle, is it me, or him? Or am I doing something wrong? I'll finally be able to go back to the GYN in August and our insurance kicks in, I'll also ask him about it. Thanks again so much!

Re: It's me again, things got better and worse...

  • You may want to ask your gyne about this one. Does it always hurt when you two are having sex? May be an indication of something slightly more serious. If it is a particular position, just don't do that position.
  • Yes, it hurts me when on top because I have a short vaginal canal and he has a very long penis. So, that might be your problem. Try the toy rings that are about 3 inches long...they keep him from going in too far. Or you can do Reverse Cowgirl or lean over him while on top. That helps.
  • Go at your pace, not what you think is "best in the sack".  Does this make sense?

    I find when I'm over thinking things in bed, I tend to tighten, which ends up leading  me to enjoy it to the best of my abilities. 

    Sometimes it could be the angle, and sometimes it could be a medical reason. 

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  • If it hurts, then just don't do it in that position.
    Married 2011.
    Baby Boy 2015.
  • I also don't feel terribly comfortable being on top because I feel like I tire easily, and I don't want him to lose his erection or get frustrated because I can't go fast enough. Sometimes it's better than others, if I'm feeling esp. frisky, but overall, sex on top is not my favorite. We're kind of stuck in a rut, though, because most positions we try hurt me. I have found, though, when on top, if you lean down towards him it does feel better than sitting straight up. Hope that helps, and good luck!
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